10 golden rules to be a happy housewife

Now a day’s being housewife is not appreciated. I don’t know about the west but in countries of the south East Asia, the culture of working women is the development of last 20-30 years. Before that working women were mostly on the field of Medical and government jobs. Now every woman wants to be financially independent. Being a housewife is like a bad thing and being working women is the ‘in’ thing. Due to this housewives have also developed a complex and have devised terms like ‘home maker’ and ‘stay at home mom’ to salvage some honour.

I will give some points to become a happy housewife and mother.

Stop cribbing

Stop cribbing about staying at home and looking after the children. You are the lucky one. Raising children now days is not an easy job and children actually need support in young age. It is your responsibility to mould and guide them through these turbulent times.

Be proud

It is far more difficult to stay at home and raise children than to work in office. Full time mothering is a full time job and no working women can say that they are doing justice to their children. You are strong that’s why you could take the decision not to go for job and be at home.

Look after yourself

Staying at home doesn’t mean being shabby and neglecting yourself. Don’t be shy of maintaining yourself and keeping your wardrobe updated. You are entitled to your beauty and life. When you go out dress at your best and put on makeup. Don’t consider yourself inferior to anyone.

Have s3x

You are entitled to your quota of love, cuddling and intimacy. Don’t expect that every time your husband will initiate it and you will follow through. If you don’t take initiative then slowly it will affect your marriage. In most cases it is the wife who pushes away the husband when it comes to s3x.

Create a beautiful environment

Your house is the place where your family will fall back every day. So create an environment of love and joy for your children and husband. They should feel peace while staying at home. It does not mean the physical cleaning and maintaining your house, it means to create a place of wonderful memories. These things seriously affect the child’s outlook and mentality. Try to create the best environment for your family.

Spend time with your friends

Dealing with household matters and motherhood can turn you lonely because you are always busy with one thing or the other. Do not cut off from your friend circle as they are a very good support system, also you will need some time when you are without any mental obligation. It is the time for you to enjoy, go out, and have coffee and shop. This will recharge and rejuvenate you. Me time is always important.

Make time for yourself

There may be a lot of work left like washing and ironing the cloth, cleaning the house and so on but sometimes it can wait. Take time to enjoy your time when the children and husband are no there in the house. Watch your favourite TV show, follow your hobby. Don’t feel guilty about it, it will make you feel calmer and more attentive when they all are back home. You will get new energy to handle them.

Don’t take it too seriously

Don’t be afraid to be judged by your children and husband. You are entitled to your share of mistakes. Sometimes you will find your husband not helping you and children are creating a nuisance and the house is in a mess. Such things happen and don’t take them too seriously. Being a housewife is a high pressure job and don’t be over cautious about it.

Appreciate your life

There is so much problem and suffering and poverty around and in your family also things will be difficult sometimes. But always appreciate what you have got, you are better off than most. So stop whining about it.

I will tell all housewives to sit back and look at your life. You are the one who is responsible to bring up the next generation of life with good values. Your work is no less important than those who are working; in fact you are doing the best work.