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Don't compare your child with others!!

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1 week ago

Hey Dear Folks!!

I'm not looking forward to watching more dramas. But a friend of mine asked me to watch a drama of Pakistan (my country). I used to think that I would watch today, I would watch tomorrow but then something happened that I couldn't watch it. Then finally I watch in the days when I didn't write articles. After watching that drama, I didn't realize at all when I got into the reality of this drama. I can't share the story of whole drama but I will share what I have understood from this drama.

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You know guys, A mother can spoil her children or train them well, it's her own choice. But there will be no mother who does not think well of her children because obviously for them their children are everything. But sometimes parents treat their children in such a way that they in advertent instill hatred for others in their children. Why does this happen? Lets talk. About it.

Do not degrade your children in front of others:

Not every child has the same level of mentality. If one child is taking positions in the class and the other child is taking average marks, please never compare these two children. Appreciate the child who has got average marks so that he can work harder. But if you keep mentioning the position holder in front of him again and again, then this child will start to develop hatred. He will fall victim to the complex.

If a child training is based on hearing that he is incompetent. Then hatred will begin to grow in the heart of that child against the other child. He will try to do something that will hurt others. Or he may do something that will make him depressed and hurt himself.

You are loser.

Why don't you learn something from him?

Why don't you come first?

Do you always bring an average marks, why?

Look at him, he doesn't even study but he takes position and you don't come third even after study all night. Why??

Why He doesn't get his clothes dirty but you get your clothes dirty ???

Listen, you have to be worthy like him, you will become wise like him.

When a mother starts saying this to her child, understand that your child is going towards depression. Listening to your words has created hatred, jealous in such child. And then such a child will find a way to humiliate this child in front of people.

Closing thoughts:

The end of the drama I watch was one of them got jealous and tried to kill the other child.

The importance of each child is different. If a child's mind level is a little feeble, appreciate his numbers instead of degrade him. Tell your kids it's value. Tell your child that no matter how good you are, you don't have to be like everyone else. You are your strength. You are you, don't be like to anyone.

Never compare your child in front of others. I said never

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Peace ....

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Child or no child, human being born of the same parent by the same means and upbringing can never be the same.

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3 days ago

I am not yet a mother, but this article resonates with me because I understand how it feels to be critiqued by others. Parents should not make this comparison to another person because they are not the same.

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1 week ago

I totally agree with this. As a mother, we should set a good example towards our children. And one of them is to compare them to other children. It would make them feel less of themselves and they will lose self esteem.

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1 week ago

Indeed! Sometimes parents have a high expectations to their children's and if the children failes to reach their expectations, both parents complains and due to disappointment they become unaware that they are already comparing their child to other Child. They thought that they just want an example, but no! They are actually comparing and hurting their own child's feeling.. Children's has difference's, and different levels of development. Some are basic learner, some are advanced, some are in skilled learner's and there are some who's in delay learning. Parents should know that they cannot make a two different bodies into one, and they must not compare their own child to someone's child. Comparing is like a virus that may kills and ruins their children's health, physically, and emotionally.

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1 week ago

Yeah this is a virus that can be ingested by children through their parents behaviour. And then children can't even express their feelings.

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