How to Find Out Whether a Girl Loves You or Is Just Being a Good Friend Often times, romantic relationships build from great friendships. Before feelings are revealed, it can be hard to wait around to find out if a girl loves you, or simply wants to be your good friend. It can be difficult to determine how she feels without a declaration of love, but by learning a few key signs, you may be able to tell when it's just friendship and when it's love. 1 Look for eye contact. If a girl looks down when she first sees you, or if she lowers her head while smiling, it’s a strong indicator that she’s attracted to you. It can be hard to look someone in the eye when you have strong feelings that are not yet exposed. Triangulation describes a pattern of eye movement that is a strong indicator that a girl is into you. She will look at one eye, then the other, then your mouth, and then repeat the sequence. 2 Watch for hair twirling. Playing with hair causes blood to flow and makes you feel connected with your body, so if you notice a girl twirling hair, it’s a positive sign. 3 Pay attention to body language. If a girl leans in close to you, makes an excuse to touch you, or lets each touch linger for a longer period of time, then she may see you as more than a friend. If she touches your shoulder, brushes your hand, or hugs you for no real reason, it is a positive indication she likes you. If a girl wants to share a drink or food with you, chances are she is way into you.