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@zavierconnoll 20 November 2022

Is it possible to heal relationships by healing our childhood wounds? It is certain that we all have sad events and traumatic situations in our childhood as well as good memories. From the moment we are born, we get to know ourselves, we start to mingle with other people and we accumulate many experiences, good and bad. It is an undeniable fact that all these experiences contribute to our growth, but sometimes, while these experiences make us grow, they can also open wounds that do not close and childhood traumas can take up a deep place in our lives. Underneath the fears that most of us face in life, there may be large and small traumas that are perhaps fed by an event that happened years ago. Fear of being abandoned, fear of loving/being loved, fear of getting close to people, fear of falling in love, fear of getting out of our comfort zone, fear of change or much more... All these fears can hold us back when we want to move forward in our lives. Perhaps because we have been carrying them inside us for so many years that we have forgotten their existence and origins, they can make us feel as if they are an integral part of our life, of our whole system, and that we have to live with them. However, healing from these wounds is a big step that we all need to have the courage to take in order to continue to grow, develop and move forward. When we dedicate ourselves to personal growth and spiritual awakening, we can find and heal those wounds that we have carried inside us since childhood and that have held us back from many things. We can peel away all the layers of the wounds and finally heal our essence. We can take the broken pieces and create our own wholeness in a much more powerful way. Those fears that affect our relationships with others, that undermine our understanding of love, that perhaps make us feel unworthy, may seem like the most powerful artifact of our wounds, but we are much stronger than our wounds and we can heal them and be free of our fears. Maybe it's our unmet childhood needs, our parents' lack of love, our bullying friends in elementary school, the unsympathetic environments we grew up in, or so much more, that are preventing us today from getting closer to people, forming strong bonds, falling in love, achieving greater success, moving forward without fear of change. So, now is the time to break this cycle and heal the wounds. As you begin to connect more deeply with yourself, you will naturally have deeper connections with others. When you stop looking outside yourself for love, trust, comfort, ease, comfort; when you see that you can find all these things within yourself first and when you nurture your self-love, you will realize that everything starts within yourself and you will be able to connect first to yourself and then to other people with the love and trust you receive from your essence. First nurture the nest within you; be alone with yourself, close your eyes, get away from everything and everyone and open your eyes only within yourself. Once you learn to love yourself in your inner nest, you will be able to love others and open your inner nest, which you have wrapped with love, to others. Do not underestimate the healing power of nature. Realize that everything in the vast universe is interconnected and that nature is the most important force we need. Find yourself in nature, which gives you the opportunity to experience a sense of unity and belonging. Breathe in the fresh air as deeply as you can. Touch the soil, sand, water. Open yourself to nature to connect to it safely and realize that you are not alone. Not everything relaxes everyone; some people find calm and peace with a cup of tea, others with a walk in nature. Discover your own ways of relaxing. A long, hot bath, a relaxing meditation, peaceful breathing exercises, a favorite book, crystals, a calm song or anything else... Take time to find the actions that relax you, make you feel good, soothe your nervous system. Get to know yourself and find out what works best for you. Whether it's journaling, praying, swimming, or just looking out the window and doing nothing. Take time to do whatever you feel relaxed doing. Most importantly, remember to be kind and patient with yourself throughout the healing process. The wounds you have carried inside you for years cannot heal in a day, but they can heal over time. Take your time, control your emotions, observe yourself and whatever happens, do not diminish the value and love you give to yourself.

@zavierconnoll 10 November 2022

Ways to cope with the stress of moving As you are aware, the science of psychology deals with every aspect of life. Moving house is one of them. If you, like me, are currently moving house and don't know how to cope with the feelings you have about moving house, this article is for you.   Although the stress levels of moving to another neighborhood in our city or to another city or country are different, moving to another neighborhood in our city is also a very stressful event. Moving stress can be explained by Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, which states that humans need a stable home environment to achieve the highest level of emotional well-being, along with other essentials such as food, sleep, shelter and water. Our homes are our fortresses, protecting us from the negative influences of the outside world. It is precisely for this reason that leaving a home that we find safe and familiar and moving to a new, unfamiliar home in a different neighborhood can cause feelings of anxiety. We may find it frightening to step out of the familiar, known world of our old home and neighborhood into the unknown world of our new home and neighborhood.  Moving to a new city or even a new neighborhood is stressful at any age, but a study shows that frequent childhood relocations are associated with less well-being in adulthood, especially among more introverted or neurotic people. Researchers tested the association between the number of childhood moves and well-being in a sample of 7,108 American adults followed for 10 years and came to this conclusion.    So how can we deal with the stress of moving? Here are a few suggestions for you: Hold on to your routines Routines give us a sense of security and help us cope with change. So one of the things we need to do when we move to another home is to hold on to our routines. For example, if exercise is part of your morning routine, incorporate it into your new life in your new home.  Don't neglect your mental and physical self-care. Moving is both physically and psychologically exhausting. So try to take extra care of your mental and physical health while moving. Eat well, pay attention to your sleep patterns, and make time in your day for activities that will lower your stress levels, such as practicing yoga or meditating.  Accept that moving is stressful. Moving can cause many emotions such as sadness and anxiety. Memories of the home we will leave behind may come back to us one by one. Moreover, our feelings towards the move may change constantly. One day we may be excited about our new home and another day we may be sad to leave our old home. Accepting that moving is stressful and triggers different emotions will relieve us to some extent. As the cliché but true saying goes, the only constant is change. Moving house is just one of the many changes we will face throughout our lives.