Your life is waiting for you.
Most of you will agree that we think too much and it steals away our happiness and makes us more stressed and anxious. We understand this but somehow can’t get out of it. It is so ingrained in us that thinking too much comes naturally to us. Our thinking is not about the present but either the past or the future.
I once went to the nearby garden with my niece. I suddenly heard my niece shouting ‘see there, an aeroplane’. This snapped me out of what I was thinking. I realised that I had reached the park, but I was so engrossed i my thoughts that I did not even notice that I came from my home to the park. I was mentally miles away floating in my thoughts. I realised that while I was somewhere else but my niece was enjoying the present moment in the park, running after the butterfly, enjoying the flowers and sliding down the slide. This is the problem will all of us, we are everywhere except where we should be- the present.
Life is happening now.
As soon as we wake up, the thought machine gets activated. Starting from going to the bathroom, to catching up with the news on TV, getting ready and gulping down the breakfast, we do all these activity as a robot but our mind is seldom present. We don’t savour the taste of the breakfast or see the sunlight coming through the window or the sound of any bird chirping outside. We are too busy for these things. As a machine we will go to our workplace, do our job, and return tired thinking about the coming weekend and what to do. The thing that we are missing in our lives is me. Rest all and sundry are taken care of by us.
The past and the present only exist in our mind, the past has stopped being a reality and the future is yet to be the reality. These two things are devoid of any reality and only exist in our head. So you are basically doing everything except living. The days, weeks, months and years are passing by and the precious present moment is lost due to the lack of our awareness. And then a time comes when we think how quickly time passed and we did not even notice it. We may then feel bad about the lost time but sadly the process is irreversible, so we lament even more. We then decide to enjoy our life fully but again we forget about it after a few days and repeat the mistakes again.
The more we are in the present moment the more we are at peace with us, the more we are calm and happy and alive. It is because the present moment is without any anxiety or fear about the past and the future. So when are living in the present, contentment comes automatically. We don’t have to make any conscious effort for it.
The mind can be at a place at one time. Though we think that so many things are clogging our mind but actually when we are thinking one thing we are not thinking about anything else. We may think many things one after another but never can we think two things simultaneously. We need to be mindful about the present moment. It means all our sensations should be active in taking in the present moment within us.
When we are walking our eyes should see all that is around us, our ears should be listening to the sounds around us, our nose should smell the things around us, and our skin should be feeling the breeze blowing or the sensation of our foot touching the ground, our tongue should be focused on tasting any food or drink you are having. If we are able to control our senses to be in the present then the mind will automatically be in the present. It will not get the opportunity to wander in the past or the present. This is mindfulness. The next stage of it is the meditation where we focus on the breadth. We keep ourselves bound to the present by focusing on the breadth, the feeling of it going in and out- as if it is saying that we have arrived in the right place- the present, our real home.
Taming the over thinking mind
The thoughts that come to our mind is not the problem, the problem is the thought we give to those thoughts. The mind is a super efficient tool when it comes to creating thoughts. It produces thoughts faster than the fastest rocket ever made. These thoughts are like mosquitoes in a tropical country like us, we just cannot get rid of it. But it is something worse; these thoughts are amplified by us by creating branches of those thoughts. Then we get entangled in it so much that become over thinkers. It is like putting petrol on fire. Majority of us are over thinkers. We latch on to a thought and then dissect it so much that at the end we can’t join it together. We cannot put the brakes let alone find the off switch.
All these thoughts heat up the mind and causes anxiety. We keep on running between the past present and the future. We just keep on running but never reach the finishing line. A time comes when we become obsessed with our thoughts. And after that the times comes when we decide that it cannot go on like this and has to change. Then we start to look for answers otherwise we know that this will burn myself from the inside.
In this quest to find the answer there is both good news and bad news. The bad news is that we will never be able to control the thoughts coming in our mind. It is like irritating roommate whom you cannot throw out, only adjust yourself accordingly.
The good news is that though our thoughts cannot be controlled but we can create a gap between us and our mind- a space. The mind is like an ocean and the waves are like the thoughts, so instead of riding on the waves we can stand on the beach and watch the waves.
One thing we can do is that instead of identifying it as mind we can call it the mind- a third person or you can give it any name like the squirrel. Whenever your mind starts its nuisance then just say that the mind or the squirrel is again running around wildly and I will not let it affect me in any way. It is as if you are on the shore and just watching the boats of thoughts on the ocean. Though it is calling you to take a free ride but you are just ignoring the calls.
When the mind is playing games then you can turn your attention towards your body. This creates a balance. In such times pamper your body or go for a work out or even a brisk walk. This will help in changing the focus of the mind. Go for a cold or hot shower depending on the place you are living. This will reenergize your body and calm your mind.
You can spend time with the nature. When we are with nature then the mind stops shuttling between the past and the future, and starts focusing on the present in front of you. It wants to enjoy the calmness and the beauty of the nature. That’s what we do when we take a holiday.
Breathing meditation, the feeling of the breath going in and going out, calms the mind. You need to focus on the movement the breath going in till your lungs and then spreading all over the body and then coming out. This is a sure shot way to relax the mind.
Writing and reading helps to calm the unruly mind. When you are writing or reading the focus shifts from the unruly thoughts to the thoughts which you want to have. You can even use the writing to vent out the unruly thoughts in form of words.
When you are able to create that space then you will feel empathy for your hyper active mind. Now you are just a witness and this will help you take objective decisions without getting swayed by it.
A frank view about money
Money is something which is very dear to us. The primary focus of our life is to earn money. We may talk about happiness and other such things in life but the bottom line is that money is our primary concern. Money helps us when we are poor because it gives us food and shelter; money helps us when we are rich because it gives us to the opportunity to fulfil our desires. So both rich hand the poor cannot do without money.
Money is earned in two ways; if you have a skill then you can en cash it by using it like painting acting etc and second is using money to make more money like starting a business, earning dividend income or interest income. In the first case if you are born with an inborn talent then you are among the lucky few, or you have to learn a skill, or you have to have get education to earn money. 99.99 percent are without any inborn skill so 99.99 percent people struggle to make money.
And for this reason maximum people spend their lives as a middle class or lower middle class or poor. Among this group are a few who work hard and luck favours them and therefore they are able to raise the social ladder. I am also one of them who are struggling to fulfil my dreams of financial freedom and wellbeing.
We all talk big things about principles, happiness peace, and satisfaction. These things are good in its place to talk about and aim for. But ask a poor man who feels hungry 3 times a day. If you tell him about these things he will tell you to shut up and first give some money. These things cannot kill his hunger, for that he needs food and for that he needs money. One famous monk in India once told that if you want to pursue spirituality then first earn money and then come to this field. You cannot follow the path of spirituality in an empty stomach.
The whole world is geared to earn money. Both an individual and the nation run on money and nothing else. The difference between the first world nations and the third world nations is money. Bhutan is a country which has the gross happiness index (GHI) instead of gross domestic product (GDP). It is a good concept to measure the happiness and satisfaction of the citizens. But Bhutan is a small Himalayan country which is mostly dependent on India for its requirements. But larger and more influential countries cannot afford to do this. For countries like USA and the European countries and China money is the thing which gives them the power to show their superiority.
Behind all the international alliances and groups it is the money which does the talking. The Muslims have their Organisation of Islamic countries (OIC) which aims to protect and further the cause of their religious affinity. But that too is based on money. For countries if it is choice between religion and money, it is money which is always chosen first, though lip service may be given to religion. In the latest political development we are seeing even Muslim countries are forming diplomatic relationship with Israel, which is quite unthinkable for them. Behind all this is strategy and money.
At the individual level we can do certain things to earn more money. First we need to master a skill or have a proper education; only these two things can unlock the doors to earning money. The level of finesse in your skill and the quality of your education will decide your capability to earn money. Many like me are writing here, some of them claim to have passion for writing and most are here for the money. Out of the few who are having passion to write, I doubt how many of them would have stayed here if it was a not paying site. Here most are hobby writers so there finesse to be a professional writing is lacking. If they are able to hone their skill of writing then only they would be able to go to the next level where he or she can earn more. So sharpening the skills and education is extremely important to make a major jump in the earning potential.
Passion is required to follow something. In the above example if we could find our passion for a particular field and then enhance the skills in that field then we can hasten the process of earning money. But for the maximum of us we are without any passion or do not know what our passion is. Therefore we take up any field to learn a skill or further education. Obviously for them the journey to earn money will be more difficult.
Though our mind likes to dream of money but we are not ready to work hard for it. Even if we find the passion in a particular field and then pursue that field, we tend to get lazy and lame in the long journey. So our fire starts to die down. When we should try for excellence, we limit ourselves to the mediocre. We forget that like me, many are pursuing the same field and not all will be successful in fulfilling their dreams. For most of us after reach a stage of stability we get complacent.
So money is of vital importance to us. Don’t ever underestimate the power of money and do whatever you can do to make yourself empowered enough to attract money.
Tortoise and hare
The tortoise and hare story is one which we have read and heard in our childhood. The story has a great meaning but in that age it’s just a story which we listen for the purpose of entertainment. By the time we grow up and when we actually need that lesson in our life, it is already in the back burner and seldom comes to our mind.
Once I decided to learn painting. Though in childhood I used to paint a lot but with growing age I kind of stopped it due to pressure of study and other commitments. But again I wanted to start my old passion in a new way. So I joined a painting class. We were 5 students in a class. On the second day one of the students asked the master that what it takes to transform from an amateur painter to a professional painter. This question was in everyone’s mind but no one was asking it fearing being ridiculed in the second session only. We sat at the end of the chair and looked at the master expecting for an answer, as if the secret of grandmas recipe was about to be revealed. The master said in a flat note that you require a pen, pencil and paint to transform from an amateur to a professional painter. It was like an anti climax.
The master said that the novice and the professional painter require the same things, the same tools but what differentiates is the level of commitment and practice. It is applicable in all fields of professional art and skill.
Last year I went to a hill station named Darjeeling. I saw so many tourists walking with DSLR cameras hanging from their neck, with a wide variety of lenses. I thought they must be all professional photographers. I talked to a few about their cameras as I also wanted to buy one seeing them. To my surprise I found that most of them are clicking in auto mode. That means there is practically no use of the hundreds of setting those lenses offer. They were using it just like the aim and shoot camera. These people have just got the tools but have not invested time in learning the art.
We do this all the time in our life. We cut corners to learn something deeply. We are in a hurry to be an expert and we want to make progress as soon as possible. We don’t feel good to be left behind because we think that we will be happier once we reach the goal. In this fast paced life we want a fast paced positive feedback in whatever we are doing. Then we would jump to the next thing. But this attitude makes us only jump around and results in wastage of time and energy without any fruitful result. And after that we crib that I learnt so many things but could not achieve anything in life.
After hearing from the master about the secret recipe to become a professional painter I read a lot about the life of famous painters and saw videos also. I learnt a few things:
• There is no shortcut
• You have to give commitment and time
• Learn more about the basics of the tools
• make mistakes and learn from it
• Think about concepts to paint
• Practice and practice and practice
• diversify your practice
• Don’t get de-motivated
• enjoy the process and think less about the end result
• Learn from people who are better than you.
In short be like a tortoise when you are trying to learn a skill and want to reach a desired level in it. Being like a hare will only give you short term gain.
How to get over obsessing what others will think of you.
Obsessing about what others will think about me is a chronic problem. Now people are more sensitive for too many things, the looks, the figure, the dress, the makeup, the boyfriend and so many others. Girls are more concerned about these things as it is hard wired to our mind and the expectation of the society. We look at the mirror so many times to see whether we are looking fine, whether our dress is suiting us, am I looking fat. And believe me it makes us feel miserable to maintain ourselves keeping in mind that others should always think well about us. But whatever you do you will always find someone who will give that look or say something which will make you feel bad. I also one day thought that enough is enough and now I should live life my way rather than bothering about what others will think about me.
So what I did was this:
The first step is to know where you are now and where you want to reach. Use mindfulness to paying attention to what your thoughts are about yourself. If you feel you are too obsessed about what others think about you then try to understand where that thought is coming from. Is it some sort of lack of confidence about yourself or are you trying to be someone who you are not, or you want to show off or you want to present a cute innocent girl image. Once you understand what your position is about yourself then only you will be to take corrective measures.
The next step will be to control your emotions. Slowly start to feel that you are unique and you should stay that way. People should love your uniqueness and not what you are trying to show to the world. Don’t hesitate to speak up unambiguously. When we try to be over diplomatic in our words that means we are not being true to ourselves and we are being image conscious. Understand the fact that how much you try you cannot make everyone happy. Be in control of your emotions when others are trying to antagonize you, this is a good sign that you are being yourself.
Try to challenge your core belief. Some days go to your office without make up id previously you used to put it on. Let others react in whatever way they want, tell them you are comfortable this way. Wear the types of dresses which you used to avoid thinking what others will think about you. Tell them you are comfortable with it. Put up a face of confidence in yourself when you are speaking to someone or when you are walking. Think that you do not care now what others are thinking about you. Accept that people will judge you. If they are judging you through their eyes or expressions then try to do it even more. Make then uncomfortable rather than you being uncomfortable.
This will slowly help you to let go of whatever latent insecurities you had about yourself. Make it a point do just the opposite of what your insecurities made you do. Don’t think about the past and future but keep yourself in the present. Make it your gospel that you want to make the best use of now in whatever way you want. Forget what you were in the past, consider it as a closed chapter of your life and then move ahead. Don’t fear about the consequences in the future, for nobody knows the future. Try to be the original you.
Always remember that an original flower only gives scent and not a paper made flower.
The marriage decision
In this part of the world arranged marriage was prevalent until women started to opt to go out and work and be financially independent. This process started about 30 to 40 years back. Before that women stuck to the traditional women jobs like doctor, nurse, sales girl and teacher. Now no field is untouched by the women. And now more number of love marriages is happening and also being accepted by parents and society. In the west it happened about 80 years back.
Now people go on date and then another and then another date until they realise that a relationship has formed. Sometimes it transforms from a platonic friendship to a relationship. The undercurrent was always there but was ignored for long.
When it happens you feel like to be in cloud nine. The relationship is there even when you are not together. Now you are not interested in what the world says and you are happy that it happened to you. Now all those love sings have a meaning for you. Life has a new meaning; each day is brighter than before. The yearning and the fire is unstoppable.
All this and then after a few months you start noticing the change. You start coming down from cloud nine. Now the perfect person seems to do some imperfect things which you don’t like. The quirky things he used to do and you found them funny now starts annoying you. You start having second thoughts about are you dating your dream guy or a stupid. The relationship that made you fly now seems to be claustrophobic. All those negative things which were hidden in the haze of love now seems to clear up and looks at you face.
Now is the time to decide based on the good and bad you have noticed?
Society is a pretty bad place, it will not like if your relationship is long and you are not arriving at the decision. The society will interpret it as something is wrong in the relationship. To make things right or hasten the decision it will start applying pressure on you from all angles. The society will try to make your relationship look like everything forever or it would make it as if nothing ever again.
These are some of the ways we make a decision on this issue:
• Let the other person take the decision. This is quite easy and you don’t have to handle the decision making. The early years are as if you are in your (life) raft and the river of life is taking you down the river and you are flowing with it. Once you reach your mid twenties and you have been through many relationships, now you get into the next relationship and expect the other person to take the decision. If the takes it then you are ok for it and you accept it without giving much thought about whether it is right or wrong for you.
• If you are al little more active and want your role in the decision making then you bank on your emotions and primal instincts. You mind juggles between the emotions of love, fear, ego and sex drive and weighs the pros and cons of each of them. This helps them come to a decision.
• Trust your intuition. Sometimes when the decision is precariously balanced and can turn both ways, we try our gut feeling, the intuition to guide us. The basic question we ask to ourselves is that – does it feel right? The gut decision is generally pretty straight forward, a yes or a no. It doesn’t go into analysing things to come to a decision. In our lives we use this gut decision many times.
• The brain. This is the most analytical decision making process. It studies the rules of the game to reach a conclusion. To come to such an important decision, conviction is required and it comes from the sources which will affect the decision making process. For the brain to make a critical decision it requires solid evidence. If it doesn’t get that evidence then it will not be able to come to a proper decision.
The decision of marriage and specifically who to marry is still the most important decision of life. It’s not like a job which you can hop every year. It is about a lifelong association which will affect the quality of your life in every step. So while taking a decision it is important you use all of the above techniques to decide your best course of action.
Benefits of using a habit tracker
One of the best ways to develop and track your habit is to use a habit tracker. All high level performers need to keep track of their progress as it gives a feedback about their progress. With the data collected it can be used to analyse how well they are performing and where there is a requirement of change. One famous chef said that what differentiates them from the home cook is that they taste and record every ingredient they use. And then try different combinations to come out with a new dish.
But there is one big difference between a chef trying a new dish and getting feedback while building a habit. While cooking a dish the feedback is instant but forming a habit is a time consuming task. The chef can taste and tell how the food is but to form a habit the results are often delayed. While forming the habit of running it may take weeks to see any tangible result. Habit formation is a long drawn process and one has to break it into short term goals to see any progress.
The basic format which we most commonly use is marking in the calendar. Suppose you want for form a habit of running Monday Wednesday and Friday and to run on Tuesday Thursday and Saturday, the easiest way is to mark it on a calendar. Another way can be to make monthly habit tracker templates and use it. Here you can make various templates depending on the type of habit which you are trying to form and then use it.
The benefit of a habit tracker is that here you can create a visual cue, and it gives you satisfaction of progress by marking on it. It has been seen that those who use such trackers for losing weight of quitting smoking are more likely to be successful as they can see their progress and visualise the success.
Habit tracker also keeps you honest unless you turn a blind eye. It will show you how you are missing your routine and how frequently. With the evidence in front of you, you are less likely to fool yourself.
Progress in a habit is the best motivation. When we can see the progress in black and white it pushes us to follow that path. Even a small progress is an achievement. Also too many empty squares will bang you to be less lethargic and start your routine. It is also rewarding. After completing a day’s routine when you mark that block it feels satisfied and that is your reward every day. If you are already doing a thing and it has become a part of your habit then you need not use the habit tracker. But when you decide to start a new routine and habit then it is to be used diligently.
Some common daily habits to be tracked can be
• writing one line journal
• reading a page daily
• doing yoga
• taking medication
• taking weight
• calling mother
• wake up at a particular time
These are small things and need very less time but it is a good beginning to develop the habit of using a habit tracker. Developing a habit and being habitual in it is to repeat it and for that daily habits are the best. But you can design your habit tracker for things which you want to do weekly or monthly also. Your weekly habits can be:
• blog writing
• washing the car
• vacuuming the house
• laundry
Your monthly habit tracker can include:
• paying rent
• paying credit card bill
• review monthly expenses
But for bad, addictive and negative things habit tracker is not to be used. You should not make a habit tracker to mark your alcohol taking, smoking, caffeine etc
How long to track a habit? It depends on the type of habit you are pursuing. Some may take one week, some 15 days, some a month and some even more. Once you have become comfortable in a routine and you know that you are not going to miss it then you need not use a habit tracker. If you have become habitual in writing one article a day here then you won’t need a habit tracker, but for a new member to write an article a day, he should use a habit tracker in the beginning.
Some life defining mistakes not to be repeated
Regret and guilt are the words that are used most during therapy. We spend a lot of time thinking about things we did or did not do and things we had no control of. No one goes through the process of life without going through these feelings at some point of time. And it is perfectly normal. Anyone who shays is lying, at some point of time we have hurt someone’s feelings, made a bad choice or felt like if we could just go back in time to undo something.
But there are some mistakes which have a bigger effect in our lives and we should try not to repeat them again. So here are those ones:-
Not helping the other person.
It is good if you have not hurt anyone or bullied anyone or taken advantage of any one. But how many times have how helped others in those situations when you witnessed one. Have you done that? At any point of time we always find someone in our family or friends circle who are feeling hurt or taken advantage of but we are more sensitive to things when it happens to us than when it happens to others. When we had the opportunity we let it pass because we may be shy or unprepared or afraid. Once it can be forgiven but if it is repeated then it is not.
Neglecting your health
In this busy fast paced life we are more likely to neglect our physical and emotional health. The reasons can be lack of time, work pressure, laziness and being afraid to acknowledge our weakness. As health is not directed connected to earning money so we push it to the back burner until someday we get a knock on our door from some disease. If you have committed this mistake or you are committing it now then please stop and give due regard to your health for the rest of the life.
Trying to fix what is broken
This is the difficult one as we sometimes don’t see or accept that it is broken and we can be in a denial mode for a long time. Relationships are made on quick sand so it both are not supporting beach other then both are sure to go down. So watch keenly for signs of broken relationship and after all your effort if it is not working then move on. Don’t unnecessarily keep wearing off you emotional energy on such things.
Expecting others behave and think like you.
Make no assumptions that others will think or behave as you want. Everyone is entitled to their way of thinking and behaving. It can be parallel to your way or tangent to it. So it is your mistake not theirs. When people are particularly in position of power this expectation creeps in. Then it becomes difficult to accept difference of opinion. Don’t try to push your agenda – listen and understand instead. The world has enough room to adjust to lot of different perspective.
Betraying someone you care and who cares about you
This is of the worst kind and even one is too many. Its scar goes deep and long. You will be lucky if the other person forgives you and there is no fine crack in the relationship. This betrayal can be a small one from your side but you will not be able to judge its effect on the other side. Please don’t do it and don’t do it again.
Don’t waste
Your time, money, energy, opportunities are scarce commodities and are not to be wasted. It’s easy to sit on the couch and watch the next episode of your favorite serial than going for a jog or attending to an important call. Prioritize your essential activities and passive activities and don’t interchange them to suit your convenience. The cool things which you want to do in your life will then surely show up in your regret list in the future.
Neglecting people you care
Communication is the backbone of a successful relationship. Also spend time with people who you care and not with the wrong kind. If you ask older people they will say that if only they had spent more time with people he cared about. It is true that some meaningful relationships will change with time in our lives and we have to let them go. Some will go the long distance along with you and you have to give those relations their due.
Tips to fix marriage problems
Marriage is a communion that is created to last a life time. This is over and above all type of relationship except perhaps the relationship with our parents. I am not sure whether they are made in heaven or not but what I know is that a better part of our life goes into it. It covers every facets of our life and passes through every possible emotion. Marriage is an imposition of our society and staying with marriage is looked down upon. When two different people meet on a common ground then there is no escape from having differences. These differences are mostly resolved amicably by both but sometimes it can take an ugly turn leading to deeper differences. It then has a deep impact on both the people’s life. While in previous times cases of differences were less or at least less reported, now we very commonly hear about such cases among our known circle.
Now let us see what can be done to resolve such issues.
Identify the matter behind it
It is the very first step from where it starts. It can be small things like a habit of other which you don’t like, or things which the other said. In the beginning the other person may take it lightly and may not raise the issue. But with time it can create a stale feeling. Repeating such things slowly creates deeper rift in the mind and it keeps on increasing. So it is necessary to pinpoint the cause and only after that its effect can be dealt with.
Voice your issues
Once the problem has been diagnosed, now is the time to tell the other about it rather than keeping it in mind and silently suffering. Let the other know what is creating this feeling. It can only be possible when you communicate it to the other. Communication is the backbone here. While raising the issue it is important not to make it look like an accusation or something criminal. But the point should be clearly conveyed.
Listen to the other also
Once you have conveyed your point, now is the time to listen to the other. I am sure he or she will have a reason for it. Here it is required that you are not adamant and try to understand what the other person is saying. Something’s are by nature done differently by the man and the woman, those things are not wrong in their own place but a way of expression that is inherent in that gender. Here you cannot expect that the other can do much about it. When the other has conveyed their reply then try to put yourself in their shoe and think. At this stage most of the problem can be solved.
Let the other know that you want to mend it
The other should know that this is a process to mend things and not to break things. Both taking rigid stance due to ego will not help. One has to take small steps to come closer. This step becomes very difficult when things are quite serious among them due to serious nature of issues like trust issues. It is better to make best efforts to mend things. But one has to take the first step and only then they can again reach a common ground.
Admit you were wrong
This is also very difficult. To admit a mistake you have done. There is no other way to put it but the straight way, no beating around the bush and justifying it. In most cases things will take a positive turn from here.
Know when enough is enough
Sometimes all efforts may fail and there will be no point pulling the relationship. In that case it will be better to amicable part ways amid all the bitterness. It is a big emotional strain but sometimes a line has to be drawn. It becomes all the more difficult and clumsy when children are involved.
Marriage is too big a thing to be thrown away for trivia reasons, the benefit of staying together far outweighs staying separately. So the effort to keep the marriage together should be genuine. Now a day where both the party are financially independent it is very easy to break a marriage. Now young people are less ready to accept and compromise on issues. This is a very bad thing but is quite prevalent in society.
One sentence a day
Journaling, simply put is writing down about what is happening in your life. A properly written journal is a walk down the memory lane. This simple thing has been done by many famous people and some have even published it.
It gives us the opportunity to get new insight out of old experiences. It is like living the life a second time. With time our reaction to incidents changes. When we are young we are more arrogant and so our reaction is of a certain type, when we are older we will react to the same incident in a different way. So when we go through the journal again we get a new perspective to our reaction to an incident. May be we now regret doing something or not doing something at that point of time.
Journaling sharpens our memory. It gives the answer to the what, why, how, when in our life, which often gets blurred in our memory. Not only this, but it also tells you what type of person you were at a particular point of time. Though we generally have high opinion about ourselves but when we revisit our past then we find cases where we actually behaved like an idiot. When you see an old picture of yours it reminds you about how you looked but a written record can tell you what you thought.
Journaling can make you do well. When you know that at the end of the day you will be writing about this day and if you have not done anything to write then it may motivate you to do something good. It also gives you the proof of progress you are making in a particular goal you are following. This will also help you decide later where you went wrong and where you were right in spite of the odds against you.
Though the idea of making a journal is a good habit but most of us fail to stick to it. We leave it mid way.
How to develop the habit
Although it looks easy, you just need a pen and a diary, but it is not so easy. In our busy life we now hardly find time to write a journal. Our engagements are such that we are more often than not always busy. Also we cannot put it off for a few days and make it up. So the easiest way is to write 1 sentence daily. Now nothing can be as simple as writing a sentence summarising the day.
You can make prompts like if you want to focus on a particular thing. Such prompts can be:
• did something good happened today
• am I grateful for anything today
• what is the most important task I have today
• how is my mood today
These heading will prompt you to focus on a particular aspect and when at the end of the month if you review it then you will be surprised.
This way it will not feel like a burden and annoyance, because when those feelings will come then you are bound to drop it mid way. Journaling is also not about writing flowery language and making it look like a novel. It is the simple reflection of your thought and life. So don’t think about making it as an art. Some people think that nothing special happens in my daily life, it is just the same daily routine so there is nothing to write about. Though this is true for most of us but only in our daily physical routine, our mind plays on a different level and we can always jot down the thoughts. Ultimately that is the purpose of a journal, jotting down our thoughts about the activities of the day.
Low key signs of a subtly dangerous person
That little stain can ruin your dress. That small piece of glass can be the most difficult to remove from your foot. The point is the most dangerous person for you is not the serial killer you read in the newspaper, it is the common Joe or Harry you know so well. Then one day do something which makes you think how you missed this part of their personality.
The little things that you failed to notice, the weird look, the skewed reaction to something, the not opening up fully, and the subtleties that you missed. That someone will not attack you with a knife as the danger is much deeper.
But if we keep our eyes and ears sharp then we will notice those things, not the murderous one but the one who slowly steals you joy and happiness. These signs will give away such a person.
They are careful about maintaining appearances
Such people are super conscious about maintaining their appearance, be it in the form of appearing to be smart or capable or strong or whatever it is. They will protect their image at all cost at all the time. Such people will not be neutral and judge every action of others whether it is helping him keep his image or not.
They will often have unresolved issues
When some people have experienced some negative emotions and have not fully recovered from it can be dangerous. They may look normal outwardly until you touch the raw nerves. Unresolved issues can come out in many ways. Due to family issues a son may not come out as someone who is not proud of himself or his work or the woman who was cheated by the last partner and now cannot trust any man at work or in life. Such people will always look at things through eh lens of pain and may over react to something suddenly.
They love drama
This is the person who causes repeated strife among friends, and has been a problem in his family. People have often cut him out of all circles because of this but he will blame them only. They themselves don’t realize that they are at the centre of every relational strife. They are the type who will speak about others behind their back, and try to break budding romances among acquaintances. Wherever they go they leave a trail of emotional destruction.
They chose to speak out publicly
As these people develop insecurity and often a cowardly attitude so they try to compensate it by confronting others in public to compensate that feeling. They are actually scared to come out of their weakness and vulnerability. They are scared of not getting what they want and being at the receiving end of your disappointment. So more often they will let go of their emotion by creating a spectacle. They will not talk privately, one on one because they know they will lack the substance to talk and discuss so they will use this tactic to shock you.
Deception and justification
This deception and justification pattern is often used because more often than not you are in the receiving end of it and you will fall prey to it. And when you will understand and confront him, you will hardly get an apology, but a lame justification. If you continue to stay with him that means you are inviting more of it.
Refuse to take responsibility
Such people will not take responsibility for their actions or for those who m it impacted. For them all problems is someone else’s creation and in no way you can prevail on them to accept their fault.
You may no t find all these characteristics in all the subtly dangerous people but if you find one or two of such characteristics then you have to be careful of such person. Ultimately it is you who has to identify these signals and decide what you want to do.
Common concerns of common people about BCH fork of 15 Nov
I am a common woman and my look out for a passive income source commensurate to my interest landed me here in read cash. Before here I was not specifically interested in BCH particularly and I had meagre income from faucets and some crypto purchases. This platform increased my earning compared to the faucets but still way behind what others earn here. Still it is better than what I used to do earlier for a passive income.
During the last 3 months I am here I could make around 0.4 BCH which is quite a small amount. I have not sold any of them as my aim is to make it 1 BCH. What I noticed here is the passion among a few about BCH which I did not find elsewhere. The majority here has nothing to do with BCH, as it is only a source of earning for them. If read cash paid in Litecoin then they would have been all praise of litecoin. But the 5 percent present here are very serious about BCH and its future. I am quite impressed by their passion. That’s why I am falling in love with BCH and HODLing my BCH.
5 days are left for the fork
From a few months back this discussion and articles about the fork thing started. Though I am not that technically sound but I could make out that BCH ABC and BCHN are in a battle and BCH ABC is trying to earn 8 percent extra from each block. It all depends on whom the miners favour. I expect that there will be a lot of action on 15 Nov and a day or two before and after that.
For me the first concern is that will my BCH be safe. I read that I need to hold the private keys whatever happens. So I am going to keep a separate record of my private keys. Also my exchange should support my coin. Some say I will get the new coin also at 1:1 rate.
The second concern is that what will be the value of the BCH I am holding. Some say there will be a good amount of price fluctuation during that period. The price fluctuation is not a problem for me if after everything settles down, I get the valuation I am getting now. As a bull run is going on and now my holding is valued at about 113 dollars. Even if it goes to 100 dollars I won’t mind much but if it goes below 80 dollars then I will be seriously concerned about it. It is a hard earned amount. Normal price fluctuation is ok, but value reduction due to fork will pain me. If I get the new coin also then what will be the value of it? Will the value reduction of BCH and the value of new coin make up to the present price of BCH.
The third concern is an outcome of the second. If there is going to be so much price volatility then should I convert it into stable coin or fiat. In that case I will be able to lock the gain of the Bull Run and also get more coins if I get the opportunity to buy at a lower price. Opportunism. My fourth concern will be getting updated and correct news as to what is happening. I am sure the 5 percent diehard fans will keep us posted here on the latest development. I will have to keep an eye on the tweeter for the tweeter handle of @rogerkver.
I would like to know what others like me are planning to do.
I would like to draw the attention of the following:-
@RogerVer @MarcDeMesel @majamalu @molecular @Read.Cash @georgedonnely @Telesfor @scottcbusiness to kindly alley our fears and concerns and keep us posted about new developments in this topic.
When to be unreasonable with yourself
When in the twenties we often hear phrases like, think big and aim for the moon by our family and friends. But we should know exactly when we should have high expectations and when a big goal can shoot you on the foot.
High expectations
A Harvard professor conducted a research. A special test which was given a fancy name was organized to find out which students will develop high IQ in future. 18 elementary school teachers conducted this exam on their students. But it was just a normal IQ test, but even the teachers did not know about it. After the exam the professor picked up random students from each class and told the teachers that these kids had potential to bloom. But in reality here was nothing special about these students.
After a few months another set of IQ test was given to these kids and it was found that the bloomers performed exceptionally well this time. Though these kids were actually average. Researchers found that the teachers gave more attention and inspiration to them and that’s why in the second test they performed well. It was concluded that when teachers treated some students as if they were to excel in life later then these students actually became smart.
This experiment proved how the high expectation can change our lives. But if someone is not chosen as the bloomer, so will they live in mediocrity. No.
There was two other interesting outcome of the experiment. Though the identified bloomers improved more but the others also improved. Though support helps you to push towards success but without that also you can make it. The second finding was that it helped more among the younger students than the older ones. As kids grow old, their own expectation about them is more powerful than others expectations.
So now the question arises as to what are you expecting out of yourself?
It is not that you reach your full potential by chance, but by making an effort towards the destination which you consider beyond you. Most of us settle for average goals because we think that it is reasonable and within our reach. For this reason they get stuck at those levels. As more people keep average goals so there is more competition for things that are not worth trying. If you try for something extraordinary then you will find few people trying for it. So technically if you make the requisite effort then you might make it.
But not every goal should be unreasonable.
Our focus should be on small wins and building daily habits. If you are trying something new then you should spend time on building repeatable daily habits. Focus on building a strong identity for yourself as this is the groundwork for better results later on in life. Setting extreme goals will not work unless we develop these small habits.
What does an unreasonable goal look like? My friend loves animal so for her next birthday I planned a surprise for her. I knew someone in the zoo and convinced him to allow her to feed the tiger, though under his supervision. So when the birthday came I took her to the zoo for a day out and gave her the surprise.
When you are trying to achieve something big then always appreciate how far you have come. Many people when they fail in a big endeavor then they often feel depressed. They fail to appreciate that they had made progress but could not complete it. When you aim high and fail then you don’t fail completely. You are still better than from where you started the journey.
When you have set a high goal for yourself and reach only half way, you are still ahead of if you had selected a small goal and reached it. Though in the first case you may be a failure but you have actually covered more ‘life’ distance.
Celsius network- the ultimate passive interest earning application
Last month I came across the Celsius network website and the application. Before this I want to tell you that I tried my hand in crypto trading in Binance for about 30 days. I put in about 100 dollars and used to make trades mostly in LTC/USDT pair. I was too conscious about not losing money. So I was a cautious player. I took 1 or maximum 2 trades a day. But I noticed that it is quite stressful as the time between starting a trade and its successful closing is always fraught with danger of losing money. A few times the market went the other way and I had to wait for more than a day to come to a profitable position. Also once in a profitable position the tendency was to close the trade and book profit. Most of the times I booked profit early and the market continued in my profitable direction. This also made me sad as if I had held on then I could have got more profit.
What I could make out was that you require a certain type of temperament to be a successful trader and not everyone has it. So now I started looking for other options where I could be free of this stress and tension and still earn income though it may be lesser than trading. I read and visited a few sites about staking also. Then I landed on the Celsius network website.
It is basically an interest earning website. The business model is that – It collects crypto currency from the public and gives interest on it. How? It lends the crypto currencies to big institutions against collateral from where they earn higher interest. Instead of keeping the whole interest earning from the institutions with them, they distribute 80 percent to us and keep 20 percent with them. This way they give a very good interest to us.
What the banks do is they take your money and give as loans, thereby earning higher interest and keep it with themselves. Here most of it is distributed among us.
It is co founded by Alex Mashinsky, he is himself a self made millionaire and the creator of VOIP (voice over internet protocol). He regularly interacts with the subscribers through YouTube live sessions.
Here you can keep Bitcoin, Ether, BCH, chainlink, Matic, SNX, all stable coins, and many more- more than 40 coins. The maximum interest in Matic and SNX- 16.16 percent APY. Then all stable coins- 10.51 percent. Eth has 5.5 percent, BTC has 4.51 percent. You can see the whole list in the Celsius network website. They have their own coin –Cell which is ranked 38 in coinmarketcap and has a huge potential. If you want to earn interest in cell token then you will get up to 30 percent more interest. Example- If you keep USDT you will get interest of 10.51 percent if you take the interest in USDT. But if you take interest in CELL token then you can earn up to 13.8 percent interest. This is when you have more than 20 percent of your portfolio in CELL token. Example – if you have 100 dollars of USDT and 20 dollars of CELL token and you opt for earning interest in cell token then you will earn the maximum interest. There are smaller slabs also where you will earn 10/20 percent more interest income.
The interest is paid every Monday for the Friday to Friday cycle. The earning is compounded every week. You very well know the power of compounding. There is no minimum deposit and withdrawal requirement. The deposit and withdrawals are free.
You can get loan also from here against your portfolio and the interest can be as low as less than 1 percent APR if you have more than 20 percent cell in your account and if you want to pay the interest in Cell token. The minimum loan is 500 dollars worth of your choice of crypto currency. Off course your collateral will not earn interest during the loan period, that’s justified. But just think, less than 1 percent interest whereas what high rates the banks charge.
This company is working since 2018 and is not the fly by night type sites you see in PTC faucets. Otherwise I would not have wasted so much time writing this.
You can get 20 dollars BTC free if you keep 200 dollars for 30 days. For this you will have to join through a referral. You can use my referral code- 1501710c82. Both of us will earn 20 dollars BTC each after 30 days.
The registration process is easy. You can search ‘Celsius network’ in Google playstore or download from their website. Log in with your Google account (other options also available), enter your personal details, fix your log in code, it will ask for referral code, and take a picture of your national ID through the app. If the photo is correctly taken then you will have an approved account in 15- 30 minutes. If not then the app will tell you to take the photo again (or you can mail them that your verification is showing pending). It is simple. After this you are ready to deposit funds.
Link to the website- https://celsius.network/
You can buy cell token at liquid.com. As of today it is 1.8 dollar.
I have checked other sites like nexo and blockfi but this one is the best.
I have deposited more than 200 dollars.
For those like me who don’t want to trade and want a safe way to earn passive income, this is the best option.
10 golden rules to be a happy housewife
Now a day’s being housewife is not appreciated. I don’t know about the west but in countries of the south East Asia, the culture of working women is the development of last 20-30 years. Before that working women were mostly on the field of Medical and government jobs. Now every woman wants to be financially independent. Being a housewife is like a bad thing and being working women is the ‘in’ thing. Due to this housewives have also developed a complex and have devised terms like ‘home maker’ and ‘stay at home mom’ to salvage some honour.
I will give some points to become a happy housewife and mother.
Stop cribbing
Stop cribbing about staying at home and looking after the children. You are the lucky one. Raising children now days is not an easy job and children actually need support in young age. It is your responsibility to mould and guide them through these turbulent times.
Be proud
It is far more difficult to stay at home and raise children than to work in office. Full time mothering is a full time job and no working women can say that they are doing justice to their children. You are strong that’s why you could take the decision not to go for job and be at home.
Look after yourself
Staying at home doesn’t mean being shabby and neglecting yourself. Don’t be shy of maintaining yourself and keeping your wardrobe updated. You are entitled to your beauty and life. When you go out dress at your best and put on makeup. Don’t consider yourself inferior to anyone.
Have s3x
You are entitled to your quota of love, cuddling and intimacy. Don’t expect that every time your husband will initiate it and you will follow through. If you don’t take initiative then slowly it will affect your marriage. In most cases it is the wife who pushes away the husband when it comes to s3x.
Create a beautiful environment
Your house is the place where your family will fall back every day. So create an environment of love and joy for your children and husband. They should feel peace while staying at home. It does not mean the physical cleaning and maintaining your house, it means to create a place of wonderful memories. These things seriously affect the child’s outlook and mentality. Try to create the best environment for your family.
Spend time with your friends
Dealing with household matters and motherhood can turn you lonely because you are always busy with one thing or the other. Do not cut off from your friend circle as they are a very good support system, also you will need some time when you are without any mental obligation. It is the time for you to enjoy, go out, and have coffee and shop. This will recharge and rejuvenate you. Me time is always important.
Make time for yourself
There may be a lot of work left like washing and ironing the cloth, cleaning the house and so on but sometimes it can wait. Take time to enjoy your time when the children and husband are no there in the house. Watch your favourite TV show, follow your hobby. Don’t feel guilty about it, it will make you feel calmer and more attentive when they all are back home. You will get new energy to handle them.
Don’t take it too seriously
Don’t be afraid to be judged by your children and husband. You are entitled to your share of mistakes. Sometimes you will find your husband not helping you and children are creating a nuisance and the house is in a mess. Such things happen and don’t take them too seriously. Being a housewife is a high pressure job and don’t be over cautious about it.
Appreciate your life
There is so much problem and suffering and poverty around and in your family also things will be difficult sometimes. But always appreciate what you have got, you are better off than most. So stop whining about it.
I will tell all housewives to sit back and look at your life. You are the one who is responsible to bring up the next generation of life with good values. Your work is no less important than those who are working; in fact you are doing the best work.
Are you living an urgent life or an important life?
In our daily life we often get glimpses of what we are capable of doing, sometimes a flicker of what we are destined to be or a hint of what we desire to become in life. It could be a feeling of dissatisfaction with the job you are stuck when you wanted to do something of your own or a yearning to lose weight which you are postponing, or a burst of inspiration to write a book which you wanted to write but are not able to start. You must also be having some desires which give you a calling. But before that call starts to take a serious turn you are dragged into the urgency of life.
You get a tight deadline at your work or your phone rings or your car is low on gas. Your attention gets diverted and you delay your dream for one more day.
How to get over it? How to start living the life you wanted to live instead of attending from one emergency to another.
The next 10 years of your life you are going to do something. And it will mostly be responding to something urgent rather than pursuing what is important for you. Your desire to do something important will be subdued by the urgency to make money. Too often your urgency not to miss office will subdue your desire to lose those extra pounds. Too often your ability to be satisfied in life will be subdued by your urgency to get noticed and appreciated.
There is no running away from the fact that we need money. And there is also no running away from the fact that there are times when we require holding the urgent things in life so that we can get the crazy life under control. Most of our life is based on what is urgent to us instead of what is important to us. We keep on putting off each year what is important to us.
Unless you draw a line somewhere and decide that you want to live an important life then only you will start thinking of giving you life a clear direction. Then only you will develop the courage to say to yourself that this is important for me and I am going to go for it. This will be the beginning of your important life and the end of an urgent life. This will help you to avoid falling into the trap of urgent life again.
If your goal is to write a book then that goal gives you purpose and direction. Whenever you will have a free moment you will write another paragraph. When you will have a new idea, you will try to correlate it with the goal you have set. You will organise your life to accomplish your goal. This first step is the most difficult – to shift our focus from the urgent to the important.
We do have many things to attend every day, an urgent phone call, an urgent assignment, a sick friend to visit and so on. But when you have shifted the focus then you will be able to fall back to your goal with ease after completing those urgent tasks. This will prevent you from falling back into the whirlwind of urgency as now you are aware of your specific goal.
It is important to understand the difference between a goal and a task. Your desire will be to get in shape but your task will be to do 50 push ups in a row. To start a business will be a desire and to get the first paying client will be the first task in that direction. For the desire to write a book, completing the first chapter will be the task.
What seems to be important for us is never urgent for us. This is the nature of goal; it never demands our attention right now. For this reason we give importance to the urgent than the important. Goal is for the long haul and requires a sense of purpose and clear direction and perseverance.
But don’t let the seeds of greatness slip through your fingers and begin your slow march towards your goal. Fulfil your dream.
14 ideas to bring a positive change in life
Sometimes we want to change but postpone it because we get used to the present situation or we become too lazy to make an effort. As Helen Keller said for changing we will have to think, thinking will take us to a conclusion and that conclusion may not be a pleasant one. Resigning to fate is easy but a time comes when we try to make another effort to change. I will give some ideas which may help you to transform yourself.
Think big but act small
If you have big plans in life then don’t get daunted by it. To climb a tall building you need to take the stairs, step by step and floor by floor – then you will be able to reach the top. Be practical and start acting. If you aim high then you might just reach it, but if you aim low you will always stay low.
Unanswered questions turn to problems
Whenever we face a problem we tend to freak out. This is the worst we can do. If the problem stays then we are basically sabotaging our life. Every problem is an unanswered question which we are avoiding to face. The more we avoid it the more it will surround ourselves with the problem. The rule is simple take your problems head on.
Have relations on a firm ground
Have relations which are standing on the firm ground of love, affection, caring, support and trust. Rest all you can leave behind. There is no point sticking to relations who are on flimsy ground as it will waste your time and energy and will cause emotional pain. Move on whenever required without regret.
Nothing is free in life
As they say there is no free lunch, so you have to pay the price in form of time, money, energy or resources. Don’t expect it therefore and play a smart game. Life is like a business; how you are playing it is important. Use your time wisely as it is the most important resource you have.
Be bold in taking decisions
Most of the time we have this dilemma, first we hesitate to take a decision and then to implement it. Postponing, delaying and too much research will take you nowhere. It is as good as taking no decisions at all. Why waste so much time taking a decision when we lack the ability to implement it. It is better to take a wrong decision than no decision at all.
Be a leader
Be like a leader at work because that will take you places. When a work has to be done, everyone may hesitate to take responsibility. That is your opportunity to take responsibility and prove yourself or else you will remain a follower all through your life.
Productivity = result
When you work then you are being productive and this will lead to results. Whether you are doing smart work or hard work it is important to work. Make sure your work is effective and efficient; this will increase your productivity and yield faster result.
Be a salesperson
In every aspect of our life we are a sales person. We are selling ourselves to get acceptance, be it in work or a relationship. Being a sales person means finding people who want you and not finding people who don’t want you. Understand this difference. Don’t waste time on people who don’t like you or want you.
Improve self confidence
It is only possible when you improve your skills. Once you improve your skills then your self confidence will automatically increase because now you know better what you are doing.
Value your friends
As a social animal we need friends in our life so don’t forget to spend time with them and stand by them when required. A good friend like an asset.
Be critical
Don’t believe in everything you see. The world is now full stories of success in you tube, instagram and other social media but you don’t know the inside story. So have a critical bend of mind when you are analyzing any information.
Don’t be afraid of Criticism
Be ready to take criticism, you cannot avoid it, whether you like it or not. You cannot please everyone. But keep your filter ready and take in only that part that will help you improve cut out the rest. Also you need not respond to all criticism; you will be wasting your time and emotional energy.
Take care of your body
Your body is the vehicle you are riding to do whatever you are doing in life. So keep your body tuned up so that it doesn’t become an impediment to you.
Happiness
Don’t attach happiness to your goals. Try to find happiness in the process rather than in the outcome.
10 best affiliate programs to help bloggers
Affiliate marketing is the buzz word these days but it is also looked down upon. There are too many marketers who are trying it and each day the numbers are increasing. Everyone knows that these people are here to make a quick buck. To be successful in affiliate marketing one need to build up trust or else no one new will try. It is all about choice and there are too many choices now, therefore to be successful you will have to give the best choices to the customer so that he doesn’t have to do much research. So let me tell you about the best affiliate programs:-
Amazon associates
Many YouTube channels and tech review blogs use this business model. Suppose I am a blogger on books and I also recommend books in my blog. So I can put a link of that book in the blog so that the interested readers do not have to search anywhere else. In this case I will be using an affiliate marketing link.
Blue host
Those of you who are new to it and creating a website then I would suggest blue host. It is cheap yet the quality is good and a convenient way to make an income. In blue host you can get credit for up to 45 days after the first click. Some people may not buy the product immediately after clicking on the link. So this 45 days referral time helps in getting more commissions. After your commissions have reached 100 dollars then you can withdraw it. The money is sent between 16 and 30 of each month.
Kajabi
If you want a simple blog then Word press is good. You can have free word press integration after registering through Blue host. If you are intending to sell digital products and online courses then Kajabi is great option. It offers website building, landing pages, product launches, email campaign and logistics’. So you get everything you need and the price is reasonable for the services offered. You will get a commission on each sale made within 30 days of the link click provided the purchase is made from the same browser and within the time period.
Convertkit
It is a more effective email marketing tool than Mailchimp. You will get good value for the price you pay for their service. You will earn a commission of 30 percent for every customer you convert through the link. And it is not a onetime commission but you will get paid as long as the customers convert account is active.
Elegant things
It is a very good resource for bloggers who want to create beautifully designed websites. You don’t have to be a professional designer or hire one to create your website. It provides the highest commission percentage within the word press theme companies. You will get 50 percent commission for every sale made through the affiliate link. This is the best in the industry.
Grammarly
It is the best in the market today and even the free plan can spot the most mistakes out of other similar websites. You will get 0.2 dollars for each free user and 20 dollars for premium registration. The free plan is good enough. When someone clicks your affiliate link and installs the extension then you will earn. As the registration is free so more people will likely install it thereby compounding you income.
LeadPages
As an affiliate marketer your primary aim is to convert as many visitors to your site. Also you would like to collect as many email addresses as possible. This website will help in creating effective landing pages to convert you visitors. They offer a commission of 30 percent.
Rescue Time
This websites analyses and gives you report on how you spend your online and offline time. It will track which websites and apps you visit and how much time you spend. This information will help you to stay focused and block those sites which are distracting you. You will get 15 percent paying referral commission. As subscriptions are monthly so you will keep on getting it as long as the subscriber is active.
Audible
It has the largest collection of audio books. You can run it in the back ground and keep working. It has 3 plans.
The gold digital membership, where you get 10 dollars for each premium membership. The free trial membership where you will get 5 dollars. The audio book purchase, where you will get dollars for each purchase.
Virtual staff Finder
As the name suggests here you can hire virtual staff so that you can focus on the more important works. Though there are sites like Fiverr and Upwork for hiring ghost writer or virtual assistants or social media manager but here you will also find people who are more consistent in their work. They do all the background check and interviews and will give you the top 3 contenders.
10 types of 30 year old single guys
If you find a group of 30 year old guys then you will surely find one guy still living with his roommates, another dropping off kids to the school, a few doing very well in career, a few soul searching still and one still looking for work. Some will say they are still feeling hopeless and a few will say that they have figured it out all. 30 year old guys are a weird bunch.
I have just tried to group them under different categories.
The total package
The total package is a complete deal. He went to a great college, is in a high flying job, he is smart and handsome, a sports buff, a music lover and a world traveller. He is not the workaholic type but is a family man type. He is caring and compassionate and passionate He is the hard to find type which girls scout for. He is still single immersed between his terror of being single at 40 and, maintaining his superhuman standards.
The new lease of life guy
He is the one who has been dating his long term girlfriend but things are not going too well and decided to break up. Now he is like a free bird that has got a new lease of life and enjoying it to the full. He dresses up well and goes around looking for the latest exploit.
The obedient son type
He is the one who lives with parents and will marry the girl of same ethnicity or his parents will not accept it. The last time he brought his girlfriend home and his mother made it clear to the girl about the rule, he has now stopped trying to convince his parents.
The misogynist
The women hate a misogynist and the misogynist hates the women. H doesn’t understand much about women but will tell you the number with whom he slept with. In earlier days he did quite well with the girls when it was all about physical relations but now only the girls with low self esteem are attracted towards him.
The guy who peaked too early
This is the guy who was every 18 year old girls dream. His super confidence level took him through the college days and he landed a beautiful girlfriend in the early twenties. He broke up with his girlfriend at 24. Since then high confidence level has gone down and his expectation of a jet setting career did not go well. Now girls are not giving much attention to her and now he has cranked down his standards a few big notches.
The guy who is finally a good catch
After losing weight and a decent wardrobe make over and a success in career early in life, he is now getting more attention than what he got all through his life. Girls find it sweet how such a guy has maintained his humility. He thinks every other girl out of his league. Once this new found confidence sinks in he is now an envy of his male friends.
A normal guy still waiting for the right girl
He likes his job and enjoying with his friends and is not bothered about being without a girlfriend. He is not in a hurry to be in a relationship and strongly believes that he will meet the right one in due time. His parents are worried as to why he is not dating anyone; his friends are trying to figure out what is wrong. He appreciates all the unsolicited support but want to be left out of the conversations about settling in life.
The guy who can’t believe he is not married yet
He is the one who is always on the online dating sites. In the college days and twenties he always had a girlfriend and enjoyed pitying his single friends. But now at 30 he is without and serious relationship and always hunting for one. He has three dating profiles and when someone asks him hy he is single he says that he is busy with the job.
The in the closet guy
He is the handsome guy with a great job. He is funny and charming but the only thing is that he is not attracted to the girls and is an introvert. He is tired of being questioned if he is a gay and clearing it a hundred times. He is still ok being single at 30.
The one who has fully quit
The guy who never tried too hard to be successful but he believes he tried very hard. he refuses to go to bar and try the dating sites. The X box which was in the closet has come out again in the drawing room and is his best companion. The guy is afraid about a lot of things but it manifests in the form of denial.
A story of happiness from a far off place
Let me tell you a story.
This is set in Africa. An anthropologist went to Africa to study a remote tribe and their way of life. After spending a considerable time with them when his work was over he was planning to return. On the day before returning he decided to gift the children something. So he collected fruits from the local area, put it in a basket a tied a ribbon around it. He put the basket under a tree and then drew a line on the dirt about 50 meters from the tree. He assembled the children and told them that whoever reaches the basket first will get the prize. The kids were excited and he said ‘go’.
Surprisingly he saw that the kids held each other’s hand and started running towards the basket together. After reaching they sat together and ate the fruits. He asked one of the kid and she said that how can one be happy when others are sad.
This story is an amazing example of how a society thinks and also how the young generation keeps the values of the society intact. This is against the natural instinct of humans but an example of how a community can have a positive effect on its members.
Now we return to our modern city bred community. Here things are different. Here it is a race of individual success and achievement even at the expense of community. Here success is measured by individual achievements. In that tribe the philosophy is, if the community wins then the individual also wins. But in developed communities it is the opposite; here individual wins are added to decide the success of the community.
That African community believes in working together as a group and there is room for everyone on the top. They work hard not for the individual gain but everyone in the community so that there is abundance for all.
We need to accept the fact that the modern community in the so called modern places have a fractured community system where amalgamation and interaction is severely lacking. Here the purpose is to extract more from the community rather than to give something to the community. The consumerist and capitalist economy system has made people individualistic and selfish. For this reason we see so much disparity in the society of modern culture. We see height of wealth assessment to the depth of poverty.
The community structure of that African tribe is better because everyone is committed to the growth of the community. The growth of individual contributes to the growth of the community and the vice versa also. The growth of the community leads to the growth of community. This helps in better interaction and empathy within the society. The happiness index will always be better here than the modern communities. But it is not socialism or communism, its just system which gains collectively without the drawbacks of socialism and communism.
This leads to an important question of education. These African people are not educated as per our modern perception, but they have a better understanding which is the aim of an education system. Our modern education system is more of a materialistic education system where it is measured by which country produces more materialistic things. We can learn all the great things of science and philosophy but it doesn’t make us more knowledgeable and matured. Most of the bookish knowledge is never used by a person all through his life.
These people without any modern education have learnt the way of life as it should be, better than us. They may not enjoy all the materialistic benefits of the modern world, but humans have survived for thousands of years without these modern gadgets. But once we are used to these things now we cannot go back to that lifestyle. But with modern education they can come up to the modern standards of living. They are more tied to their roots and a tree with deep roots survives the storm better.
A strategy for an optimal life
This is not about a formula for success or money. This is for the common person like me who wants to lead an optimal life without any high flying ambition- just a simple life. Our life is just like a wheel. The strength of the wheel comes from the spokes. If the spokes are tight and strong then the journey will be smooth otherwise it will be an uncomfortable ride. I will call it the six spoke theory.
1. Body – how well you maintain your body, its strength and stamina and it also includes your diet.
2. Mind- how well you regulate your mind, gain knowledge and also rest it.
3. Love- how is your relation with your friends, colleagues, family members and spouse.
4. Work- how much satisfied are you with your work and the remuneration.
5. Money- how do you spend and save your money.
6. Entertainment- How do you keep yourself entertained, do you play any games.
How balanced a life you are leading by balancing these 6 things will determine whether your satisfaction level. If you are able to balance these things then you will smoothly sail even without doing anything which others claim to be a successful life.
How to use this in daily life? You will notice that every one of this is important in its own right and it cannot be said that one is more important than the other. Though money and work seem to be more important but if we give more importance to these two then we will be neglecting the things which balances money and work.
We generally give more time to our work and so we allocate time on the basis of the importance we attribute to a thing. If we give mote importance to work so we give more time to work. But that would be a wrong approach; rather we should allocate our energy to the different spokes of life.
When we give more time to work, we have to ensure that we give only that much energy to it which it deserves. The six spokes are taken as six equal blocks of energy. Out of the 18 waking hours if we are giving 10 hours to work then we should utilize only 1 block of energy for those 10 hours. This is real balancing because we cannot balance time allocation in a day.
Here are some guidelines.
• Give full attention to the people you love and support them. Don’t focus on quantity but the quality. You may not be able to give full attention to all your loved ones at the same time but make sure that no one is left out once in a while.
• Treat money with respect and don’t waste or squander it on unnecessary things. Understand that money will not buy you happiness, so stop running after latest fashion or new gadgets. Make your priorities clear about what you what to do with your money.
• You can entertain yourself by playing, games or watching movies or TV, Spending time with friends. Some days you will have more time for it and some days you will have less. Time is not important but what is the effect of that entertainment on you is important.
• The body is always working so it has the most wear and tear. Therefore always try to keep it fit and agile. This will help you move through the day. It is up to you what you prefer to do, it can be yoga or running or gym or any games. Though it can be tiring but it will actually rejuvenate your body.
• The mind just like the body is also always working, so it has to be regulated so that it is used properly and not misused. Therefore there is no place for negative thoughts or thoughts about situations which is beyond your control or wishful thinking. Sleep is important because it is only then that you mind goes to rest.
• Work has two purposes; it keeps us busy all through the day and also is the source of our income. It also takes the most time out of our daily routine. We therefore focus more on work and this leads to over working and stress. Give importance to work but remember it is a part of the six spokes and not the complete wheel.
To make this theory applicable in your life you have to take be careful in planning your priorities. 99 percent of the people live a normal life without any high ambitions or effort to achieve those high ambitions. But there is a difference between a normal life and an optimal satisfying life.
How to handle when you lose job and feel lost
Losing job is one of the worst things that can happen to us. It is unpredictable and come as a shock to us. Over the last few months due to pandemic, many around the world faced with this situation and they were in a lot of stress about it. Some even had family to support and they were not earning that much that they could run the household for long without any source of income. Such situation is common throughout the world and other than the pandemic it can be because of economic slowdown or restructuring or even cost saving by companies. A lot of thoughts clog up time mind at the same time and its cumulative pressure can be overwhelming. But slowly we will have to pick ourselves up and move forward. Let’s see what can be done in such a situation:-
Feel
Such a situation means that a significant part of your identity is gone and you can’t do anything about it. So it is normal to have a lot of negative feelings like sadness, grief, insecurity, anxiety. These all have a cycle so let those emotions have its full cycle, only then will you be able to overcome it. Grief passes through 5 stages, denial- anger- bargaining- depression- acceptance. You can create a vision board or write about your emotional state and what you are thinking; this will help you recognize your emotional weaknesses.
Your close ones
Your friends and family are your biggest support and in times like this it is better to lean on them. Don’t be shy of sharing your situation with them. These are the people for whom you matter, not your job. Once you share with them then they will support you, love you and encourage you. These people will take you out the park or for a coffee or for a yoga session when you will resist it. It may seem difficult in the beginning but it is best to talk to them.
Ask for help
This is one difficult thing – to ask for help, as we all feel uncomfortable about it. But we have to make us comfortable with this uncomfortable feeling. If we do not ask for help then it will not be forthcoming. You will have to make a list of people you need to approach for a new job; it can be your colleagues from your last job or the one previous to that. You never know from where help will come to you. Your friends and their links can also be a good place to start. So don’t be shy to ask for help as your options otherwise are very limited. There are people who will help in some way or the other, but you have to ask.
Create a routine
The initial few days will be difficult; you will be in the bed and pondering over things, battling your emotional state. You will feel like not doing anything at all, even your eating habits will be erratic. You will feel comfortable staying in the house and not going out, at the same time you will feel that the house is closing in on you. So it is important to create a daily routine as if you are still doing some work. Get up in the same time as you got up to go to office and follow the same routine as you did in the morning like running, yoga, meditation whatever it might be. Then go out to some coffee shop and sit and work on your resume, applying for jobs, making network etc and then return in the same time as you did earlier. This will help you keep engaged productively throughout the day.
Set small goals
Losing a job is not the end of the line. You need to set small goals like applying for 3 jobs per week, or meeting 3 people per week, doing volunteering once a week. These small goals will give you the list of things to do rather that idling away time and keep you focused and on track.
Enjoy the pause
Though this may sound counterintuitive but this is the time to recalibrate your life. Take it as a challenge thrown to you and test your grit. The lessons you will learn passing through this phase will ultimately do a lot of good to you. The turbulence will surely shake you but it is also creating space for you to grow and find new opportunities.
So keep a positive attitude and deal with it, as there is no escape from it.
Important tips to make progress in gym
Most of us have in some point of life decided to join a gym, of those some have actually joined, of them some have stayed for 3 months and most have quit before that. Those joining gym with the idea of a 6 pack abs or bulging biceps in 1 month are the majority, but when the hard work hits then most quit. Gym is not a shortcut to a toned body but a long term strategy to stay healthy, abs, biceps are just a by-product of it. Now gyms have many fancy programs like zumba fad diets and drinks etc. But if we stick to the basic then we will get the maximum result.
Today I will take about 6 weightlifting basic tips which will help you reach your target.
Think long term
As I have written earlier, most join gym with the wrong bent of mind. People are looking for short term targets. This is the major reason why most leave it midway. The body takes time to show result.
The goal is not to lose 30 pounds in 10 weeks but to regain the health. The goal is not to bench press 200 pounds but not to miss your gym routine. The goal is not to be the fastest in the race next month but to be faster than what you are today. Gym requires a long term commitment and discipline, if you are consistent over a long period of say 1 year then only results will start showing.
Schedule your training
Most people train when they feel motivated or else they will look for excuses like will I have energy to train today after office etc. Stop treating exercises as a thing which you do when it is convenient for you or treat it as if it is something extra in life. Set a schedule and stick to it. If you decide to do it 3 days a week then fix those 3 days and don’t miss them. Once you have fixed the day’s then change your daily routine if required to incorporate the gym timings. The occasional emergencies will be there when you will miss a day but that is normal and part of life. That may be beyond your control.
Make an exercise routine
You have to focus on a certain set of exercises which you have decided and then follow it. Most people just float around in the gym and do exercises on the basis of a vacant gym instrument. If you have a leg day then you should have a sequence of exercises which you will do with the number of sets and number of reps. Similarly for the upper body day.
Start light
Most common mistake for a new comer in gym is that from the start they go for heavy weights till failure. Our muscles are not ready now so if we start lifting heavy weights from the beginning then surely we will injure ourselves. We should start with light weights and let the muscles adjust to lifting weights and then only we should progressively increase the weight/ sets/ reps. It is common to see others lifting heavy weights and get motivated, what we forget is that they have been doing it for a long time to reach that stage.
Slow progress
Many people join the gym and follow the same routine and wonder why they are not increasing muscle or stamina. Some come and do a 2 mile in treadmill and then wonder that their stamina is not increasing. Once the body adjusts to a particular routine then you will have to level up or else you will not see improvement. When you start feeling comfortable in a particular weight or a routine that means it’s time to level up. You will need more resistance to improve. But this process should not be hastened, understand what your body is trying to tell to you. Don’t go to increase weights by 20 pounds at a time, it might injure you. Progress slowly so that it is easier for the body to absorb it.
Keep a record
This is important because it will show you the progress you are making and where you are stuck. Write down all the details like what work out you are doing, how many sets and reps, weight used, when you have increased your weight / rep / sets. Also take body measurement every 15 days to measure your progress.
In the beginning it is better to take a trainer who will guide you properly, rather than making a routine based on the internet. Once you have done it for at least 3 months then you can do it on your own.
How long will the random rewarder continue its injustice?
Successful people start early
At the age of 16 a boy dropped out from school. He along with a friend started a magazine and made some money by selling advertisements. As he had very little money so he started the magazine from an abandoned room in the church. After four years of running the business he now wanted to increase the business, so he started selling mail order records to students who subscribed his magazine. His mail order sold well and he built a record store next year. Then he decided to make his own record label and recording studio.
So he and one Mike Oldfield, a local artist created a hit song and it sold 5 million copies. His business flourished over the next decade and now he started airlines business, mobiles and trains and many more. And now after 50 years he has over 400 businesses and is a billionaire. He is Richard Branson.
Here is the story of how he started his airlines business, the Virgin Airlines.
He was in his late twenties and was not famous till then. He was on his way to Virgin Islands where a pretty girl was waiting for him and he did not want to be late. As luck would have it, the flight was cancelled and it was the last flight of the day. But he was eager to go so he talked with a chartered flight operator but could not afford the price.
So what he did was he took a card board and wrote on it Virgin Atlantic flight 29 dollars to Virgin Islands. Many who were missing the flight took it and now he had full capacity including him in the chartered flight and the money to pay for it. So they all reached Virgin Island that night.
This will give you some idea how rich and successful people think. The basic thing is that these type of people start early in life without being ‘ready’ as per common perception. He started so many a business that he would never have felt that he is ready to handle all of them. He had no idea of flying a plane or anything about it but still he started his airline business.
When you work on something important then you will never feel that you are ready for it. But the challenge, excitement and the confusion of it will still pull you to do it. This feeling of unpreparedness and unqualified will always be there. This is what holds us back and most of us stop here only. This first step into the unknown is the most important step in becoming successful. The plans can be changed and amended on the way but If you have the confidence you then it is always better to take the first step.
Whatever you are trying to do, be it writing a book or lose weight or anything, you need to make a start and things will flow out of it automatically. There is no right time for it, the right time is now. All the self made rich and successful people started the same way – no money, no resources and lack of experience but what differentiates is that they decided to start.
Not all have this level of conviction and confidence so you find so few of such people. It is there strength and our weakness, but still be find reasons to shift our failure to some other reasons. This is not only limited to the land of opportunities like America and Europe but also in third world countries you can find many examples of people who have become immensely successful because of this. So it is not the place but the person who decides the course of his destiny.
I see the same names popping up everyday among the top paid articles. Does that mean other writers are incompetent?
7 habits of high performance people
High performance is synonymous with success. But the definition of success is an individual thing. But still for 90 percent of the population it is money and/ or power. For the rest it can be well being and wisdom.
My understanding is that high performance people have:
• Fulfillment – they enjoy whatever they do.
• Freedom- to do whatever they do and enjoy financial freedom out of it.
Achieving goals is not one of the points because the goal post keeps changing with fulfillment. People remember your achievement and not your goals. People more than often accept mediocrity because though they have their version of success but seldom act on it. But such people don’t like other people getting successful.
So let us see what sets the high performing ones apart.
1. Value health – Ronaldo though well over 30 now can easily put a 20 plus player to shame through his physical ability. His body fat percentage is less than maximum players of his league and even at this age he is still the topmost player. And he is a consistent performer. Though we may think that he is a professional player so he has to maintain it, but the point is that he has maintained it to the highest level even in this age. That makes him a high performer.
2. Value time- Keeping in top health increases the time he will be able to perform. The burnout and retirement will be postponed. Everyone has the same amount of time, but these people don’t waste time and they increase the productivity within the limited time. They will rest only when required. Steve Jobs when he returned changed the production line to improve the quality. Effective time management means you know what work you should do and what can be delegated. High performers know the value of time.
3. Take advice from the right people- High performers don’t take advice or feedback from any one. They will take advice only from people who genuinely care for him or are experts in that field or who use his services and products. Listening to everyone will only waste his time. It is up to him how he views those opinions and whether to take some action on it or not.
4. High energy levels- High performers have high energy levels and high positive energy levels. They can work daily with equal zest and also influence others to do so with his positive energy. This helps other to work to their full potential those increasing productivity to the maximum level in their respective fields. Their body language shows it. They will generally stand with feet four to six inch apart, hand outside the pocket, shoulders backwards and will make eye contact.
5. Learn from failure- They are not afraid of failure. They know that it is bound to come. They just take lessons out of it, rectify them and move on. Failures are just like trampoline for them. It launches them to work hard to convert the failure to success. They also do not play the blame game; rather they are good at taking responsibility and fix them. Failures are just like challenges to them.
6. Seek clarity- These people have a clear mindset, they know what to do and how to do it. They have specific questions and demand specific answers. They don’t make New Year resolutions but they do it every day. Such clarity gives the right direction.
7. Self motivated- They don’t require motivational and inspirational speakers and books. They are self motivated, always. This gives them the boost to carry on even when they reach a level of success or failure. There is no magic potion for it, it is an inbuilt character. These high performers are always consistent without any need for external dose of motivation.
This is not some magic list. It is easily attainable by all. Some have the in born capacity and for others it is a matter of making a habit. There is no shame in faking it till it forms a habit. You may not reach there in a week or month but if you are consistent then you will surely reach there. It completely depends on you.
Can Face Book's Libra challenge money?
How would you like to pay- cash, credit or Libra?
Face book plan to launch its crypto currency Libra with the aim that everyone uses it to make payments as well as store it as money. Companies like AT&T and Whole Foods have started accepting crypto as a payment option. But the question which keeps arising is that do consumers need to use crypto currency to pay bills?
At one end it may make sense for businesses to open up as many payment options as possible as some crypto currencies have very low or nil transaction fees than credit card and this way companies like AT&T can save money. On the other end, no one seems to be over enthusiastic to make payments using crypto currency. Even P**nH*b started accepting crypto currency but hardly 1% use this option.
Libra wants to make crypt currency a viable payment option across Face Book, Whatsapp and Instagram, companies like Visa and MasterCard will be backing them and it will be supported by companies like Uber, Spotify and Lyft. Face Book will not have full control over it, as it will be managed by Libra Association, but Face Book will build it its own wallet and payment processor based on Libra. This will give the ability to its billions of users to make payment using Libra and also store it.
Bu the first problem which Face Book will face is to convince its users to buy Libra and then use it to make payments. To use a crypto currency the people will face two problems or dilemma – first is acquiring it and second is to find the worth of it. We face this type of problem when we go to a different country, like what is the value of Yen against Euro, where to trade it so that I can get a better rate? Why would people want to use it crypto when it is so much hassle free with a credit card?
BitPay and Flexa like payment systems have simplified the process for crypto currencies. Companies like AT&T and Whole Foods can partner with them and users can connect their wallet to these payment processors. Users can buy crypto currency from any of the exchange and transfer them to BitPay.
According to a study in 2018, only 5% of American held Bitcoin and most use it as a store value eyeing for growth in investment. So it is more like investing in a super volatile stock market than for paying bills. In recent years it has gone from $20000 in Dec 2017 to $3500 7 months ago. Anyone who can buy low and sell high can make a good amount of money out of Bitcoin, rather than willing to pay bills. It exists in the legally grey area with huge potential for earning or loss.
This feature doesn’t make it a currency which any one would not like to use for paying bills. If you have a phone bill of 50 dollars and it is due then you have to pay it. If on the day of payment the value is low then you will be making a loss. No one likes to pay with an asset that vary in value with time, would anyone like to pay the bills with a stock like Apple or Face Book?
Gaming store Steam dropped Bitcoin as a payment method in 2017. When users transferred crypto currency, by the time the transaction was processed, its value changed. BitPay tries to address this problem by locking the rate during transaction.
Libra is designed to work more like a stable crypto currency by linking it to an existing fiat currency. This solves one problem, but not all. It would still require some extra steps. You are paid in a fiat currency, and then you will have to convert it to Libra and then you will hope that the store accepts Libra as a payment option. Until then it is kept in some wallet and the currency can be used in only few places. Will it not be better to just keep it in the bank and pay using your debit or credit card?
In banks there may be a minimum balance requirement and hefty fees for credit card use, which is not the case with most crypto currency. Face Book is hoping that if the payment fees are kept low and a large number of businesses accept Libra then it can give a modern banking experience to more than a billion people.
Due to these inconveniences as of now Libra or any other crypto currency are not in a position to make it a part of our daily life.
Intermittent fasting
Do you think skipping breakfast is bad for you or staying 16 hours without food bad for you? You will have to reconsider your opinion. Intermittent fasting is actually an effective way to reduce fat and also stay healthy. I have been doing it and have noticed the change. I don’t feel weak or fatigued, rather I feel energetic and strong. It is easy to implement in your life, without any fad diet plan.
What is intermittent fasting?
First of all it is not a diet but a way of eating pattern. It is changing your meal routine and not what you eat.
Most of the diet plans have crazy routines with the aim to cut down you calorie intake. You may also have to spend a good amount of money to follow those diets. But here you eat what you were eating before; you just eat them in a restricted time frame. You are free to eat of your choice. In fact most people per meal in intermittent fasting. It is a good way to keep muscle mass as well as staying lean. As like any other diet plan, the purpose of intermittent fasting is also to lose fat.
How does it work?
For this you have to understand how your body reacts when you are well fed and how it reacts when it is in a fasted state. In your fed state the body is digesting food and absorbing it. It lasts from the time you start eating till 3-5 hours after it. When you have eaten something then it is difficult to lose fat as you have a higher level of insulin.
After this time gap your body is not processing the meal and it can last for 8-10 hours till you take the next meal. This is a fasted state where it is easier to burn fat as the insulin level is low. It takes 12 hours of fasted state for the body to start burning fat. For this reason intermittent fasting works in burning fat.
BENIFITS
It makes the days easier as you have to plan and prepare one less meal in a day that is the breakfast. If cooking was always a problem for you then you have one less problem and more time in the morning.
It helps in living longer. It has the same effect when we reduce calorie intake to lose weight. When we go on a fasting mode the body finds a way to extend life. With intermittent fasting it happens without depriving yourself of your favourite food.
It is much easier than dieting. Dieting means giving away your favourite food, and replacing it with a diet which you may actually not like to eat. But you eat it to follow the routine, this makes continuing a diet for a long time impossible. But here you are free to eat what you want so it will be easier to continue for a long time. The quickly adapts to the routine of the intermittent fasting.
Different routines of intermittent fasting
Intermittent fasting can be done daily, weekly and also on alternate days. The daily fasting is the most practiced one. The most popular is the 16 hour fasting and 8 hour eating period. You can decide for yourself at what time you want your 8 hour period to start and end. Most people keep the night time as fasting period as we are asleep most part of it. But depending on your work routine you can decide for yourself and there is no restriction to it.
A beginner can start with the weekly or the alternate day fasting. In weekly fasting you can keep one week fasting in a month or you can do once in a week also. Alternate day fasting is self explanatory.
Another important thing to know is that during the fasting period you can drink water, green tea of fresh lime water. This will keep you satiated if you start feeling hungry. Also it can be done by both men and women. Though the 16 hours time may look long but you will be surprised as to how easy it is to do it. Some people start with 12 hours rotation and then move on the 16/8 hour rotation also.
The irony and cheating of random rewarder
It is surprising how bot can be so biased and fake. I see so many common names everyday in the top paid writers. Top paid not because they are very good, but because they are old here.
If they had written on Bitcoin and BCH Blockchain hashing then they would have been handsomely rewarded. But for me it's zero.
This favouritism is going on daily as I daily check the top paid articles.
For some it pays within a few hours and for some it takes days and then gives smaller amounts.
If it cannot understand the article then it is his fault, why should the writer suffer.
The coder behind the random rewarder is a human so he will program it such a way that the bot cannot work neutral.
The bot wrote articles below 600 words will get very less tip, but I saw some smaller articles paid handsomely compared to full sized articles.
It is disappointing and demoralising that a bot can become a one eyed Joe.
@Bharti
