Girl Gone Missing: It's Not Always What You Think

Whenever there’s a missing person, we always think about some possibilities and reasons why they left. Asking where they have been, or if there’s other people involve why they are gone missing.

Being worried is a natural reaction that we could feel if one of our loved ones unexpectedly gone from our sight. That moment when they just left for a moment to attend some important matters, but it’s been hours, days, weeks or even months, they never came back again.

When I was scrolling in my Facebook feed earlier, a particular post caught my attention as it was referring to a missing person. I got curious about the details so I went over the body of that post. There was a missing person, specifically a girl, who was gone missing last December 28, 2021. Her family was so worried about her that’s why they are asking for every user to share that particular post as a way of helping them to find that girl.

As my way of helping the family, I also shared the post and asked my FB friends to do the same or give some details if ever that they saw the missing girl in whatever place they are. So far, I just got some reaction about it, no comments at all, meaning, none of my FB friends saw the missing girl.

I came back to the original post and I decided to read hundreds of comments there, but I just felt disappointed at how narrow-minded most of the people are in the comment section. I barely saw a comment about sending prayers and helping the worried family, as most of them are so nonsense and insensitive. Instead of helping, they chose to be toxic as they were making false assumptions that might stained the image of the missing person.

Instead of helping, most of the comments said that the missing girl might have chosen to live with his boyfriend and left his family without them knowing. Just a typical scenario of a rebel or liberated youth who prefer living with his boyfriend and have a family at an early age. I feel bad about this kind of comments because even though the scenario is very common these days, still, there are other serious reasons why someone gone missing all of a sudden.

• What if the missing girl got kidnapped by a group of syndicate and did violent acts to her?

• What if she was sexually harassed in a secluded place and killed her so she won’t tell the police and the suspect will not get arrested?

• What if the girl chose to leave her family because she was experiencing violence there and chose to live in a peaceful place?

• What if the missing girl just went out with his friends to attend important matters, but she was too afraid to tell her parents because she might not get a permission from them?

Those are some of the ‘what ifs’ in my mind which might be the reasons why a girl gone missing, and not always about her, going out with his boyfriend to live in together and have their own family.

Instead of making insensitive comments about it, I chose to list some possible reasons about it which are objectively written, not just merely an inappropriate opinion. And I was right with this one, why? Because the missing person didn’t actually leave just to be with his rumored boyfriend. That missing girl was successfully found earlier and she was hugging her mother while crying. She already has her own family, and one of the persons looking for her is her husband. She already has her own family so the assumptions made by most of the users in the comment section in that particular post, are all fake. 

Even though I got no chance to know the real reason behind the disappearance of the girl, the family of her clarified that she didn’t leave because of a boyfriend and other insensitive assumptions.

Some people nowadays refused to use their minds in a more accurate and considerate ways, and chose to be narrow-minded and insensitive especially to the affected family. Instead of helping to find someone, they seem gas-lighting the situation and make issues and assumptions which are not actually true, just merely fallacy statements.

My point is that, no matter how usual or common the situation is, we should stop stereotyping by not generalizing that all men and woman (especially the youth) are gone missing because they choose to live in with their partners. Not all missing persons have this kind of reasons why they are gone all of a sudden.

It might not their fault at all why they are missing, other people might be involved who could have done something wrong or evil to the missing ones.

CLOSING THOUGHTS

Instead of voicing out nonsense and insensitive opinions about this kind of matter, let’s be more understanding and helpful to the worried families. We can help them by sharing the post to spread awareness, giving true and valid details if we knew something about it, and praying that the missing person is in a good state and will be back safe with his/her family.

I am glad that the missing girl was later on found by her family and she was safe from the verge of possible danger. She also proven that not all missing girls are gone because they want to live in with their partners, there are other reasons behind it that might not actually their fault.

Author's Note:

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Date Published: January 4, 2022

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