What does men really want?

This was the question I was asked today although it took me a while before I can answer because I had to ask myself over and over again.

Due to the issue of breakups and crashed relationships in the country today many people have given up on love. Am talking about matured relationship not sixteen[16] years old boy and girl play that they refer to as relationship. A lady was lamenting to me today on how her relationship crashed suddenly because of the guy's insecurity, lack of trust and different kinds of issues arising in the relationship. I really felt for her because she is emotionally drained she has made up her mind and given up on love, I don't know how to console her and make her see that true love still exist only if we experienced it with the right person.

Criticism from the mass

The world out there will see you as a bad person if you aren't everything they expected in a lady, she explained how she went extra mile just to put a smile on her partner face, all the unexplainable things she did for the relationship to work out then I asked her "what is the foundation of your relationship"? She couldn't give me a definite answer then I told her if the foundation is destroyed what can the righteous do?. That kept her speechless for a while before she can comport herself back enough to talk. She told me she wants to be respectful so as to avoid people castigations. She gave her best by agreeing to whatever the guy says which sounds somehow to me because they aren't married yet so what's all this about? As a graduate she lost many opportunities to work in a good firms because her so called boyfriend didn't want her to work with a male boss 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that makes me laugh. This guy doesn't trust her yet this lady always cares about what people outside will say if she started acting weird too, they will condemn her because she is a lady and that's her biggest fear.

She continued to care for this man while this same man continues to misbehave all because he thinks she is cheating on him whereas this man is the one cheating he opened a fully stocked shop for another lady without doing anything tangible in this lady's life. She let go of responsible men that could have helped her destiny for this cheat she called a boyfriend.

Even after she knew this guy opened a shop for another lady she still couldn't bring herself to let go of him, this guy took advantage of the love she had for him to the extent that if they are together and another lady is coming over he will tell this lady to go that another lady is coming over. He has no respect whatsoever for this young lady, it got to a point in her story I didn't see love anymore all I'm seeing is foolishness. A relationship where there is no respect, support, care, love, attention, good communication, tolerance and patience surely it's not a relationship to be proud of.

In conclusion

It's a good thing to be in love but please don't be blind in love when you see it's not working anymore kindly walk away, retrace your steps save your respect and dignity don't let any man makes you think less of yourself all in the name of love. The right person will never make you sad or make you feel worthless he will always cherish every moment spent with you and that is LOVE.

I hope you enjoy reading this and I will be expecting your comments in my box. Enjoyyy.