Is it possible to heal relationships by healing our childhood wounds?

It is certain that we all have sad events and traumatic situations in our childhood as well as good memories. From the moment we are born, we get to know ourselves, we start to mingle with other people and we accumulate many experiences, good and bad. It is an undeniable fact that all these experiences contribute to our growth, but sometimes, while these experiences make us grow, they can also open wounds that do not close and childhood traumas can take up a deep place in our lives.

Underneath the fears that most of us face in life, there may be large and small traumas that are perhaps fed by an event that happened years ago. Fear of being abandoned, fear of loving/being loved, fear of getting close to people, fear of falling in love, fear of getting out of our comfort zone, fear of change or much more... All these fears can hold us back when we want to move forward in our lives. Perhaps because we have been carrying them inside us for so many years that we have forgotten their existence and origins, they can make us feel as if they are an integral part of our life, of our whole system, and that we have to live with them. However, healing from these wounds is a big step that we all need to have the courage to take in order to continue to grow, develop and move forward.

When we dedicate ourselves to personal growth and spiritual awakening, we can find and heal those wounds that we have carried inside us since childhood and that have held us back from many things. We can peel away all the layers of the wounds and finally heal our essence. We can take the broken pieces and create our own wholeness in a much more powerful way.

Those fears that affect our relationships with others, that undermine our understanding of love, that perhaps make us feel unworthy, may seem like the most powerful artifact of our wounds, but we are much stronger than our wounds and we can heal them and be free of our fears. Maybe it's our unmet childhood needs, our parents' lack of love, our bullying friends in elementary school, the unsympathetic environments we grew up in, or so much more, that are preventing us today from getting closer to people, forming strong bonds, falling in love, achieving greater success, moving forward without fear of change. So, now is the time to break this cycle and heal the wounds.

As you begin to connect more deeply with yourself, you will naturally have deeper connections with others. When you stop looking outside yourself for love, trust, comfort, ease, comfort; when you see that you can find all these things within yourself first and when you nurture your self-love, you will realize that everything starts within yourself and you will be able to connect first to yourself and then to other people with the love and trust you receive from your essence. First nurture the nest within you; be alone with yourself, close your eyes, get away from everything and everyone and open your eyes only within yourself. Once you learn to love yourself in your inner nest, you will be able to love others and open your inner nest, which you have wrapped with love, to others.

Do not underestimate the healing power of nature. Realize that everything in the vast universe is interconnected and that nature is the most important force we need. Find yourself in nature, which gives you the opportunity to experience a sense of unity and belonging. Breathe in the fresh air as deeply as you can. Touch the soil, sand, water. Open yourself to nature to connect to it safely and realize that you are not alone.

Not everything relaxes everyone; some people find calm and peace with a cup of tea, others with a walk in nature. Discover your own ways of relaxing. A long, hot bath, a relaxing meditation, peaceful breathing exercises, a favorite book, crystals, a calm song or anything else... Take time to find the actions that relax you, make you feel good, soothe your nervous system.

Get to know yourself and find out what works best for you. Whether it's journaling, praying, swimming, or just looking out the window and doing nothing. Take time to do whatever you feel relaxed doing.

Most importantly, remember to be kind and patient with yourself throughout the healing process. The wounds you have carried inside you for years cannot heal in a day, but they can heal over time. Take your time, control your emotions, observe yourself and whatever happens, do not diminish the value and love you give to yourself.