Not Someone's Cup of Tea

We cannot please everyone to like us. No matter what we do, people have something to say about us, whether it's a positive or negative one. We are not their cup of tea, that's why.

We people have different preferences and interests. I can say that I like burger, but others might disagree with me as they like pizza more. I can say that I like tea, but other's prefers coffee more.

Same through in real life situation. Some may like to be my friend and want to get along with me, but someone out there might secretly hating me for some reasons. Whatever I do, if they don't want me, then I can't do anything about it.

This is what I observed too when I was in High School (particularly when I was a grade 7 student).

This is what I observed too when I was in High School (particularly when I was a grade 7 student). One of my teachers secretly disliked me for I don't know her reason is. She has other favorite student and I clearly know who was it since she's very transparent about it.

I am not jealous about that former classmate of mine but that somehow pained me when my academic marks were affected by my teacher being annoyed with my existence. I am not a mischievous student, I was a consistent honor student back then and I know that I didn't do something wrong but no matter how I excelled in our performance tasks, exams, quizzes and recitations, my academic marks in her subject are still so low and guess what? My grades from first grading upto the fourth grading period were exactly similar to each other (all low), sound suspicious right?

I found out that my teacher wants her favorite student to be on top of the list of the honor students and I will be on the bottom. She intentionally gave me low marks so that her favorite student will excell on the honor roll, but at the end of the day, their plan was not successful. My other subjects got corresponding high grades that pushed me to be on top despite of my low grade in one subject. One negative cannot beat several positives, indeed.

My other teachers supported me and they even confronted that one teacher who hated me. I don't know what happened between them but on the next years, everything went fine already.

What I've learned on that experience that time is that not everyone will like us. I am not my teacher’s cup of tea, that's why whatever I did, she will never liked me. She liked someone else, and who am I to fit in with her standards that I can't even reach?

But, even if that's the case, I will never plant a seed of anger towards them, I'd just put my trust unto God's hands about the consequences of their actions.

Imagine disliking a tea, whatever the flavor is, no matter how presentable it is when served, when you don't like it, you will never have the guts to taste it. Just like in other foods as well, for example, I don't want the taste of pork. Even if my mom cooked different yummy dishes, when there's pork added, I will never eat those.

On the other hand, of course, most of us secretly hate someone, same with other persons too.

Take these examples for further understanding.

• No matter how kind you are, some will never like you by saying that you're just pretending to be a good one.

• You are pretty? Not everyone will be fond of you as some will say, maybe you undergone plastic surgery or what?

• You are slim and fit? Some will say that you look like sick or a zombie came from a graveyard?

• You are fat? Some will say that you look like pig.

We are not someone's cup of tea and will never be, if they really hate us. But, you know what? We still have a choice to ignore them. How can we push ourselves to them, when they don't want us in the first place.

Just think of it as if we are forcing them to drink a cup of tea which they don't want the taste. They might drink it as what we ordered them to do, but they will just vomit and let us out at the end. See? Nothing will happen if we will force ourselves to someone who doesn't want every part of our existence.

CLOSING THOUGHTS

Let's just focus more on people who make us feel as if we are their cup of tea. Let's not stress ourselves with people who keep on dragging us down and let's divert our attention with something more positive that will help us grow into the best version of ourselves.

We don't have to change ourselves to fit in with other's standards.

If you are a cup of tea, even if you will pretend to be a coffee, still the original you will show off in the end. You will never happy with it, trust me.

If they don't want us, then let them be. There are billions of people around the world. Just imagine a bowl of salt on top of the table, a small drop of water can't dissolve it all. If we will relate it in real-life situation, a small group of people who dislike us will never defeat a big group of people who like us.

If we are not someone's cup of tea, it's okay. We don't have to force ourselves to fit in with someone's standards, when there are people out there whose willing to accept us, whoever we are, without us begging for it.

Author's Note:

Date Published: August 14, 2021

Lead Image: Originally created by me using Canva