Don't go into a relationship if you aren't in love

Is there no one left in this world to trust? Why is it so difficult for me to find true love?

Everything will be fine, trust me you'll find true love "her friend said"

True love? I don't ever want to hear that word again. She scolded her friend who was trying to console her. She just got heartbroken by a guy she met on social media.

In the past two years, she has been heartbroken by three different guys. She is a young lady of age 21. Why is she in hurry to have a boyfriend?

Peer pressure / social media

Her friends have boyfriends also want to have a boyfriend. Some of her friends are got pregnant and got married. And she doesn't want to be left out. She met the first guy on Facebook, the relationship lasted for just 3 months, she found out that the guy was just playing him and didn't want a serious relationship. The cases of the second and the third were similar, she met them on social media as well, they both have other girls they are dating, they only want to take advantage of her. The one that happened recently led me to write this article and the article @Jane wrote recently Why in a rush early marriage?

and @HappyBoy 's Why I am single

Pressure from parents

Another factor that leads young ladies to go into relationships is the Pressure from parents.

There is a part in my country where some parents choose a husband for their female children. They did not allow them to decide their future. Yes, Future because they will spend their whole life with the man they were forced to marry. Some might be allowed to finish secondary school before they give their hands in marriage, while most times they tell them to drop out of school, with fake promises that their husband to be will sponsor their education. A young girl's future is now in the hands of an unknown man, a man she doesn't love. Those selfish parents force their children to marriage most times because of money and other material things. They believe and say a woman will always end up in the kitchen, which is very wrong.

Even in the cases of mature ladies, those that are old enough to stand on their own. Though they don't find husbands for them, the hatred their parents show towards them because they aren't married yet will force them to go into a relationship. As a lady, if you do not love a man, don't go into the relationship. If not, you will end up being maltreated and heartbroken.

Love of money

So many girls nowadays don't care about love, all they want is money. If you are ready to give them money, they will satisfy you with whatever you want. They don't even care where you get the money from, either legal or illegal. And they end up being used or being maltreated in the relationship. You don't need to please anyone, neither do you need anyone to be successful. We have female millionaires in the world, so yours is not an exception. Don't quote me wrong, I did not say you shouldn't get married, but don't go into a relationship with a man you don't love

Why am I saying all these? Out of the numerous causes of divorce in the world, Lack of love is the major reason behind every dissolved relationship. I mentioned some examples of divorced relationships in this article Love is not enough. It is better not to go into a relationship than to go into it and regret ever starting the relationship. A lot of news about newly wedded couples breaking up. What causes all the breakups and heartbreaks in the world is a lack of love. But when there is love, there would be no problem in the relationship.

For the young ladies out there, seeking love on Facebook and Instagram because of peer pressure, please be patient because an adage says A patient dog eats the fattest bone.

Thanks for reading ❤️🙏

31st October 2021