Why are we attracted to each other? What is it about?

Sometimes I feel this attraction as a current of electricity that almost lifts my hair.

It can be so strong, our bodies drawn to each other with such intensity, utterly magnetised to each other.

What is this attraction?

Why is it so strong with some men and non-existent with others?

I believe a large part of it is about our opposite polarities. The more polarised our magnets are, the stronger the attraction.

Do you want a strong man by your side?

A man who is stable, reliable, and able to love you through all your emotional states?

If yes, you need to relax more into your soft feminine side to awaken his strong masculine side.

"There is nothing that so arouses, supports and sustains the normal sex-passion in a man as for a strongly-sexed woman to fill her aura toward him with a strong, steady, self-controlled appeal-tender, loving, admiring, yet deliciously sensuous and aesthetically voluptuous; pure, yet deep, warm, alluring."

- J William Lloyd

All of us have both masculine and feminine energy.

Masculine energy is direct, focused, penetrating, solid, purpose-driven, and structured. It's based on values and thrives on achieving set goals. At times in our lives, we all need masculine energy to achieve our goals, complete projects, and cut through the lies and damaging emotional states.

Feminine energy is fluid, soft, in the moment, changeable, intuitive, love-driven, and nurturing. It's based on emotional states and thrives on relating to others. Men and women need to have access to the feminine energy to create more love, care for others, and build harmonious relationships.

As women it is healthy and fulfilling for us to spend more time in our feminine energy, especially when we are relating to our romantic partner. For men it is healthy and fulfilling to be more often in his masculine energy, especially when he is relating to his beloved woman. That said, it can be very exciting and rewarding to sometimes reverse the energies and explore the other side of ourselves and our partners. This can feel as if you have a relationship with two different people, and then your love life will never be boring.

For the feminine side to uncover herself in her full beauty, she needs to feel safe and supported by the masculine side.

To avoid the dependency on our partners, it's a great idea to develop our own inner masculine side so that our feminine side can flourish.

A woman with a developed inner masculine aspect has the capacity to dive into her deep femininity when she chooses to, becoming fluid, soft, and magnetic. Such a woman will arouse strong masculinity in her partner. She will be attracted to men with mature masculine qualities and will feel cherished by her man.

If a woman is not in touch with her feminine essence, she might tend to spend more time functioning in her masculine mode. A man of such a woman is likely to function more in his feminine energy and stop developing his masculine qualities. If she is looking for a partner, she will probably attract a softer, indecisive, and emotional man who is immature in his masculine side.

This kind of a relationship is usually out of balance and keeps both partners dissatisfied on a deeper level. She wants her partner to give her stability and provide a space where she feels safe to surrender, flow, and express her emotions. This is the deepest yearning of the feminine. However, she feels like a driving force in such a relationship. This causes her man to feel unworthy and weak, overwhelmed by her emotions and dominating attitude.

The most attractive man for me is the one who is powerful, provides safety, and lives a purposeful life. Equally, he is capable of depth of emotions and free expression of his feelings, and he can recognise and follow his own intuition. This man successfully integrates both the mature masculine and mature feminine. He is not afraid to cut through lies and destructive emotional patterns as well as cry when he feels like it.

How can you connect to your Feminine Essence on a regular basis? Maybe you need to take dance classes, or spend more time with your girlfriends, or take a bubble bath, or go for a walk on the beach. What do you need to connect to your Feminine Essence? Share in the comments below.