What a blessing I can and want to get for March 8th?
My project blog has been up and running for four and a half months - a decent age for this form of communication. In that time, I've been writing almost daily.
Some readers are surprised at the accuracy with which my posts appear in their news feed.
No matter what was going on in my life and no matter where I was (even when there was a bombing), I wrote and posted the message of the day. No circumstance has ever given me a reason to deviate from the rules I have set for myself, and that consistency is a sign of credibility for me.
In fact, it has been consistent and reliable.
In my creative calendar, I marked only one day with a hyphen, which indirectly demonstrates the exceptional nature of the events.
Today could have been the second day of silence, but half an hour ago my mother called me and asked
Article I. And it is thanks to her question that you are reading these lines.
The only subject I can write about is life.
The only thing I can do is to keep writing about life in English.
I do, but without much effort or commitment, and perhaps not as rigorously as before.
Since a week ago, every day has become a day woven of bits of happiness in a mood of anxiety, and if the mood needs no explanation, I'd like to say a few words about happiness.
Everything I do takes on new value and moves from the category of daily problems to the category of possibilities.
I go to work and think: how wonderful it is that I can still walk from home to the hospital in peace.
I get home and think of all the things I remembered before: that I can open the door, turn on the computer, change clothes and do my favorite things all day in peace.
The sound of a key turning in the lock, the cold water running from the tap, every step, every little thing, every hour is considered a priceless gift that requires nothing extra.
I drink my tea and enjoy everything that is characteristic of this state: the taste of the drink, the comfort of the posture and the temporary silence that accompanies the consumption of tea.
I vacuum the carpet and feel this situation not as part of a routine practice, but as evidence of my fitness, satisfactory well-being, and positive motivation to create cleanliness and coziness.
What a blessing that I have something and something to vacuum with!
What happiness that I can and want to do it!
The other day I was asked what gift I want to get for the 8th of March.
I'll be honest: none, except for March 8 itself and the end of this horror-war😪 !!!!
It seems to me that being able to welcome home another International Women's Day is a self-sufficient, expensive gift that needs absolutely no material support whatsoever.
To wake up and lie in silence, listening to the leisurely ticking of the clock...and hear the silence and see the clear sky without the streaks of planes and rockets.
To take a hot shower and, returning in warm clothes, make coffee...and no longer hide in the basement room from shelling...
To go out quietly to the courtyard, squinting against the bold rays of the sun...
Call my mother...
Flip through a recipe book...
I don't need anything else for March 8th!!!!!
And not just for the 8th, but for the 9th, and the 10th, and the 1st+, and the 12th...
*For all the days I need only what I have - the opportunity to live an uncomplicated life, just LIVE!!!!!*
And all these rapturous appraisals of the little things that weave the fabric of such a life do not contradict my anxious mood, but seem to be illuminated by it.
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07.03.2022.
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Are you scared? - How do you get over it and how do I do it
Panic attacks can be caused by poverty and can be particularly frightening in unknown ways.
In every decade of the soul's life, a person has experienced a panic attack at some point in their life, usually preceded by a stressful nervous breakdown.
**How does a panic attack occur?**
These are sudden, intense outbursts of fear, panic or anxiety, accompanied by physical and emotional symptoms. Most last between five minutes and half an hour.
During a panic attack, you may find it hard to breathe, sweat profusely and shake and/or feel a strong and rapid heartbeat. Some people experience chest pain and feel alienated from reality or themselves. Others think they have had a heart attack, and still others feel as if they have had a stroke.
If the panic attack has become a daily occurrence for the person, and they are fearful, anxious and frightened of the next attack, it may be a mental disorder rather than an isolated attack.
**Causes of panic attacks**
The causes of panic attacks and panic disorder remain unknown. The following factors play an important role:
Genetics -severe stress - stress-sensitive personality or a person prone to negative emotions.
Changes in certain areas of the brain -panic attacks can occur in stressful situations, but people can have a variety of triggers.
**Symptoms of a panic attack**
Panic attack symptoms usually start without warning and peak within minutes.
Common signs include intense fear, anxiety, panic, feelings of madness, loss of control and impending death.
However, there are still noticeable symptoms:
Shaking, increased sweating, chest pain, tachycardia, choking, fear of losing control or fear of impending madness, nausea while driving, dizziness, tingling or tingling in the hands, fright or madness, feeling faint and prone to fainting, crying;
Increased blood pressure.
**How to recognise a panic attack**
If you recognise that you are experiencing a panic attack, you can remind yourself that it is only temporary, will soon pass and that you are healthy.
Get rid of the fear of death or disaster. This may allow you to focus on ways to reduce symptoms.
It's not always possible to avoid the triggers of a panic attack, but knowing what triggers it can help you understand that it is that and not something else.
**Take a deep breath**
Although hyperventilation is a symptom of a panic attack and can increase fear, deep breathing can relieve the scary symptoms.
Any relaxation technique that relaxes the body's response to stress relies on proper breathing, especially deep breathing.
**Close your eyes**
Some panic attacks are triggered by visual stimuli. If you are in an environment with a lot of stimuli, you may trigger a panic attack. To reduce external stimulation, simply close your eyes during the attack. Then you can focus on your breathing.
**Focus on a specific object**
Some people find it helpful to find something to focus on during a panic attack. Choose an object that you can see well and notice its details. Describe its design, colour, shape and size. Concentrate all your energy on this object and the panic symptoms will disappear.
**Massage**
Massage is pleasant for the body and relaxing. Scientific studies have shown that it changes the body's biological composition and helps reduce the effects of cortisol (the stress hormone). Head massage relieves tension in the neck muscles.
**Warm your hands**
When you're stressed, your hands get warm as blood flows to areas of the body where there is tension, such as the shoulders and hips. And rubbing your hands, a fire or even a cup of hot coffee on your hands causes the parasympathetic system to relax.
**Repeat the phrase**
Repeating a sentence can be calming and reassuring during a panic attack. A simple phrase 'everything is fine' or a mantra that means something to you personally - repeat this mentally until you feel the panic attack begin to subside.
Seek psychological help.
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06.03.2022.
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Can magic help me find a job?
There are different types of soothsayers, fortune tellers, magicians and other mediums. Judging by their active penetration of all the known internet platforms, they are doing well, not complaining about anything, making money and actively promoting themselves. They are generally working and earning but not paying taxes (the latter is not accurate).
Somewhere, a banner flashed up on some website: a fortune teller with an unpronounceable name offering magical job finding services. The website address and nothing else. The site repeats information you've already seen, fictitious customer reviews and contacts with a simple feedback form: fill in all the fields and expect a call. Of course I didn't fill anything out. Obviously, this is a scam. But I wonder: if the site exists and the ad is being spread, does that mean someone fell for it? Is someone paying?
I've spent a lot of time looking for reviews of such services. The most common is advice on which magician to visit or what the ritual itself is, with the clarification that the magician is trustworthy. Definitely more reliable. I suspect these responses are written by the magicians themselves. Price information for these services is not available, which is understandable: these people are extracting as much as they can from each client. The results of their actions are predictable and without psychic abilities.
If you think like that, magic can really help you get a job. They brainwash him, give him the right attitude, promise him that everything will be done soon and he will go to his employer excited and with increased confidence. Who has a better chance of getting the job: the one who looks broken and depressed or the one who exudes confidence? The answer is obvious. But you don't need magicians or magicians to achieve the latter result. There are a million other ways to boost your confidence.
What do you think? Is there magic and can it be used to find a job or is it all a scam and a hoax?
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05.03.2022.
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Habits that make us angry.
Who wants to voluntarily dig into themselves, find their mistakes and work on them? Long, tedious and unpleasant. Far better to recognize your strengths and proudly proclaim them to the world. But it's possible to be an extremely talented, charming, wonderful person and have all that erased by habits that make you angry. *Here it is:*
The habit of only talking about yourself.
Always and everywhere. Even when we're not asked and sometimes not even noticed. You have to enter the conversation and express your opinion that no one wants. Remember a funny story about your own personality and laugh about it. Talk about your experiences and don't let anyone else care about them.
Unfortunately, people around us only care about themselves. They can't even dream that they can understand how we live, what our problems are, how we feel. Even if they do ask questions, it's only out of basic politeness, nothing more.
You have a habit of making promises and not following through with your plans .
At the same time, we have a very negative attitude towards those who do the same and don't understand why they allow themselves to do it. It's simple: they copy us and give back what they are angry about.
We have a habit of sharing details of other people's private lives
People have confided in us, told us something secret or not so secret and have told someone else secretly. That person may continue to tell you, only they no longer realize that this information is not for everyone. And so on down the chain, until the distorted information is returned to the sender.
It's a good thing that after another leak, the person who gave the information doesn't completely sever their relationship with us. But he will certainly be careful what he says from now on.
Enforcement Habit.
We weren't invited, but we came. We hear that someone is going somewhere - we ask them to take us with them. Our colleague lives nearby - we comfortably got into the passenger seat and asked him to take us there, stopping at the store on the way.
It's hard to imagine that if we had wanted to, we would have asked them to come with us. And that seems silly and not very pleasant. Begging never made anyone pretty.
The habit of living with a cell phone.
People talk to us, we talk to someone - it doesn't matter. We have a phone in front of our eyes all the time, doing something very important and outrageously interesting. We do everything with our eyes on the phone. As if a minute without it will lead to something terrible.
It doesn't. The world won't be destroyed if we put our phone away just for those few minutes when someone wants to take it away. But the quality of communication can be degraded. Yes, and the desire to communicate in the future.
It is up to each person to decide whether to get rid of these habits or develop and improve them. Such behavior cannot be called bad or good. One's goal may be to remain proudly solitary and deliberately upset others so as not to be intimidated. And if someone doesn't understand why they feel lonely, that's a clue to solving the problem.
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03.03.2022.
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What have you achieved?
A chance or not-so-random encounter that can spoil the mood for a long time: an old acquaintance, with a new car and a nice suit, as if he had just stepped out of the stylist's office. He exudes confidence, money and success. And there it is: the car didn't leave the showroom yesterday and the suit isn't the first time he's gone for a drive. No confidence, no charisma.
Pain, anger, rage. No anger, no anger. He has income, cars, foreign resorts. And what do you have? A regular job and the usual monotonous life of loans, pets and country vacations. All the injustice of the world falls on your shoulders in an instant. Stop it!
This is where the envy begins. It's good to quickly forget this encounter. But what if we don't? What if he dreams about it at night, reminding you every minute of his own failures? Nothing good can come of it. There are techniques that can help you, if not eliminate jealousy completely, at least reduce the level of your experience of it. Just ask yourself these questions and answer them honestly:
And how can you be sure that the beautiful picture you have in your mind when you meet him is the reality? The car may belong to someone else or it may be a rental. Just like the suit. The look is not difficult to shape with a little effort and skill. It's not hard at all to pretend to be someone you're not. And what can you say about that, other than the words of a friend and your own impressions?
What family does this person come from? You can prove all you want that you have achieved everything on your own, but if the parents have created the conditions for their child and provided him with everything he needs to realize his ambitions, the initial conditions do not suggest a nice-sounding substance. He is no longer alone. He is no longer a father and mother. Not alone, and not leaving everything behind. This is not a fact and needs to be checked.
Will he be able to hold his position and for how long? How many stormy rises and equally stormy falls has history seen? Some people manage to catch the wave of success and ride it, but they don't always manage to keep their balance and persevere - not always. If you are on top today, there is no guarantee that you will be on top tomorrow.
What void are you filling within yourself by showing off your wealth? Truly wealthy people rarely show off their financial skills. They don't stand out from the crowd in everyday life. The desire to show the best of everything at once is typical of those who want to hide their complexes, whatever they may be.
Is success of this type really success? Success is different for everyone. For some people success is money, for others it's a career, for others it's family. And what does success mean to you? What is closer: an expensive car and the loneliness that comes with it or a stable and happy family without the luxury?
Are you willing to trade everything you currently have, including family and friends, for that person's life? Yes, money, resorts, everything is wonderful. But who is there for him? The ones who flock like butterflies to the glow of the good life or the ones who really want to be there, no matter what and against all odds? And how many really work to relax like that?
We buy things we don't need, with money we don't have, to prove to those we don't care about that we mean something. And at the same time you make them jealous.
One can start to get jealous, but often only when the beautiful image falls apart and underneath is a plain, grey person or a person with a poor psyche.
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2.03.2022.
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Phone scammers: how to recognize and disarm
While uncertainty surrounds us and the future seems uncertain, the fraudsters are firm: they want to continue to take money from the citizens who trust them, as they have always done. Only perhaps a little more than before. The old tricks they use are now familiar to almost everyone. They are now smarter and more calculating and, therefore, more dangerous. But their patterns are still similar to the ones they used before. If the fraudsters were not repeated, they would be very difficult to detect.
Scammers can be identified by the following signs:
-The most common way to address you in a conversation is by your first name, without your father's name. No bank representative can stand such a joke.
- Scammers often ask you about the amount of your account balance. Bank employees will never ask this question, since they know down to the last penny how much money the customer has and in which account it is.
-Scammers may also try to find out what other banking products you use besides a traditional card. For example, if you have credit cards, debit cards, etc. Bank employees will not ask you about this. They are well aware of what you have and what you can offer.
- The criminals start the conversation by asking if someone is trying to debit the customer's account or asking if the customer has made any transactions on their account in the near future. But no matter what the customer has done to their account - no one from the bank will sit down to monitor the customer's account activity. There are many other tasks that need to be done. And how many customers the bank has and how many employees. It is of course impossible to keep track of all the transactions.
-Whatever happens to the customer's account, the bank will not call. Never! They may block the account, freeze the transfer, but they will never call. The customer, when they realize something is wrong, will try to contact a robotic responder and find out what happened, but the bank professional will not waste their time. The only exception is if you are a VIP customer.
- The bank representatives will not ask the customer to go to the online bank to confirm or complete the transaction. Instead, they call you at the office with your passport or do it all over the phone (activate, deactivate services, but not transfer money!).
- Scammers call more often than traditional numbers. They say there are cases where they change the numbers and call from the official bank numbers, but this is still very rare. Bank representatives always call only from the official numbers.
They communicate very convincingly. If you are not mentally prepared to deal with them, it is better not to continue the conversation and end it immediately.
Contrary to the widespread misconception that scammers give their victims' phone numbers to retail chains, this is not true. Scammers are too greedy to buy anything from anyone. It's much simpler than that.
**Beating the scammers is not difficult:**
- Under no circumstances should you give them your card numbers, account numbers, personal information or any information.
- Do not continue a conversation if you realize a scammer is calling you.
- If you are in doubt and think it is really the bank representative, end the call and call the bank. Any caller will know what is going on with your account and will tell you who did or did not call you.
- It's best to call the bank at the phone number on the back of your card or on the official website. The more you complain about the scammers, the faster they will block the numbers they call from and eventually get caught.
- Keep the official bank number in your phone book. That way, when they call you, you'll always know it's a scammer.
The above rules have been repeated many times, but scammers are constantly finding new victims. Repeat them again and be vigilant!
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1.03.2022.
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If you forget something, it doesn't mean it really happened.
His mouth was open in amazement. Her palms were wet. Pulse quickens. Body tense to the limit. Your brain chaotically recalls images of the past, but stubbornly refuses to show you what you've been told for half an hour.
The fascinating story your conversation partner paints with his words refuses to form a logical picture of your memories. He is convinced that the events described did not happen and doubts that they could have happened at all.
But his interlocutor insists. He describes the details in vivid detail. He repeats the words he said at the time. There is an understanding that the words could have been like that if these events had happened. But I have no memory of these events! No!
The longer this goes on, the more he doubts his own adequacy. You begin to believe the story, relive the events described, and convince yourself that you simply forgot. It is possible. Bad memory. Who doesn't?
The panic is unleashed. Anger stays to yourself. Perhaps a feeble attempt to justify the insignificance and insignificance of these memories. But inside, the anger is still there. And fear: what else can be forgotten? Isn't it time to see a professional?
You are trapped here. In fact, you haven't forgotten anything. The narrator says there was no event in which you were involved. Your memory is good. There's nothing wrong with that. What's not normal is someone manipulating your memory.
Yes, memories can be manipulated. Initially, it happens in small events. For example, recalling something that was mentioned in passing a week ago. Something trivial and insignificant. It will also be stressed that it was not said deliberately, but in passing.
Of course you will believe it. Do you have enough memory to remember every single word you say to someone in passing? It is strange and interesting why the interlocutor remembers it, but it doesn't matter. If it was, it was. Nonsense.
Then you move on to more serious memories, events that happened maybe a month ago, maybe a year ago. They may not be very significant on the scale of life, but they will cause surprise and initial doubt
Then something more serious will come up. But not immediately. Before that, you'll be immersed in small events that you won't remember for a long time. You will go through each stage:
- Denial - you still think it's nothing and doesn't matter. You will attribute it to your inattention or something else. You will try to remember. Sometimes thoroughly, sometimes less so. But the shadow of doubt about the truth of the past still lingers;
- Self-defense - proving it didn't happen. You may even remember what you actually did that day and that hour. In some cases, he even remembers what he was wearing. You'll try to prove your memories are false, looking for new evidence, but your insecurities will start to break down. Doubts about your own memory will intensify;
- defeat - the certainty that your memory is not working and that the events really happened. In some cases, your brain even painstakingly paints memories of events that never happened. And there you are not far from mental disorder.
The question remains unanswered: why does the manipulator need all this?
It is simple. The longer you are manipulated, the more you tend to believe in the truth of your words. After all, he remembers! He is sure of what he remembers! Here's what really happened.
Gradually you begin to trust and believe him. If he says it, it's true. He knows better. He becomes the authority. You must follow his instructions.
The moment you try to remember non-existent events, you are at your most vulnerable. He can be forced to do what he wants. And you will accept it.
That's all. Your will is broken. You've become an addict. Now you can be manipulated at will.
If the manipulation of your memories continues for too long, you can kiss your mental health goodbye. Permanent.
How to resist?
Trust no one. Trust yourself. If you think something hasn't happened to you, it has happened to you. Exceptions: if evidence is presented that cannot be disputed. For example, photos, videos. But even in these cases it is worth asking: is it fake? Modern editing possibilities are endless.
If you still have the worm of doubt, do not be lazy to look for other participants or witnesses of the facts. Preferably not the ones who told you. The picture may be completely different.
It is also likely that more people will prove to you that things happened in a way you don't remember. No need for conspiracy theories and intrigue. They probably don't remember anything themselves and will only listen to the reason of the person who seems most convincing. In essence, they are in the same trap as you, the lack of memories.
Trust your memory and it will not fail you.
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28.02.2022.
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How a woman can protect herself from anxiety
It is well known that in our families, the husband is the one who decides on the most important issues. It is he who decides the most important questions: who is responsible for global warming? Is there life on Mars? What are the economic forecasts?
The woman is usually left with less important, one might say frivolous, questions. For example, what will the family eat and what will they wear? Where will the children go to school and how many children will there be? Where will they go on holiday and where will they go on their days off?
It is true that this injustice is counterbalanced by the prevalence of teleworking today. In the past, many families could not solve the most important strategic problem: how to reconcile a woman's full-time job with household tasks and child-rearing, but today, with the help of the latest technologies, this can be easily solved. It's a triple win, so to speak.
For example, a woman goes on maternity leave. She gets 40 percent of her salary for free. She sits, looks at the soaps, sometimes does the dishes or mops the floor, what to do, presses three buttons. A good husband makes sure she gets telecommuting and doesn't ask to have her pants washed. And it turns out: and maternity leave, and part-time work, and the child itself grows up. A triple advantage.
It's all great, of course. But this, combined with biological circumstances, often puts women in a stressful situation. Stress, anxiety disorders and depression are diagnosed more often in women (although this may be because women talk about them more). And in situations of heightened anxiety and uncertainty, women are the first to react (but then again, they get right back on track, as historical experience has shown). That's why I think it's important for women in particular to remember the simplest ways to prevent stress.
Namely:
- Get enough sleep.
- Take time to rest
- Exercise
- Practice stopping anxious thoughts
- Finding ways to relax - from hot baths to walks.
And be careful with it:
- eating when stressed
- Information overload with negative news.
But there is a view that men are just as susceptible to stress, if not more so. They just react differently. Such ways include fretting about the little things in life, nagging and drinking alcohol, which I would also advise avoiding with all your might. It is better to use the methods I have reminded you of above than to ignore them.
In men, stress also has various consequences, from cardiovascular problems to sexual problems, which is a concern of mine, although it is not clear from my texts. So I just say: look after yourselves, my friends, look after your families and each other. Try to have a varied information content. I, for my part, will try to do that.
Today is the fourth day of the war....very difficult times in Ukraine... But we are holding on! Hitler cannot defeat us!!!! GREETINGS UKRAINE!!!!
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27.02.2022.
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What to do if a person scoffs
Once I asked you not to call you kitten, bunny, teddy bear. Second time. It doesn't make sense. All you get in return is something about love, friendship, what's the big deal? They don't understand that it's unpleasant or hurtful. Besides, it's ridiculous to make such a request.
Or if someone just calls you by your last name. It is pointless to remind you that you have a name. He cannot hear you. Or pretend to hear it and continue in the same way.
Another example: constant jokes and teasing, reminding you of the slightest mistake and putting them in the most unfavourable light. You blush, you turn pale, and you try to tear yourself away, but nothing helps. The man continues to mock you.
Let's start with the most important.
Why would a man behave like this?
Obviously not to amuse himself or others. At first glance, it may seem that this is the main purpose and you have been chosen to play the role of the clown. It is not.
The main purpose of this behavior is to throw you off balance. And the longer you resist, the more active and assertive your opponent becomes. This trick is actually very effective and works almost flawlessly. Once a man finds out what you can tweak - he won't leave you alone.
Okay. You'll throw them off balance, make them cry, make them angry. And then what?
Then that's it. A person under stress can't control their words or their behaviour. You can expect anything from them. He will certainly say things that he should not say under any circumstances. He will do something rash that will cost him his reputation, his career or something else.
The goal has been achieved. The usual manipulation.
How to handle.
First, you need to understand: this man communicates this way with everyone, and this is his mannerism, or just with you, and you are on a special pedestal in his eyes. If it is the first case, an adult, appropriate person will realize his mistake after a single (sometimes repeated) comment and stop this behavior.
If talking about it didn't help, it's almost certainly the second case. And here it is more difficult. The manipulator won't believe that there is no reaction to his behaviour on your part, especially if he has shown it before. On the contrary, he may act with redoubled force. And his constant intimidation (there is no other word for it) will continue to achieve its goal. No one can take it on a regular basis.
The situation looks hopeless, and in fact it almost is. Because there is very little possibility of truly effective action:
- Exclude this person from your life. Brutally, decisively, forever. It will not change. He will never. Make no promises. These people tend to betray themselves and after a while revert to their pattern of behavior.
-Honestly say that you understand this manipulation and that its purpose is to make you angry. Therefore, in the presence of this person you are now in complete control of yourself. This often works, but sometimes it is useless.
- Get down to his level and piss him off too. But this is not as easy as it seems. And it can eventually lead to a contest of wits and pissing each other off. Overall, it's a very good option, but if you're confident in your abilities, take action.
But it is worth assessing whether you are being mocked, teased or harassed. Could you just be too suspicious and offended for no reason?
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We are all human and we are all subject to God and to Him we are all equal. I wish everyone a peaceful sky over your head. Glory to Ukraine!!!!
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23.02.2022.
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How to react in situations where conditions or ultimatums are imposed
Situations everyone has been in without exaggeration: "Either you do this or...", "If you do this, then I...". Substitute your options.
This is abused by parents, forcing their child to do their homework: "Either you do your homework, or you stay home for a week," "If you don't study well, you won't get a present.
Abused by husbands or wives: "Either you help out around the house, or I don't need that kind of family," "If you spend the weekend with friends, I'm packing."
Employers don't deny themselves the pleasure: "Either you stay late and do your job, or look for another place," "If you don't go out on your day off for free, we don't need you."
The wording in the examples is crude and exaggerated. Although some have heard them in exactly that way.
In any case, all of this is blatant blackmail, ultimatums and conditions. Blatant crude manipulation, driving the interlocutor into a corner. Coercing the other to dance to his tune.
More often than not, all this is also accompanied by a rigid limitation of time to make a decision. This is especially evident in sales: "Either you buy it today at this price, or tomorrow, but at a much higher price," "If you don't buy it today, tomorrow the product may be gone. How can you not make a spontaneous buying decision?
A trap from which there is no escape. Choice without choice.
Take your time. It is clear that the first reaction will be to accept the conditions of the manipulator and do as he says. Or vaguely object, try to soften the terms, to bargain for at least some kind of indulgence.
But as soon as you do this, you are hooked without the right to get off the hook. The first concession opens up opportunities for the next. The manipulator will realize that this trick works for you and will use it again and again.
How to proceed
There are several options:
- Pretend to be willing to have a dialogue and discuss your options. Just don't ask for a postponement of execution, but specifically discuss the possibility. In exceptional cases, insist. The main thing is not to show weakness and a readiness to accept conditions.
-Set your own conditions in response. You an ultimatum, you an ultimatum in response. Beware! Could lead to a conflict or violent scandal. You should prepare for this in advance and conduct a dialogue in a calm tone.
- Reply that the ultimatums do not work for you, the conditions do not intend to and in general you are free to decide when, how, with whom, and what you will do. Are you not satisfied? That is not your problem. Also rude and can lead to emotional outbursts, but it's temporary. It won't make the manipulators leave you alone and stop pestering you with their conditions.
The stupidest thing is to show fear. There is no need to be afraid. All these blackmailers rarely go beyond words. The classic use of sedatives with demonstrative portrayals of malaise, which some individuals of both sexes theatrically suffer from, is nothing more than a one-actor performance for an unlimited audience.
Remain as you are.
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22.02.2022.
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Why you can't trust honest people
The truth and nothing else. All the background is in the palm of your hand. Nothing is a secret. And people who tell everything are proud of their honesty. They think it is their power, others remain ignorant. But here's the paradox: people who talk cannot be trusted.
Honesty is a flexible concept. Being honest is one thing, but being honest about the details of your private life is something else. Not only does it not interest anyone, but it harms your own peace of mind.
With such honest partners, however, nothing happens. Manipulators don't stick with them and don't use them, and what they say is hard to use against them. In fact, it is not possible at all.
The reason is simple: they are both honest and dishonest. Behind their apparent honesty they hide many interesting things. Things that can really hurt them. Behind the endless stream of empty details lies something real, invisible and carefully guarded.
What is most interesting is the single-mindedness with which they launch their stream of consciousness at others. It is simple. They want you to believe and trust them. This seems obvious until you ask: why do they need it?
Therein lies the trick.
Trust is the safest way to gain access to all of another person's secrets. Every day they tell you their family life story, you listen to it, you immerse yourself and then gently begin to share it yourself. First you tell the little things, then you get excited and tell the whole truth. Then you add more details. Before you know it, this stranger knows more about you than you know. He achieved one of his goals.
The next goal is manipulation. If you yourself have willingly told him everything, and even made a habit of telling him every day - well, how can you resist? Impossible. Even if the goal wasn't to manipulate or pull strings, you just take everything.
Another goal: connect with yourself. Some people can only make friends because they have nothing to offer others except meaningless chatter. They are not interesting. And through the "me for you - you for me" mechanism they give the impression of friendship, to which they cling with all their might.
Yes, these are the friends who call unexpectedly and talk for hours about the day. If they can't spare the time, they record endless voice messages, send funny pictures, etc. They have enough energy to run a small power plant.
There is another category of such sincere people. They are people with mental disorders. They do not distinguish between the private and public sector. They say what they think. But they are only a few. And they are the only ones who are truly honest.
The most dangerous game of honesty is played by those who hide serious dirt behind it. Perhaps their conscience bothers them, perhaps they are ashamed of what they have done, but they are afraid to admit something for which they must be held accountable, so they confess everything else. Absolutely everything.
From them you will hear the epic story of the temporary confiscation of the fist without permission, unbeknownst to you, and its triumphant return. You will hear a million apologies and vows that this will never happen again, under any circumstances. Unfortunately, however, no one will be honest about the money going through the company's accounts. Or anything else.
Truth for truth. This slogan is said or implied by those who are too honest with you. Stay away from them. You don't want their truth. Keep it to yourself.
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21.02.2022.
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Compliments you should be wary of
Do you like compliments? And the people who say them to you? Nothing better than a passing comment about how beautiful you look today! And the color of your clothes adorn you beautifully! That's fantastic!
But these are harmless compliments. You say them because you really mean them, or because you want to please the other person. In the latter case, it's also not without reason, but not without a caption.
In general, enjoy these compliments, appreciate them, and be grateful for them. And don't skimp on the compliments either. No one has ever felt worse about it.
There are compliments too, when you hear them, you need to listen, stop and find out what's really behind them. They are sweet as honey. They're withered. Glue. Leaving behind a sense of bitterness and loss. Here they are:
All compliments that, in one way or another, affect your mental faculties. For example: 'You, as a person with a broad outlook...', 'You, as a person with a higher education and...', 'You, as a person who best understands the subject...'.
The usual compliments as seen from the side. Even to match reality. If compliments on appearance seem like a subjective assessment, the ones listed are based on undeniable facts. Isn't that right?
They are not. You can have all the qualities listed in the examples, and that's great.
What is not great is what follows from these sentences. For example, "You, as an educated person, will agree with the proposed solution because it is optimal."
And you are trapped. An educated man? Educated! And if you are, you must agree with what is proposed, even if you disagree internally. Otherwise you come across as uneducated. And that cannot be allowed. After all, it has been announced to everyone: an educated man! And what is the logic: an educated man agrees, an uneducated man argues.
The compliments that affect your status. Examples: 'You, as a distinguished expert...', 'You, as a man of refined taste...', 'You, as a person to be looked up to and upheld...'.
These compliments are not only flattering, they are awesome. After all, it all depends on the opinion of others. Well, unless it's a truly proven fact and you've already been awarded the employee of the month statuette.
These compliments are scary because they force you to live up to expectations. They tell you that you are the best, so you have to act and think like it.
How do you think? Yes, as the compliment goes on to say: again, I agree with what I say next. Even if he doesn't think so.
Compliments on personal qualities. For example: 'You as a person are honest, honest, decent and ...'. Again, someone's subjective opinion. After all, you may not consider yourself such an angel.
But again, you have to meet expectations and agree with what follows. Otherwise, your golden man image will crumble overnight.
All these compliments are an old and worn-out manipulation trick that forces you to conform to someone's stated expectations and do what you don't want to do. Otherwise, the fragile image of a bright person will collapse.
The trick works flawlessly. Even people with maximum self-control fall for it. How can you disagree with someone who sees the best in you?
It's actually very simple. For example. And as an educated man, I am against that choice. That's all.
Be the wonderful person whose image this compliment has created for you. But be yourself.
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20.02.2022.
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Leaving an inconvenient question unanswered
Endless what, where, when, with whom, how, why. There is neither the power nor the desire to answer, especially the one who asks these questions. Culture, the status of the interlocutor, our own principles or whatever else does not allow us to determine how to answer. Nor is it possible to remain silent. Of course, they won't, but there may be consequences. So what should you do? How can you avoid answering an awkward question nicely and without consequences?
There are many situations where awkward questions are asked. Ask them if they are closely related to your own e.g. "When should I get married?", "When should I have a baby?" etc. Curious neighbours: "New car? Where did you get the money?", "I came home late last night. Where were you?" Colleagues: "New clothes?", "Where were you this weekend?", "Where were you on holiday?". At a job interview: "When are you going on maternity leave?", "What are your plans for your personal life?". Some of these may be ignored, others may be said to be irrelevant, and still others you may have to answer. For example:
If the question allows, answer the part that does not violate privacy boundaries. Or move on to another topic. An anecdote is a great illustration of the technique:
A student is taking an exam in zoology. He only knows about fleas. During the exam he gets a question about dogs.
The student starts:
- Dogs are fur-covered mammals. They have fleas in their fur... (all about fleas).
Instructor:
- Okay, young man, tell us about cats.
Student:
- Cats are mammals covered with fur. They have fleas in their fur... (all about fleas).
Teacher:
- Let's talk about fish.
Student:
- Fish are not mammals. They have no hairs. They are covered in scales, but if they did, they would have fleas inside them.....
Lead a long monologue about everything and nothing. Such monologues work particularly well if you say them as boringly as possible, stretching out the words and pausing between sentences. You can start off far away, but you usually end up going in a different direction. As a result, the interlocutor will either forget what you are asking and leave you alone for a while with your questions, or if you are persistent and have a good memory, you will ask the question again and demand an answer. In the latter case, you can rest assured that at least you tried.
The Jewish trick of answering a question with a question works well in most cases. If abused, especially in the case of a particular person, it may not work. If the person you are talking to gives in and starts to answer your question, the dialogue can continue, "Why are you asking?", "Why now?", "What are you going to do?", "What will this lead to?".
- Getting the other person's opinion on the question asked is also a great technique. "What do you think?" or "What do you think?" - If it works, nodding and nodding in response can lead to a lengthy conversation and you can get a lot of useful information at the same time. The key is to agree regularly and remember to say "I think so too! This technique is also good because it boosts your interlocutor's confidence and makes him or her believe that you are a great person. People like to be asked for their opinion.
It's a masterstroke to turn a question into a joke. But you have to be careful with it and have a very good sense of humour. Under no circumstances should you use black humour that implies something inappropriate. And above all: the joke or anecdote must not offend or embarrass the person you are talking to.
Avoidance is an art. However, these techniques should not be used constantly. Someone will be offended and someone will stop talking to you. It's best to make it clear to the interviewer that your question is uncomfortable, too personal and that you don't want or are unwilling to answer. This is more honest and makes it clear that you should not be approached with such questions.
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18.02.2022.
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How to become an object of universal hatred through food
The constant need to eat is annoying in itself. Gluttony is generally considered a sin. But you should eat, and eat regularly. At home, you can indulge in hedonism and eat all kinds of food and snacks without disturbing anyone. The family will understand. At work, however, you may become the object of universal hatred because of the food you eat.
For example, you could bring a delicious oven-roasted chicken to work. It's delicious, but the smell will waft around the office where it's stored. The tempting spices will bring on the appetite and distract you from your work, making you think about something other than the task at hand. Colleagues have only one desire: to find the source of the smell and destroy it. And the person who brought it to your workplace.
Or the slices. They may be tasty, they may be beautiful, but even if you put them in a safe, you won't be able to hide the smell. And those ribs will smell like everything else in the neighborhood. Perfumers can't get a scent as long lasting as chops. Only the perfume smell is more noticeable and doesn't cause as much negativity.
Everyone seems to know about onions and garlic, but there are those who like to carry some extra onions and garlic or order it for delivery. The smell coming from the food can be tolerated somehow. And the smell you get after eating onions and garlic is not saved by anything but distance.
Cabbage can also help to trigger universal hatred. Especially sauerkraut. Better still, steam them. It's the smell that makes even cockroaches flee and ordinary people lose their appetite for a week.
Fish heated in a common microwave oven can be torn apart on the spot. A peculiar smell is guaranteed for a week, as is general disgust and disgust. The fish may taste good, but it doesn't smell good at all.
Oranges, tangerines and other citrus fruits are a great way to get your co-workers to eat their own. They smell good and are pretty, but they'll whet the appetite of anyone within a ten-metre radius. If there's plenty of time before lunch, it's best not to put yourself and others at risk.
And if your goal is to drive your co-workers crazy with rage, there's no better way to do it than with a rusty packet of the stuff. Trying to open it long and painfully is a great way to expose people with unstable psyches. The more experienced ones stop the regular retrieval with an equally unbearable rattle.
If your goal is to dine alone, the products listed are suitable. But chances are you won't be eating alone anytime soon if you're not working.
The second way to approach the moment of separation from your employer is to eat all these things not in a specially equipped dining room, as all organisations should have, but directly at work. But this is too cruel for the people around you.
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17.02.2022.
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We Don't WANT WAR!!!!!
I can't not write this article today. Guys, I'm afraid and I don't want this bloody and fratricidal war!!!!! Every night I wake up and go to look at the sky so there are no planes in the sky, I look and pray that the war will not start! Who doesn't know I live in Ukraine which is occupied by Russia. We are on the brink of war...
What will it be? Are we going to kill our relatives and our relatives are going to kill us? A large number of my relatives, my husband's relatives live in Russia: uncles, aunts, cousins and third cousins, and yesterday we were so happy: my husband became a grandfather! And my granddaughter is a Russian. If my husband goes to war, it turns out he will kill his grandchildren????
War is scary ... but who will die? Of course the peaceful people! This war has been going on for eight years now....
February 16 offensive: ***in Ukraine this day is declared the Day of Unity***🇺🇦
We constantly monitor the situation, calculate different scenarios, prepare decent responses to all possible aggressive actions... We clearly know where near our border the alien army, its numbers, locations, equipment and plans.
And also from various sources: February 16 is the day of a possible "invasion" of Ukraine by Russian forces. God, how scary that sounds😪
Me and all Ukrainians wish that never again would we hear the roar of guns, never know war, "no roar of guns, no bread cards, no seeing off to the front". Today's holiday is a great event in the life of all progressive mankind. I wish that the word war had never entered our everyday life, I wish that there had never been a war.
What is war? War is death, destruction, millions of broken lives, rivers of blood and tears. Do we need that? Of course we don't. We want to live in a peaceful country, not to fear for our lives, for the lives of our loved ones, for our homes.
A person should rejoice, make plans for the future, learn and develop. And how can you rejoice if shells are flying over your head? In my opinion, it's just terrible when you've worked, built, invested your whole life and at one moment a bomb lands in your house, you're left on the street wearing only what you were wearing. It's good if you're alive and no one in your family is hurt. But there are also cases when a person loses everything overnight because of the war: property, children, parents, and is crippled himself. That's how war destroys lives.
There are a lot of military conflicts and armed skirmishes of different scales on television these days, and they always bring death and destruction to civilians who don't take part in them at all. I think it's especially unfair when uninvolved people suffer. Politicians solve their problems, the military does its job, and it's the civilians who suffer the most who didn't start the war.
If you listen to politicians, they always try to settle their differences by peaceful negotiations, to avoid bloodshed. But then why are there so many wars around the world? Haven't people learned to come to terms with each other and do we have to kill each other? It is incomprehensible to me. How much money and resources are spent on military conflicts. And yet they could serve people for peaceful purposes. Instead of wasting money on wars, it would be better spent on inventing new medications or developing space flight. It would be far better and more useful than spilling rivers of blood and leaving scorched earth.
I'm pretty sure we don't need a war. And I think everyone would agree with me on that.
War! What War does. I don't even want to think about it. We don't know how many sacrifices you'll make, War. How much you've sacrificed, War! Separation! Tears. Waiting. How much trouble you carry within you, War. And how many days and nights of suffering Till the end of you. A terrible meaning you hold within you. But you were, War, and our men were not afraid of you And fell for our happiness. Our people showed love for the Motherland. When will you end, will you stop bringing pain to people? When will you end, War? And the whole world will begin to live with friendship and love for each other.
I and all Ukrainians wish that never again would we hear the rattle of guns, never know war, "no rattle of guns, no bread cards, no seeing off to the front". Today's holiday is the greatest event in the life of all progressive mankind. I wish that the word war had never entered our everyday life. ***Ukraine thanks different countries for supporting and preserving the integrity of our territories! Thank you!!!***
I don't want war, because I don't want you to take my parents and my whole family and all my relatives and the lives of all people!!!!
War, I want to say a few words to you about the fact that no one needs you. People are dying because of you. You wreak havoc, you wreak destruction. War, you are one of the worst things in life. You are the reason many children were left without their parents. After the war, many cannot forget You. That is how terrible You are! But after many years, people forget the war. And joy and gladness reign again.I don't need you!!!! I want to see the sun, the light, my parents and relatives and all, all my friends!!!!
***And at the end I want to say:***
Putin! This is our territory! This is our Country! We are not afraid of you! We are ready for war! We are strong! And our strength is in Unification! Crimea is ours!!! Donbas is ours!!! HAIL TO UKRAINE!
!!!!! GLORY TO HEROES!!!🇺🇦
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16.02.2022.
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Gifts.
All day long good mood, joy and happiness when someone gives you an unexpected gift. A postcard, a chocolate or something necessary and useful - it doesn't matter. A gift is always a good feeling. So who is willing to refuse willingly?
Many people are convinced that a gift is a sign of conscientiousness and good will. All parties are advised to give gifts to all without distinction to create a positive impression of themselves and establish a friendly (or less friendly) relationship.
But if in personal communication between ordinary people it can be as described above, it is different between a boss and a subordinate. Receiving a gift from a superior is dangerous and can have far-reaching consequences. And we are not talking about corruption at this point.
The point is that no one gives free gifts in business and in human resource management. Remember: no one, ever! It is a psychological ploy with far-reaching consequences and certainly not a sign of good behaviour and generosity.
Need examples? Okay. Chew gum on the bill after dinner at a restaurant. You think that's customer service? No, it's not. No, it's not. He's trying to convince the customer to tip him more. Candy at counters in banks and businesses isn't about customer service either. Candy has a positive effect on morale and there is a high probability that a customer influenced by candy will request more service than originally planned.
In psychology, this is known as the principle of reciprocal exchange. One of those who made it popular was Dale Carnegie, who promoted the rule of "give first and receive in return" in almost all his works. But Carnegie was not its inventor. In fact, many rulers, and not just since the founding of the world, have applied this principle.
The principle of reciprocal exchange is the universal principle of acceptance. In other words, it works almost always and everywhere. And interestingly, we observe it very rarely.
The principle of mutual exchange makes us feel indebted to the giver. You gave us candy? We owe them a treat in return. Invited to tea? We should invite them back. And so on, ad infinitum.
The most unpleasant thing about this principle is the unequal exchange. Today they have given us a chocolate, tomorrow they will ask us for a much more expensive favour. And it will be hard to refuse, because the sudden pleasure has left pleasant memories and feelings. Now we feel that we are indebted to this person internally.
The manager who gives gifts to his subordinates often starts from the same principle. They give their employees fruit, candy, lunch or other treats. He brings souvenirs from trips and small nice things. The subordinates are delighted. Behind their backs or in their eyes, they admire the generosity of their superiors. Romance is followed by responsibility.
How can you refuse such a good boss's request to stay late after work or go out on his statutory day off? It's that good! He loves you, takes care of you, feeds you and gives you gifts.
See the odd exchange in action: you have to work on your day off to get chocolate or a thingy. And the more often employees get souvenirs and sweets, the more obedient they feel.
It also leads to employees not being able to leave a manager because internally they feel they haven't worked through all the magnets and cookies. Working conditions are becoming increasingly intolerable, wages have not changed in the last decade and workers are stuck in their jobs. They work on the gifts.
It is possible to resist pressure from your boss if you understand your true motives. It's more expensive to work weekends. Overtime must be paid. And no one asked for gifts. It's his goodwill. You don't owe him anything.
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15.02.2022.
@Belozoriana
Painted beauty
I've worn makeup every day since I was 14. I can't remember leaving the house without makeup at least once. Except maybe the beach, but that doesn't count. I like to be beautiful. I'm beautiful when I don't have moles, when my eyes have the right line, when my cheeks are rosy and my lips are plump, and there's no pumpkin gel, just pencil and gloss. I can paint without being noticed, or I can paint so everyone thinks I'm in love because I'm glowing. And it shines in all the right places with the right powder and a good highlighter. And every morning I decide how I look, but every morning afterwards I look in the mirror and think: "What a beauty, for God's sake!". Yes. As long as I don't think of myself that way, I don't leave the house. And for the 15 minutes I'm in makeup, I feel good. And yes, I can see that I feel better with makeup than without. And why get worse when you can get better?
And so much more - furs, dresses and tights. Yes, I agree it's hard to wear them all the time. At least because it's uncomfortable to walk in heels, especially in winter and in the realit, and socks sometimes tend to fall off suddenly. Somewhere in the middle of the day and at the most important time. Sometimes I can be a real European, which we are so forced to do these days. "What's this beauty, folks? It should be pleasant!!!!" So I put on a pair of jeans, a jacket and a pair of miserable shoes. Then I went to work. For a day, for two days, for a week. I feel good, yes. They're warm and dry, and there's no wind in my pants. And I'm only beautiful because of my face, which I can't stop, it's a habit, bitch. And after a few weeks I usually think I'm 80 years old. I'm not senile, I'm relatively awake and happy. Yes, I haven't worn stilettos in a long time, I can't even walk on two inches of smooth asphalt, and that's in good weather. I don't wear makeup because I can't put makeup on my old skin without looking like a clown. I don't wear jewelry because it doesn't match my dark spots. I probably don't wear light clothes either. Why is the whole street looking at me? And then suddenly I have a whole day with my age. 24 hours without getting old again. So what? How will I dress? For this day that I have? In a bulletproof jacket and shitty shoes? And, you know, that really helps. I'm back to dresses, tights, stilettos and jewelry. No, not the mythical prince. So for me, then, at 80, I don't blame myself for the years when I could have been beautiful, but not for the laziness. I walked with great ease and comfort. And if you think about it, the only thing that is objectively not comfortable in winter is high heels. So I forgive myself for their absence.
Or here's more underwear. I rarely see famous women in underwear. I was sure that, like me, they would take their clothes off at any moment and that there was no shame in being on the Victoria's Secret runway. Maybe I would lose weight and get a tan. But I never worry about underwear. Then I saw that a friend of mine had the most enviable fiancé in all his underwear. At first I didn't know what it was. I only wear it to the gym or to shovel the house in the summer, so I don't mind getting wet. Beige, seamless, boned, comfortable, yes. But not comfortable at all. "I've got the prince, so can I relax? Is underwear for men? Don't you want it? But he saw me in underwear for two weeks. And when he arrived, he emptied the wild orchid, how embarrassed he was. I get points for that. The first thing I'd do if I were over 80 is put on underwear that would make an impression. I think what I'm wearing now...
So I don't understand the attack on our female compatriots. That you can see them a mile away. Yes, of course, in the heat, in socks, with heels and eyelashes a mile away - it's too much. But a grey mouse in ballet shoes and lipstick is too much. Or here's another one. It's worth noting that it's makeup, so it's instant war paint, okay, admit it.
Why is she the only one there, or why not? There are pretty eyes and a subtle blush that draws clearly, but can it be done in moderation? And now there are professionals teaching this.
I realized it recently, oops and aah. Makeup methods from 30 years ago are hopelessly outdated and I really wanted to understand the importance of concealer, highlighter and makeup application. I hired someone who spent 6 hours teaching me a whole new world! I even realised that all my Dior and Lancom purchases were a waste. That there are so many other companies out there now. Ten times(!!!!) cheaper and no worse. I have a whole bag of unnecessarily expensive cosmetics that I'll never need because my foundation turns out to be incompatible with powder, and I'd better not use liquid eyeliner because I'm not very good with jewellery. So I immediately gave this bag to Sonia, but who else? My son is angry, she's happy, and I'm glad she's not missing out on the pretty things she's at an age where she can experiment. And six months of reconciliation is a double celebration for me. So unusual, so new, so appropriate and so easy to wash.
What's the current fashion in natural products? Why, if you're wearing a stretchy but definitely insanely comfortable t-shirt, sneakers and shapeless jeans, must you be a self-sufficient and smart European woman? And if she's wearing makeup and high heels, is she a divorced woman from the former Soviet Union looking for a husband? Or are you going on holiday? But going to work every day like that - is that a sign of a bad brain? And don't tell me that European women don't wear makeup, but they are very well groomed. Manicures and pedicures are a hassle, and a good beautician is affordable for a few. Our people take 100 times better care of themselves, even if not everyone can apply makeup, but that can be remedied. Better many beautiful women than none.
What could be more beautiful than meeting a woman who has spent at least 15 mornings (or better yet an hour) pleasing the world with her appearance? That's why I don't want to hear these lazy exclamations. Come on, beauties!
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14.02.2022.
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Which is better?
Not everyone can find a job that satisfies them and pays well. Most often it is a situation where good work is worth little or where constant stress and tension are rewarded with a high income. It is difficult to choose between the two. The situation itself is similar to the eternal philosophical question:
"Which is better: to be rich but sick or poor but healthy?"
Of course, being rich and healthy is optimal. But what is optimal in a work situation?
If you are in a situation where you love your job but you are paid a low salary, you will not achieve anything good. We will not deal with the relativity of wages where one person receives a low salary and another receives a regular salary. Let's consider a situation where the salary is very low and it is impossible to live without additional financial support from parents, spouse or others.
*Then why is it bad?*
- Even the lack of a regular income makes you feel inferior.
- No money, no opportunities
- You have to deny yourself many things, even the smallest.
- Lack of a financial safety net
- Unexpected expenses are an unbearable burden
- Inability to maintain good health
-People get used to getting less and no longer value their own work.
Low income can only be justified if there are people to provide additional financial support. But the question remains: What will you do when that support stops? Nothing lasts forever and everything is very unpredictable.
The second way to accept a low income is to have additional permanent sources of income. The key word here is "permanent," otherwise it doesn't make sense. But even then, it's worth thinking about how you can supplement your finances from these sources rather than working for a pittance at your "favorite job." After all, sooner or later the work goes out, and not always voluntarily.
And now we come to the second case, when the job is not very good, but pays well. Is the good pay worth it or not? Let's start with the disadvantages of the situation. Here they are:
- Constant stress and nervous tension will harm your health
- No satisfaction in your life
- Work becomes hard work.
- Constant teasing deteriorates your relationship with the people closest to you.
- Self-esteem suffers because you feel humiliated.
Of course, this is all very individual, and the symptoms are not 100% the same for everyone.
Despite all the disadvantages, the positive aspects of a low-paying job outweigh the disadvantages. At least the person has enough money to spend on something else. For example, do sports to relieve nervous tension, find a hobby for the soul to restore the balance of forces, relax to improve your health. In a pinch, you can go to a psychologist with your hard-earned money to get your mind going, and the job you don't like will be no more.
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13.02.2022.
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Your words were twisted and used against you.
You have a good memory and have never lost your decency, but someone claims that you said exactly the same words a week ago, at the same time and with a specific meaning. And there is nothing to disprove this, and you will find no such thing in your own memory.
Unless it's something serious or important. You joke, you blink and you forget. But what do you do if it becomes serious and affects your work, your relationship or your life? What do you do? After all, your own words are used against you and you risk losing something!
First you need to recognise that your opponent is probably lying. Yes. He's only lying because he knows he can't disprove or confirm it. He can't do it either. You rely on his confidence and take what he says for granted.
Secondly, you should know that it is the most trivial and dishonest manipulation that will make you feel guilty and make you justify it by appealing to your memory, circumstances, mood or anything else. If you believe that, you are addicted.
Obviously, realising these simple truths won't make you feel better. So you've realised that it's all about deception and manipulation. What's the next step? There's another mistake. Once you understand cause and effect, you've taken matters into your own hands. This is the key to success for the further action that is needed.
Look outside yourself. If you have already felt guilty or helpless because of what you have said, you will probably put your head down, lower your head, look at the floor and blush. This is a normal physiological reaction.
Your body and your psyche are inextricably linked. Stand up. Lift your head up. Look your interlocutor directly in the eye. Ideally, imagine a slight Mona Lisa smile on your face. The latter seems uncompromising and confuses the operator. And by making these simple changes to your posture in the room, you increase your confidence, making it easier to handle further.
Next step: With the same increased confidence, you can unequivocally say that not only did you not say it, but that your interviewer is lying. If he continues to press you and insist, repeat that the whole thing is a clear lie and a deception.
It's about looking as confident as possible at the moment and believing that it's really a lie. Let the person you are talking to try to prove you wrong.
It's much easier if you can remember what you said, when you said it and who you said it to. Then your confidence will be established and it will be up to you to say the words that you actually said. It's not always necessary to explain what you mean by them. When you are asked, you should answer. If you're not asked, that's fine.
It also happens that the words you just said immediately turn around and change meaning. A similar pattern of action: stand firm in your convictions and remind your interlocutor that it is not nice and not necessary to lie. The winner is the one who perseveres to the end.
Your interviewer will not cheat you by telling you about conversations that did not take place or by twisting words. To avoid similar twists in the future, understand the purpose of this presentation.
Of course, it is unlikely that it will be given voluntarily and immediately. Most of the time you will have to think about it and find out for yourself. If so, don't hesitate to ask directly and see how they react. Even in this case, they may not be telling the truth, but some of the interlocutor's reactions may confirm your suspicions.
And also understand: mentally healthy people do not behave this way. It makes no sense for them to try to manipulate and lie. This is typical of sociopaths, people with personality disorders and mental illness. Stay away from them and you will be happy.
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12.02.2022.
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Why are we forced to wait when it is not needed
Wait there, wait there. We're always waiting for something. We waste time, nerves and money. We go through all the stages of anger, we learn zen, but we can't change anything. We were told to wait, and we wait. And why?
Many of us have met important women in or near government offices who have solemnly declared, "Wait!" to our modest request for attention. Why we were told to wait - I do not know. Perhaps she was having tea there, behind closed doors, or perhaps she was preoccupied with something important. Either way, here we are in the role of beggars. There's no need to be angry. We just have to face the fact that we're wasting our time.
In this case, everything is clear. This woman is nothing, her name is nothing, but she thinks otherwise. The only way she can prove her worth in the world is to manipulate our time by creating an artificial ellipse for herself.
This technique works. You really begin to believe that something depends on this woman.
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But it's not just civil servants who keep us waiting. You've made an appointment with a client or partner, you arrive at the agreed time, and then you stand and wait. A bit. Long enough. Long enough for you to realise that it's better for you not to commit to this person. But you have to do it. Something is very dependent on him (money, contracts).
Again, this is manipulation aimed at increasing your own importance. The person who puts you in the waiting position knows that you are already important, that you are dependent on him in a certain situation. But that's not enough for him. He needs to entertain his ego and prove that he is not only the master of the situation, but also of time.
Even before the talks, they put you in a waiting position. They all have the same goal: to show who's boss. A sign on the door and an official statement are not enough. You need an iron ore - your time.
Other people's important people have already been dealt with. They need to be manipulated in every possible way so that no one dares question their status. But the relatives are also put on hold. Friends and relatives are stalling, stalling. Are they manipulating him? In some cases, unfortunately, yes.
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Either romantic or childish people believe in friendship. It has long been known that one makes friends and the other lets himself make friends. The one who "lets" will thus prove to the other with everything he owns that he is smarter, more attractive and more successful. He is the one responsible for the relationship. And he will manipulate the other's schedule.
In this respect, relatives are no different than friends. Family ties are wonderful, but the head of the household is only one person. Or one.
Time manipulation is great in terms of effectiveness: it's 100% likely to create resentment in the one who's forced to wait. But its original purpose - to show who's boss - is only achieved in a limited number of cases.
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It also happens that when someone is deliberately forced to wait, his only purpose is to make fun of him. For no reason whatsoever. Because he thinks he is more important and can afford it. Also manipulative, but very rude and cruel.
In all these situations where waiting is not necessary but forced, there is something in common. This person is extremely insecure, angry at others and expresses his dissatisfaction with the world by manipulating time. Such a person must be pitied. It depends on the circumstances whether to wait or not to waste time. Perhaps something depends on him.
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11.02.2022.
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#ValentineDayChallenge2022: How Love Became Blind.❤
Good day dear readers of read.cash. Today I want to participate in the contest: #ValentineDayChallenge2022: love contest. Which was kindly provided to us by Mr. @Infinity as well as Sir @PVMihalache, and Madame @Jane, who initiated this contest and are its judges. Big thanks to them for this event! 🤝
I'll tell you the myth of love... ❤
One day Madness invited his friends over for tea. They all came and had a great time, singing and dancing, and after the cake Madness was invited to play hide and seek:
- I'll count to 100 and then you can hide. Whoever finds it first had to count to 100 again.
Everyone agreed, except Fear and Lenny.
- "One, two, three..." Fear began to count.
The first panic set in. Panic ran into the garden. Grief wept at the thought of the fragility of life. Envy clung to Jubilee and hid behind high rocks. And Madness kept counting. Despair grimaced as Madness counted to ninety-nine.
- One hundred!" shouted Madness.
Curiosity prevails and we shall see who goes first. Madness hung on the fence and Desperation hung on the fence, wondering which side of the fence to hide on.
They were all found, and curiosity suddenly asked:
- *Where is love?*
All began to search for it. Madness wandered far and wide in his search and suddenly found himself in a beautiful, fragrant rose garden. Something rustled in the bushes. Madness tore at the branches of the rosebush and heard a scream. It was love, pink thorns stinging her eyes.
Madness waved her arms back and forth, breaking her hands, apologising, kneeling, asking for forgiveness until she promised Love that she would stay with him forever. I agreed...
And from then on, Love and Madness have been together.
And so the terms of this competition require us to declare our love to our partner, our family, our friends or even our pets. But still it's a day of the heart and so I think it's appropriate to make a confession to your chosen partner, your beloved, dear and desirable husband.
***Andrey! My love!!!***
My dearest and priceless man on earth, you are my ideal, joy and happiness. I am overwhelmed with feelings of sincerity and tenderness towards you.
Thank God for giving you to me. It's the best thing that could have happened to me. I love you so much, I want to be. With only you. You're my protection, my hope I love you, my most wanted and this day I wanted to stand out, and poor lovers have to come up with the kind of confessions that can shake the heart of the one they love once again.
I hope I can do it too. Every day when I wake up next to you. I try to calm my heart. When it's in your gaze opens the door to love we've been together for days and days, but always when it's morning the sun shines out of your eyes the morning's like a miracle again my darling! May things be as good as they've been for all the years we've been together!!!
***I love you! Yana.***
I am also enclosing a photo according to the terms of this competition:👇
When lit:
Love and be loved, live and enjoy life, seize every moment, bring joy to your family and friends, and may fortune smile upon you all!!!
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The Magic of Plants. A touching tale of an apple tree.
A touching tale about an apple tree
There lived a wild apple tree in the forest....
And the apple tree loved the little boy.
And the boy would run to the apple tree every day, collect the leaves that fell from it, weave a wreath of them, put it on like a crown and play the king of the forest. He would climb up the trunk of the apple tree and swing on its branches, and gnaw at its apples. And then they would play hide-and-seek, and when the boy got tired, he would fall asleep in the shade of the apple tree. The boy loved his apple tree, he loved it very much! And the apple tree was happy... . But as time passed and the boy grew older, the apple tree spent more and more days alone. But then one day the boy came to the apple tree. And the apple tree said:
- Come here, little boy, come quickly, swing on my branches, eat my apples, play with me, and we will be fine!
- I'm too old to climb trees," replied the boy. - I'd like other activities. But that requires money, and can you give me any?
-I would be glad to, - sighed the apple tree, - but I have no money, only leaves and apples. Take my apples, kid, sell them in town, then you'll have money. And everything will be all right.
And the boy climbed up the apple tree and picked all the apples and took them away with him. And the apple tree was happy. After that, the boy didn't come back for a long time. And the apple tree became sad again. And when the boy came one day, the apple tree trembled with joy:
- Come here, boy! - She exclaimed. - Come quickly! Wiggle on my branches, and we'll be fine!
-I have too many worries to climb trees, - replied the boy, - I would like to get married, to have children. But you need a home for that, and I don't have one. Can you give me one?
- I wish I could," sighed the apple tree, "but I do not have a home. My forest is my home. But I have branches you can cut down and build you a house. And all will be well!
And the boy, cut down her branches and took them away with him, and built himself a house. And the apple tree was happy. After that the boy did not come back for a long, long time. And when he came, the apple tree was almost numb with joy.
- Come here, boy," she whispered, "play with me!
- I am too old," answered the boy, "and I am too sad to play. I would like to build a boat and sail it far, far away. But can you give me a boat?
-Saw down my trunk and make yourself a boat," said the apple tree, "and you can sail it far, far away. And all will be well!
So the boy sawed down the trunk, made a boat out of it, and sailed away. And the apple tree was happy. Though it is not easy to believe.
A long time passed. And the boy came to the apple tree again.
- I'm sorry, little one," the apple tree sighed, "but I can't give you anything else. I don't have any apples.
- What do you want apples for? - answered the boy. - I have almost no teeth left.
- I have no branches, nothing to swing on... .
- I'm too old to swing on branches.
- And my trunk is gone, there's nothing to climb... .
- I am too weak to climb trunks.
- It's too bad there's nothing I can do for you," the apple tree sighed. - I'm just a gaunt stump. I'm sorry, baby.
- How much do I want now? - said the boy. - I'm so tired! I wish I could find a little nook and rest...
- That's good," said the apple tree, "that's what the old stump is good for. Sit on me, boy, sit down and rest ...
And so the boy did. And the apple tree was happy...
*🍎Yes, we should learn to be generous and unselfish, because life is given to us for good deeds.🍎*
Many legends and myths have been created by different peoples about the apple tree and its fruit, and harvest days have become festivals. In ancient Hellas, for example, the apple was considered a symbol of love and was dedicated to Aphrodite, the goddess of beauty. Ancient Germans believed that these trees were under the patronage of all the gods - even lightning could not touch them, and therefore surrounded their homes with apple orchards.
The apple represents temptation, the Fall of man and salvation. Since the Middle Ages it has symbolized forbidden fruit. But the Bible text does not specifically mention which fruit led Eve into temptation (art has depicted figs, peaches, and quinces in addition to the apple). Traditional association with the apple As a symbol of Christ, the "new Adam," the apple symbolizes the atonement for sin and thus salvation. The apple is also associated with health and vitality, according to the old saying, "An apple for dinner and all disease is gone." In Scandinavian mythology, the gods eat apples, which grow in the gardens of their legendary Asgard and Iria Apple blossoms symbolize eternal youth and fertility, and in China, peace and beauty.
The apple is one of the most wonderful fruits, because it is a wonderful combination of the most wonderful symbolic meanings. In ancient cultures the apple was a symbol of spring, blossom and fertility. In China, the apple tree is the national symbol of peace, and the apple blossom is a poetic emblem of beauty.
In the mythology of many nations it is the apple as a symbol of eternal youth, longevity and immortality.
In Celtic mythology, the fabulous island of Avallon appears. On Avallon, the mythical "island of the blessed", lost somewhere among the distant "Western Isles", lived beautiful women who treated sailors who happened to come to them with wonderful apples of immortality.
In Norse mythology the eternally young goddess Idunn is the keeper of golden "rejuvenating" apples. The gods who tasted her immortal fruit preserved their strength, youth and beauty forever.
Russian fairy tales tell about the golden "rejuvenating" apples, as well as tales of other Slavic peoples.
But there are no rules without exceptions, and such exception to the general rule, representing an apple in a negative light, we find in the richest Greek mythology. The envious goddess of strife, Erida, tossed a golden apple with the inscription "Most Beautiful" into the crowd of merry gods who were feasting at the wedding of Peleus and Thetis. The three beautiful goddesses, Hera, Athena and Aphrodite, argued about which of them should have the prize. The fierce dispute was resolved at their request by the beautiful Trojan prince Paris, who gave the golden apple to Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. Nevertheless the spiteful Erida achieved her goal: the apple sowed the seeds of envy and violent hatred among the inhabitants of Olympus. It was also the cause for a long and bloody war between the inhabitants of Olympus.
The Trojan War, in which both gods and men were involved. Since then, the proverbial apple, afflicted with the wormhole of discord and possessing a putrid taste of death, has become an emblem of conflict.
But even this story could not completely ruin the reputation of the miraculous fruit. In the hands of the beautiful Aphrodite, the golden apple absorbed all the best that came from it, becoming a beautiful romantic symbol of love, erotic pleasure and marriage.
In a curious way, the positive and negative symbolism of the apple are intertwined in the biblical myth of the fall. The serpent tempter persuaded Eve to taste the forbidden fruit, and as a result people were expelled from the Garden of Eden. But, having lost their pious, tranquil and meaningless existence, they instead gained knowledge and for the first time looked at the immense world with wide-open eyes, for the forbidden apple was growing in the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. Thus, already at the dawn of human history, the apple becomes the greatest symbol of knowledge.
In Renaissance art, the biblical apple of knowledge in the mouth of the serpent or in the mouth of the monkey symbolizes original sin.
The golden apple which Paris gave to Aphrodite is an attribute not only to the beautiful goddess herself, but also to her charming servants, the Graces.
The personified figure of Vigilance owns the golden apple on the grounds that in the gardens of the Hesperides the fruit of immortality was guarded by a watchful dragon who never shut his watchful eye day or night, The allegorical Stinginess cherishes the precious golden apple as an embodiment of her avarice, much like the Stingy Knight who with trembling hand examines the gold coins in the cellars of his castle or fairytale tsar Koshchei who "pines over the gold".
In iconography, the apple in Christ's hands is one of the symbols of salvation. One of the Christian feasts, the Apple Feast, is also associated with this symbolic interpretation.
A basket full of apples and roses is an attribute of the Christian virgin martyr **Dorothea.**
According to church legend, Dorothea was condemned to death in 303 by the Roman governor Fabritius for refusing to renounce faith in Christ. One of Dorothea's executioners, Theophilus, mocking her fanatical faith, jokingly asked the saint to send him apples and roses from the heavenly gardens of Christ. Some time after Dorothea's execution, a rosy-cheeked cherub appeared before the astonished Theophilus with a basket full of apples and roses. Amazed by this miracle, Theophilus was immediately baptized.
For the alchemists, the apple symbolized the process of knowledge and the fantastic fifth element. The latter meaning was that the medieval sages saw in the core of a cut apple a kind of five-pointed form expressing the mystical quintessence.
The apple is also a symbol of knowledge in the history of scientific thought. It was the apple that fell on Isaac Newton's head that made him think about the problem of the Earth's gravitation, as a result of which the great scientist discovered the universal law of universal gravitation.
The emblem of the apple is rarely used in heraldry. As an emblem of wealth, for example, six golden apples adorn the coat of arms of the Russian noblemen Daudov.
The apple is often used as a symbol of settled, settled life and prosperity. Sometimes this tree, which gives abundant yields, is regarded as a symbol of fertility, maternity and maternal blessing. This attitude to the apple tree is clearly demonstrated in Russian folk tales "Khavroshechka" and "The Swan-Goose".
In Christian symbolism, the apple tree often serves as an emblem of temptation and unauthorized deeds. In paradise - it is the tree of knowledge of good and evil, the fruit of which Adam and Eve tasted. The cross of Jesus is believed to have been made from the wood of an apple tree as a substitutionary sacrifice for Adam, who had accepted sin from that tree. After Christ's death, the cross became a symbol of resurrection and the apple became a symbol of the Savior.
According to Russian tradition, the malting apples had great power: they could not only give health and youth, but also to bring life back to the deceased. The apples grew in a faraway land and were guarded by evil giants or dragons. In Slavic mythology, all approaches to the Irian garden, the Alatyr Mountain and the apple tree with the golden apples are guarded by griffins, basilisks. Whoever tastes the golden apples will get eternal youth and power over the universe. And the tree itself with the golden apples is guarded by griffins and the dragon Ladon himself.
It has been known since time immemorial that the apple tree is the tree of feminine power. The fruit of the apple tree has long been used as a love potion.
Apples and branches of an apple tree play an important role in wedding ceremonies of Slavs. An apple has served as a sign of love - a boy and a girl exchanged fruits to express their mutual sympathy, to declare their love publicly. An apple accepted by a girl during matchmaking is a sign of consent to marriage. Southern Slavs invite people to the wedding, bringing apples to homes.
An apple branch is used in making a wedding banner, a tree. Apples are reinforced in a bride's wreath. The Poles and Ukrainians stick apple branches into a loaf, and Russians - into a baked wedding hen. The South Slavs used to take an apple with them when they went to the wedding ceremony. In the church after the wedding she would throw an apple behind the altar to have children.
On their wedding night they put one apple under the featherbed and broke the other into halves, and each of the newlyweds ate half of it. The apple was a symbol of the bride's chastity: it was placed on her wedding shirt or in a sieve instead. Under an apple tree in the southern Slavs there was a ceremonial shaving of the bridegroom before the wedding. When the bride's headdress was replaced by a married woman's headdress, the veil was removed from her head with an apple branch and thrown on the apple tree.
An apple is the embodiment of fertility: it was placed in the seed, so that wheat would grow as large as apples, and to protect crops from plundering.
The last Apple was not plucked from the tree: it was left on a branch so that there would be a harvest next year.
In Slovakia, a young housewife, on arriving at her new home, would turn over a basket full of apples so that there would be abundance in the household.
An apple that originated after the second flowering of an apple tree, or the first one on a young tree, or that hung on an apple tree for a long time, helped against infertility.
The apple is associated with the world of the dead, and plays a significant role in funeral rites: it was placed in the coffin, in the grave, so that the deceased would take it to "the other world" to the ancestors. In Bulgarian beliefs Archangel Michael took a soul to heaven only with an apple. An apple on the table on Christmas Eve was intended for the dead, so in Poland, fearing the vengeance of the ancestors, it was forbidden to take apples from the Christmas tree.
The apple tree acts as a mediator between the two worlds, as a link in communicating the soul to the world of ancestors. In Serbia and Bulgaria, a small apple tree was carried in front of the coffin, planted on the grave (instead of the cross), so that the dead could communicate with the living through it. It was believed that the tree was with the deceased on the road until his transition to the "other world". When the apple tree dried up, it meant that the soul reached paradise.
It was believed that before the Apple Feast, that is, before the consecration of apples, the apple tree was inhabited by mermaids, devils. Apples were consecrated in church on Transfiguration (Apple Feast) and only after that it was allowed to eat them.
In addition, apples are used to remove warts, rather magical than medical methods. In an apple cut horizontally in half, a five-pointed star is visible, and the wood and flowers of the apple tree are used in love witchcraft.
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09.02.2022.
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Candy? 🍭
Do you like candy? Do you like chocolates? It's hard to find someone who would say no. Even if he can't have sweets for some reason, he still wants them. It's delicious. And if you treat candy or chocolate - it's twice as tasty.
But do not flatter yourself. Even such an innocent sign of attention can have far-reaching consequences. From such a small thing as an innocent candy, built the most cruel manipulation.
***How it works:***
You got some candy. It's a small thing, but it's nice. Particularly suspicious people may take it as a sign of attention and start looking for other confirmations of the disposition to his person. As you know: he who seeks, finds. Our imagination in this regard is limitless.
Even if we do not look for subtext, the attitude toward the one who treated improves. He begins to seem nicer, more sympathetic, kinder. In general, it acquires those properties and characteristics which previously it was either not observed at all, or noticed very rarely.
So. One tasty little candy elevated the person who gave it in the eyes of the one who received it. The first stage of manipulation is complete. The transition to the next begins.
The same person comes again. Again brings candy. Maybe the same, and maybe another. This does not change the essence. Only now some insignificant request is added to the candy. A very insignificant request. A small thing.
For example, in office life it may be a request to borrow a hole punch for five minutes. Quite a trifle and nothing. How to refuse such a pleasant person? Moreover, the exchange is not equal: an old frayed hole punch, which will still return to its owner, and candy, which will be eaten by the owner of the hole punch. And the fear: what if, after refusing such a minor request, there will be no more candy?
And here comes our trick-or-treater for the third time. Only the request will be more serious. For example, to help him with his report. It's hard to refuse. After all, the candy is in front of our eyes again. Even understanding that the word "help" in this context means "to do for him" will not stop you from taking a rash step. You don't want to lose the person who regularly provides candy for nothing and because it's practically gratuitous.
The candy giver has achieved his goal. The one who ate that candy is now on his hook. A brief mechanism looks like this:
A gift generating a sense of obligation and the need to give something in return.
A small concession (giving a little help) as payment for the gift.
Forming a good attitude toward the giver and the habit of rejoicing at his appearance.
A big concession (payback), because after the first "yes" to a small request, it's hard to say "no" to something bigger, and there's still a feeling of obligation and the need to give something in return for the gift.
The more weighty the gift, the more complicated or expensive the payment for it is worth waiting for.
It also happens that the gifts come in ascending order: first candy, then chocolate, then a pack of chocolates. As the weight of the gifts grows, so do the requests, which may not always be literal. For example, in exchange for a candy can simply ask for a smile. And not a request at all. Yes?
And may provide candy and chocolate for a long time, but not ask for anything in return. But in the end, be sure to ask for something. And a very weighty one at that.
***How to resist:***
If you've had a treat, have a treat in return. It may take a while. It doesn't matter. The main thing is to make the exchange. If they refuse to accept the gift - insist to the victory, otherwise you will remain on the hook.
And do not think about the value of the gift. Give something expensive, which you can't afford to buy in return, it doesn't matter. Give a gift that you can afford. No need to try to outdo the giver and get into loans because of this.
If they offer you a gift that you know you'll never pay back, refuse. No matter how much you want, no matter how much you dream - refuse. Otherwise you will pay back for a very, very long time. It will be more expensive than to get what you want after a while.
***Who can I accept gifts from?***
Don't expect it to say that only from friends and relatives. You can accept gifts from anyone you know. As long as you give them something in return. You can't accept gifts from strangers. They are certainly not good.
***Where else do they use this manipulation?***
In ordinary stores. It's very rare to see tasting tables or anything like that anymore. It used to be all over the place: try a piece of sausage and try not to buy it afterwards. A piece of it is eaten and it's a shame to just leave.
In perfume stores: you bought a perfume, and a lot of different samples were thrown into the bag. And all for free. And it does not matter that this is always the case. But how not to go back again to the same store either with the selfish purpose again for the samples, or because it's embarrassing to get so many gifts just for nothing?
And so!!! Greed aside! Fantasy away. Sober and cold calculation and healthy suspicion. That's the only way you won't be led into the woods by candy.
*Good luck to you readers read.cash*🖐
07.02.2022.
@Belozoriana
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The habits of successful people: who recorded them?
Be grateful, read more, exercise, give up TV and you will be happy, lucky and successful! It's hard to find someone who hasn't seen all these tips and alleged habits of successful people. And when you hear it everywhere and it comes from all sides, you willy-nilly think, "Why not?" ***Here's why:***
Who are these unknown successful people whose habits are in question anyway? Do you have their names? Achievements? When they write, for example, about the ten habits of Steve Jobs, it all makes sense. We are talking about one of the founders of a technology company, which many people have heard about during its difficult formative years. You can learn from his persistence.
And when they do not write about whom, then it is not clear what success the person has achieved. Maybe it's about a successful pickpocket or a burglar. Hardly anyone consciously wants to achieve such accomplishments.
Who recorded the listed habits in, as we have already found out, unknown "successful" people, their frequency of occurrence, prevalence? Have any special studies been conducted? Have experiments been conducted on them? Frankly, all of this seems more like speculation and someone's fantasy.
It is unlikely that really successful people would voluntarily accept the role of a guinea pig. Besides, the majority of them are public people. They don't have time to do all sorts of nonsense.
How do you measure the relationship of success to the habits listed? And if one habit isn't in the arsenal, that's it? No success?
If it really were that simple, if the key to success lay in following some habits, then the success rate would be off the charts. There would be a true paradise on earth without the poor, the disadvantaged, the suffering!!! But for some reason it doesn't happen!
Do these people consider themselves successful? Or for them all achievements are the result of hard work and endless exhausting pursuit of phantom happiness? It is not enough to achieve success. You have to maintain it somehow.
Now let's take apart some habits and the reasons why they don't lead to success.
The habit of getting up early to get as much time as possible before work begins. Doesn't correlate with common sense at all. There are rhythms of the day. And they are similar for most of us. There are reserves of vitality. And they are not infinite. The more energy expended in the early morning, the less remains for the rest of the day. Efficiency and effectiveness are reduced. And by evening there is nothing left at all. So is it worth committing such violence on yourself just to shift your waking schedule?
The habit of little sleep and examples of the greats who had enough sleep for 4-6 hours. Only they often forget to add that these greats safely slept a few more hours during the day, so that they collectively get the norm of sleep for an adult. And they also forget to add that these greats' bodies functioned somewhat differently. For them, such disconnected sleep is normal. For the average person, it's not healthy.
The habit of living a healthy lifestyle. A wonderful habit, if interpreted correctly. A healthy lifestyle is not exhausting to the point of losing your pulse doing sports, but, first of all, a good diet, and secondly - proper rest! Do not torment yourself and do not deny yourself in rest! If you can somehow solve the problem with nutrition, but with rest in our rhythm of life - hardly.
We could go on and on. In fact, many of the habits imposed on us by various articles and experts are actually helpful.
***But let's be honest: most of them are a consequence, not the cause of success!!!!***
Many "successful" people in the beginning were barely making ends meet and could hardly afford good food, noble sports and whatever else was out there. There was an idea and the will to implement it against all odds - these are the ingredients for success. And useful habits came later, as necessary attributes of life, without which one would not be accepted into a club of their own kind.
*There is no secret of success, because everyone has his own*😉
6.02.2022.
@Belozoriana
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Did you hear yourself say, "We're friends"? Run!!!
It's good to have friends. It's bad when friends have you. And that's what a lot of people are dealing with lately. And it's not because friends behave that way. Real friends don't allow themselves that. Suddenly people have more friends.
Suddenly your neighbors are calling you their friend. No reason. You don't celebrate holidays together, you don't walk your dog next to you. And then suddenly you are friends. The usual reaction - shrugged and went on about their business. Although it would not hurt to stop and think about why all this sudden affection.
Or a random passerby, turning to you, will call a friend and ask something: time, road, money. It is also familiar and commonplace. And few people think: why is he a friend at all, if he is not a friend at all?
And more often than not, colleagues become friends. Well, how can you not admit that they become friends if they see you more often than family and real friends? And they know you and about you sometimes even more, though from the other side.
The new fashion: now the leaders become friends. Also casually say: "Well, you're my friend. And that's all. Offenses melted, misunderstandings are forgotten. To be friends with them for real, of course, does not work, but relations are getting warmer.
In the situation with the leaders, many immediately smell a catch. Employees with experience shudder to recall not so long ago faded into oblivion corporate culture code-named "family. Anyone who got to know it well still wakes up in a cold sweat and then can't rest his twitching eye for a week.
It was the kind of manipulation of the collective mind that no one seemed to be able to beat. Wrong. Friendship culture has gone further because it is not as flashy and acts more delicately.
***Now why run after the phrase, "we're friends."***
Let's go through each of the cases described.
In the situation with the neighbor, whose name may not even be known, everything is simple. Friend today, give me a pinch of salt tomorrow. Then take my dog for a walk. Well, we are friends. How do you say no to a friend? Variations: borrow money, give a tool for a couple of days, take the whole family to the mall this weekend.
It's hard to say no. Friends don't get rejected. A friend will always help a friend. And it doesn't matter that you don't need anything from such a neighbor, and you have everything. The hope for "someday later" is immortal.
A random passerby. Called a friend. You did not have time to think clearly, but somewhere deep in the back of your mind you felt a pleasant sweet warmth from the soft and kind "friend". And they answered the question or request politely, willingly. And the direction showed, and in the money some do not refuse.
A colleague in a friendly way, too, do not refuse. So asks a nice man to cover him, to help with work. What a nonsense. Today you, tomorrow for you. Isn't it true? Tomorrow will come someday, won't it? And it even comes sometimes in little things. It's nice to have friends.
And the head is almost a "friend". Well, is it difficult to stay a little longer, if a friend asks? Not every day. Big deal. Or go out on a day off. What's wrong with that?
There is nothing wrong in any of these cases. The usual manipulation, built on our need to belong to a social group, the need to communicate. It works without fail.
Run away if someone who is clearly not your friend and has never been your friend suddenly calls you that. It won't do any good. Run away. And the sooner the better. He will not become your friend just because he called you that. And he doesn't need it.
Your new friend needs your time, skills, talents, money or some other things. He isn't interested in you at all and doesn't need you. Just affectionately calling him "friend" shortens the period of getting what he wants from you by hundreds of times, and in some cases - to one moment. It depends on your need to be friends.
Few people today can boast that they often and regularly see and communicate with their friends. More and more often there is no time, no opportunity, no money. Stingy short calls, rare correspondence.
But the need to be friends is not going anywhere. So they fill it with their friendship manipulators. And you believe it, without even noticing. And someone even really believes that a little-known people who do not know anything about you, really a friend.
Run. Run from such friends. And don't let those you consider your friends call you that. Setting personal boundaries is the best defense against such characters. Otherwise, before you know it, you'll be giving everything you need to the manipulator and getting nothing in return.
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5.02.2022.
@Belozoriana
Business attire as a means of manipulation.
Imagine in front of you a man in a strict business suit. Made of good fabric, tailored to his figure. Shirt, tie to match, polished shoes. How do you feel? Who is this man? What does he do?
Most likely you will answer that this person is rich, smart, educated, and has power. The words may be chosen differently, but the meaning will be exactly that. Here is a man who has achieved something in this life and represents something of himself.
And it may indeed turn out that way. Ordinary people very rarely wear business suits in their everyday lives. If someone is required by the dress code to wear such a look at work, then, more often than not, this person's everyday suit does not look good. It does not do the suit any good to sit in the workplace every day and regular washings or dry cleanings.
But, however, even in front of such a suit, that have seen better life, many will experience primitive admiration mixed with fear. A business suit has a special magic, attraction and something else.
That's something - authority. Unconsciously we trust what the man in the suit says. His words are important, weighty and meaningful.
***And here's why:***
We really think that the suit is the destiny of the elite. Well it's not given to an ordinary person to wear a suit just like that in ordinary life. Even if they have it in their closet, they get it rarely and on special occasions.
A good suit costs a lot. Even very expensive. To keep it, to match with other elements of the image it's necessary to have a lot of money. For some people these expenses are useless, but for others they are simply unaffordable. Suits are worn by those who can afford them.
Derived from the previous: you need to be someone to afford to wear a suit in everyday life. One needs position, status, power.
*And now for the best part* scammers and manipulators are mostly people in business suits. Not all of them will be in nice expensive suits. But it is the suit that makes it easier for them to get things done.
The suit is already half the success in the moment of influencing the other person. The man in the suit hasn't even had a chance to say a word, but people are already ready to agree with almost everything he says.
The reason is the same: a business suit creates an image of a person who knows what he is talking about, because he is rich, successful and has power. And who else will teach what to do and how to do it, if not him? After all, he has already proved to everyone around him by his mere appearance that he is right and worth listening to.
And few people think about what is really hiding under the suit, or rather what credit to buy it and out of whose money this credit is paid (if at all).
Here is an example of the most glaring manipulation of the suit that most people have encountered.
Pay attention to how sales assistants in some stores are dressed. If they are girls, a strict skirt or pants, a shirt, laconic shoes. There may be a scarf around the neck, playing the function of a tie. If a guy, pants, shirt, shoes. There may or may not be a tie. More often no.
Surprisingly, in stores where the consultants are dressed this way, sales are higher. Let me say right away: the study was not conducted in our country.
*Can you guess why?*
Right. The magic of the costume again. A girl in strict clothes, enthusiastically telling about the functions of an electric kettle and how it differs from another similar one, creates the impression of an expert. Buyers are more likely to make a purchase than if about the same and in the same words will tell the girl in jeans and polo shirts.
In general, do not believe the suit. Believe your eyes, feelings and ears. If it seems that you are being deceived, but you can't understand how and why, then you really want to deceive.
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Bitcoin Cash Mining or how to mine BCH
Welcome to my new article Read.cash readers.
In today's article, I will give you a quick guide to mining the promising Bitcoin Cash cryptocurrency. So if you want to know how to mine Bitcoin Cash, you've come to the right place!
However, before I get started, let's test your knowledge:
Did you know that BCH (Bitcoin Cash) miners can confirm 8 times more transactions than Bitcoin miners? This is one of the main reasons Bitcoin Cash was created, as it allows people to pay less commission for transferring the same amount of money!!!!.
In any case, in this Bitcoin Cash mining guide, I will explain how the network and miners work, and then I will cover whether it is worth mining BCH cryptocurrency.
Once you understand the basics, we'll talk about what you'll need to mine BCH. I'll also tell you about the pros and cons of Bitcoin Cash mining pools (if you don't know about them, that's okay), because this might be the best option for you!
So what are you waiting for? Let's take a look at what Bitcoin Cash mining is all about!
What is Bitcoin Cash mining?
Like most other blockchain-based cryptocurrencies, Bitcoin Cash uses miners to verify and validate transactions. Anyone in the world can become a Bitcoin Cash miner if they buy the right equipment and download the software.
Like Bitcoin, a block of BCH transactions is validated by a community of miners every 10 minutes. Before the block is authenticated, miners in the network must solve a cryptographic puzzle. This puzzle is so complex that no single person can solve it, so powerful computing hardware is used.
All miners in the Bitcoin Cash network will try to be the first to solve the puzzle! The reason is that the first one to solve it gets a miner's reward. The reward for successful mining is currently 12.5 BCH and will not change until April 2022. After that, the reward will be halved to BCH 6.25.
In addition to the block reward, miners will also earn on the transaction fees paid by individual users for transferring money. The person or organisation with the strongest mining equipment is more likely to receive a miner reward.
In the case of Bitcoin Cash, mining with a powerful tool will always be profitable more often than with the same basic processor. However, we will discuss this later.
For now, we have an idea about Bitcoin Cash mining itself and its basic concept. Now it is time to tell you whether BCH cryptocurrency is currently profitable as a mining target.
How profitable is BCH mining?
As mentioned above, anyone in the world can try to make money by mining Bitcoin Cash. However, you need to put some effort and have the financial capacity to do so.
First of all, you need to invest in Bitcoin Cash mining equipment.
The success of the business mainly depends on the equipment. Therefore, you need to invest a decent amount of money in this business as you have no chance of beating other miners in the current environment.
You also need to consider how much electricity you will use in the mining process. Bitcoin Cash mining consumes a significant amount of electricity. The only way to solve the puzzle is to use huge computing power, which requires a lot of electricity!
You should know that on the blockchain network, all miners are trying to solve the same puzzle. This means that even if you don't win a prize, you will waste electricity trying to be first!
You should also consider where you live, as the price of electricity is different everywhere, and that too to consider.
Don't forget about a very important factor - Bitcoin Cash exchange rate. Since BCH cryptocurrency is used as a payment or reward for mining, the higher the exchange rate, the more profitable Bitcoin Cash mining will be. It all depends on your goals and belief in the future of the project.
***Let's talk about the equipment that allows you to mine Bitcoin Cash***
Bitcoin Cash mining equipment
Once you've determined your goals, you need to think about buying equipment. In the early days of cryptocurrency mining, you could even make good money on CPU or GPU equipment. They were cheaper and gave everyone a decent chance to win prizes.
Each device was capable of producing a certain amount of hash energy. Imagine a machine. Depending on the model, that car could produce a certain amount of speed. In most cases, the more expensive machines are more powerful and therefore faster!
This is important because miners have to try a billion different combinations to solve the puzzle. The more powerful the machine, the more combinations it can try per second!
Currently, the only device that can mine Bitcoin Cash is an ASIC (integrated circuit for special purposes). There are many such devices with different functions. But if you are interested in mining Bitcoin Cash, don't rely on anything but ASIC or you will have no chance!
So, now that you understand the importance of computing power, let's look at examples of such devices!
**Here's an example:**
`Antminer S7`
**Antminer S7** was the best ASIC mining tool before the release of S9! It was also designed by Bitmain and has a maximum payload of 4.73 TH/S.
Even though it's much smaller than the S9, that price point still allows it to win pool prizes for mining. At the time of writing, the S7 was selling for less than $100. It's a reliable device that was once the standard throughout the industry.
There are two important things to consider before buying an Antminer S7. First, if you are interested in Bitcoin Cash mining, you better forget about it! It will not be able to compete with newer models. Secondly, S7 is a very noisy device, so be prepared for complaints from neighbors at night.
If you want to buy Antminer S7, you can buy it on Amazon.
I do not leave links, this is not an advertisement.
**Bitcoin Cash** mining software as with your computer or laptop, the software is just as important as the device itself. Once you purchase an ASIC, you will need to download the software for it. In most cases, however, the software comes with the device itself.
Once the software is installed, you will need to configure a few settings. First, you need to enter your BCH wallet address. This is very important since this is where your reward will be sent.
In addition, you need to specify in the application what type of energy you want to generate. *Read your device manual carefully before changing your settings!!!!*
Now let's get acquainted with the controllers that will help you mine Bitcoin Cash.
It's worth understanding that mining for a pool is controlled by someone. Sure, you share its hash power, but the pool has complete control over its terms and rules. This means that they can change the commission or reduce the reward at any time.
In addition, there are many scammers who never pay you your share. So you should choose your pool carefully and choose the most reliable one.
Here is an example Antpool
***Antpool,*** like the organization with a similar name, was created by Bitmain. When you connect your device to the Antpool pool, you can immediately start mining without paying a fee.
But it's not so simple here, as the company withholds all transaction fees associated with the reward.
If you generate 10% of your total hashing power, you get a 10% reward!
You hope enjoyed this Bitcoin Cash mining guide. If you read it from start to finish, you will already have all the knowledge you need.
The days of using CPUs and GPUs to mine popular cryptocurrencies like Bitcoin and Bitcoin Cash are long gone. Back then, the system was really fair and honest. Today, however, the only way to successfully mine is to buy an ASIC device or join a pool.
Who knows, maybe at some point the bitcoin community will agree to ban ASIC devices. But until then, you'll need more mining farms to make real income.
So, what do you think about bitcoin cash mining? Will you buy expensive equipment or will you sign up for the pool after all? Share your opinion in the comments.
Note: This device is not a compulsory purchase. This article is not intended as financial advice, it is for guidance only. The choice is yours!
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How knowledge is used against you!
It's hard to keep yourself from saying too much when someone else is so genuinely interested, asking questions, listening intently, and blinking sweetly. You get the impression that he's really interested in everything you're saying. And he really is. He is very interested.
It is madly interesting to listen to you and guess in his mind, what and how from what you say can then be used against you.
The consequences can be different: from the collapse of his personal life to the end of his career. But that's not what's scary. Loss of faith in people, loss of self, anger at the world, a nervous breakdown - that's what's scary.
You can avoid all of this if you control yourself and your words. Manipulators and those who are preparing to eat you, usually ask out the same things. The things that are easiest to interpret in the way they want. Here they are:
Details of personal life.
Enough general information: there is no family, similarly children, cats, dogs. And here's who is into what, how they spend their weekends, how cute they are in the morning - it's yours, personal. And no one needs to know about it.
Hobbies, hobbies and all that goes with it.
It's very personal really, although a lot of people don't think so. These are the things that make you real. They make you feel good. You can see very well from the outside how a person changes when they talk about intimate things. You're hooked.
Financial situation.
Move by public transport or a new SUV, live in a modest one-room apartment in the suburbs or in a mansion outside the city, dine in a restaurant or store dumplings - it doesn't matter to anyone. Only the person who can use this knowledge against you is really interested. The rest of us are jealous or sympathetic and forget it. Or better yet, don't even know.
Plans and dreams for life, career or whatever.
Told - personally handed over the keys to making them come true. After all, it's much easier to set traps in a person's way if there's information about where and why he's going. And it's easier to throw sticks in the wheels. And manipulate, interfering in the intermediate goals, not allowing them to reach.
Rituals for good luck, talismans, amulets.
Yes, we are all adequate people, we do not believe in fairy tales, but we do not let the black cat in front of us. Do you have a ring, which helps dreams come true, let it be. But only about these magical properties let it be known only to you and the ring. Otherwise it will be lost inadvertently. Look for it then, remember where you left it.
Self dissatisfaction and shortcomings.
Don't like your nose, go ahead. Don't like it any more. But the people around you should not know about it. They'll get it and you'll dislike it even more. Not sure of yourself, but you learned how to hide it so that no one even suspects - let it be so. Otherwise, be sure to provoke a situation that all this will be on the surface.
Ideas about life, principles, attitudes.
In general, all this philosophy, which many people confuse with meaning. It's also all very personal and yours alone. Well maybe someone else from very close to you, but no more than that. If you tell outsiders - they will break, turn inside out and destroy to the ground. You do not need it.
After reading this, one might get the feeling that there's nothing more to tell. What does that mean? Silence? No. Not silence. There are plenty of other topics, believe me. Discuss the weather, literature, art, minor neutral incidents. Anything but all of the above.
Just don't touch on classic religion and politics - both are forbidden as a matter of etiquette, and just as likely to be used against you.
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Why you should not feel pity for those around you!
30.01.2022. In this world we often encounter and hear about pity. We sometimes cannot even give a coherent explanation of what this feeling is, but we continue to feel it for the world, ourselves, and others.
Pity is a feeling associated with negative experiences and an enduring sense of discomfort that we direct toward ourselves or another person.
Pity often takes the form of condescending compassion.
Stop feeling sorry for others pity is almost mercy. It is a sign of humanity. Well, how can you pass by the weak, the wretched, the destitute and not feel pity for them? Let's keep silent about the helping hand. It is repugnant to stretch out to them. But to show ourselves empathizing, sigh and mimic compassion - it is necessary. Otherwise, others will not understand.
So. Don't. People around us don't really care. They have enough problems of their own. And they have other things to think about besides your abusive behavior.
Pity is the most dangerous feeling you can have. It destroys you from within. And pity is a hook for manipulators, on which it is almost impossible to escape. When there is nothing else to hook you, they hook you with pity.
The worst thing is that many people are taught pity and compassion from childhood. And in response, you also expect someone to take pity and lend a helping hand. It turns out that they teach you to succumb to manipulation, but not to resist it.
How many times have you heard from someone about how hard life is? Problems weighing down their lives? Lost health that doesn't allow you to live your life to the fullest? What have you experienced?
Let me guess. At first it was banal pity. You experienced this disgusting feeling and forgot. Then it became embarrassing. You have other problems, less global. And then the interfering desire to live a normal life to help. At least somehow, if only not to hear these laments in the future.
They helped. Once, twice. But the answer was more complaints and suffering. More than before. At some point you catch yourself that you help not because you want to, but because you have to. And then the resentment, if suddenly you could not, did not have time, did not give up his life for the sake of another person. Admit it: have you ever done that?
Manipulation of pity is the most trivial and the most effective. It works in both directions. Either you pity yourself, thereby manipulating those around you. Or those around you manipulate you, causing pity. One hundred percent effective. Used to be.
Now it happens less and less often. People stop feeling sorry for each other. The smart ones stop feeling sorry for themselves.
Maybe it helps that they began to talk about the harm of pity. And maybe people understand that everyone chooses how to live: at the expense of others, causing pity, or by their own efforts, putting emotions aside.
In any case, pity must be fought. Stop feeling sorry for others and for yourself. It's a waste of time, and often even more power and money. While you indulge in this destructive feeling nothing happens. If a person needs help - he should say so directly. If he needs to be pitied, let him go to a professional and pay money for it.
And stop confusing pity with compassion. If the person has really had something negative happen - show compassion. Support him in a difficult moment, warm him with the warmth of your soul. He needs it, and this is not manipulation. This is humanity. Just do not feel pity.
Self-pity is the most destructive thing you can experience. It is always a state of victimhood. In this position you will successfully attract people who will safely take advantage of this and contribute to the destruction of you as a person further. It is very difficult, painful and time-consuming to get out of it. It's easier not to get caught.
And if you really want to, take pity on yourself, wrapped in a plaid with a cup of warm tea. But feel sorry for yourself knowing that this is only today, only now. And tomorrow you will go out into the world a confident person, who gives everything easily.
Pity is almost contempt. But sometimes it is so lacking......
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Why the poor stay poor.
29.01.2022.
Hey guys! Good to see you on my new article. And before I tell you what I want to tell you, I'll offer a couple of examples to help you understand what we're talking about today:
You helped an old lady neighbor to take out the trash - nothing, just a simple human "thank you". Asking her to nail up a shelf is no big deal. No big deal. An hour's work and there it is, a brand new shelf, as it should be: neat and tidy. Or a neighbor bought a new sofa and called me to help him assemble it. Started in the morning and finished in the evening. It is also no big deal. A neighbor. You have to help each other, just like that, in a human way.
And at home waiting for the old crushed sofa and not nailed for several years shelf. There is no time, or no one to help, or those to whom you helped before, they want money. Ungrateful, aren't they? Oh, this mercantile world.
It's about the same at work. Staying late to help a colleague or supervisor finish a job is no problem. Going out to work on your day off without pay is easy. Substitute for a colleague on a shift again for a "thank you" - sure!
But here again, the same rake: colleagues are not delayed for not their work, the changer not on his shift without pay refuses to go out.
And what is interesting: all these people live better, in more prosperity. While some are ashamed to take money for their work, others do it without remorse. Brazenly looking in the face, saying that their help costs so much, or hire professionals. Or as an alternative: suffer yourself.
Surely you have noticed that, holding the same position, employees in one company may receive different amount of money. Conventionally, when one is paid fifteen, the other is paid fifty. In the eyes of his colleagues, he is perceived as smart and talented, but he is not. He's just not afraid to get paid for his work. He is not ashamed to receive it. His conscience does not torment him to estimate himself in that amount.
A man who is ashamed of his wages is seen immediately in the team. He is boisterously active, working from morning till night, taking on extra duties without pay while others allow themselves to chill while minding their own business. All his activity is to justify the amount of his earnings, which seems to be more than he deserves.
They often can't stand it and go to another company for the same position, but with less pay. Where's the logic in that? From the outside there may not be any. But in the heads of these people it is that lower wages are comfortable for them. That is the amount they value their work. And getting more for such nonsense is unforgivable and embarrassing.
While some people justify their poverty with low wages, others earn several times as much and work less. The former are jealous of the latter, but there is nothing they can do about it.
It is not easy to break out of the vicious circle of thinking of a poor person, where the same poor are ready to help without compensation, and then to chew empty pasta and lament how unfair life is. To voice the cost of your trifling services is mind-boggling. No, it's not. To realize that time, effort, and skill cost money is where the abyss of insanity opens up.
In justifying themselves, poor people often complain that wages are low and that there is no work at all. Where can one find wealth if there is destruction all around? And when there are vacancies with high wages, they say it is all a lie and deceit. It cannot be like that.
And they say a lot of other things in the same vein. But they don't get richer from it.
They will remain poor, because they are ashamed to receive money for their work.
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I thank God for his help in writing this article, and you, dear readers, praise him if your reading has been helpful to you.
I want to know your opinion.
If you are interested in my content,then I invite you to read my other articles:
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