You need to fall in love with the wrong people. You need to be attracted to the worst kind of people. You need to get attached to toxic people. You need to be lied to a bunch of times. You need to feel like you're being cheated on by what feels like everybody you come across. You need to find out that that person you want already wants someone else. You need to be told by someone you see potential in that they only want to be friends with you. You need to have your expectations in people be met with disappointment time after time. You need to have those days where you don't feel like you're good enough. You need to have those moments where you just wanna break down and cry. You need to give bad people chances so that they can help you realize that this isn't what you want. You need to be in bad relationships and have bad break ups. You need to have your trust shattered over and over. You need to have your heart broken again and again. You need to go through all of that so that when the right one finally comes along, you can say "This is how it's supposed to feel" and you would be able to appreciate how everything you've been through has led you up to this happiness that'll last.