Do you somehow, came across Dhar Mann facebook page? What's your impression about it, then?
Am a fan of watching Dhar Mann page on facebook. Sometimes when I can't sleep due to my disturbing thoughts or due to mere insomnia which is also my problem, I watch some from it. I guess Dhar Mann is also the real identity of this great vlogger. It really is a good one, very informative, educative and leaves one to realize the lesson behind it.
Dhar Mann's videos may be short with at least 5-10 minutes time watching it but the point is all there. For someone who is lacking motivation, you will be motivated by watching his related videos. It, too leaves inspirations for people who needs it. As for my observation, the speaker mostly talks about family relationship, or so I thought. It consists of husband-wife relationship, in-laws, child-parent relationships, good manners and right conduct and many more to mention. It may be short yet it leaves an intense moral for someone who is open for realization.
So, there am awaken at 8:47 pm (Philippine time) because I slept at pass 7pm, I think. That's my new sleeping format and will stay awake until near daybreak. Time checked 12:07 am and writing this after I have watched one from the page. It was the one entitled "Husband gives wife the saddest birthday gift." I hope I was not mistaken.
The video was about a husband who presented her wife with three paper bags on her birthday. One contained a note written on a piece of paper which read "RENT" that when the wife opened it and expecting a Disneyland ticket trip, she was surprised and asked what about it. Her husband answered with an unpleasant look on his face, "Who is paying the rent for the whole year? Is it not me? so happy birth day."
Expecting the same ticket on the second box, she extracted a note with "Groceries" written on it. It made her more puzzled and asked, "You gave me groceries for my birthday?" To which her husband again answered that he made sure the refrigerator doesn't go out of groceries. How can she be ungrateful.
The third was again a note "WEDDING RING" scribed in it. It left the wife more hurt when her husband again told her about it.
The conversation I have written was not exactly as it is but contains the same point.
What do you think of the treatment of the husband towards his wife? Does she deserve to be treated as such?
Nah. First of all, it's a man's primary responsibility to provide for the family especially when his wife is jobless and have kids to tend to. In our modern world, women are taking also the responsibility of men and vice versa. So those things such as rent and groceries should not be something to peck (at) about. As long as financial matters are being put into good use and not wasted on wants, wants and wants because it would only lead to financial downfall. It is to be spend wisely and thriftily.
Next, wedding ring. Man, seriously? Is it not your love towards your woman that brought you to buy that jewelry which reminds her of your vows? I just don't know what to say on this. What about you?
Okay. You're a husband and a father who provides for the needs of your family. You leave your household for work everyday cheerfully. But as time passed by, how do you feel? This I need to know, because I can relate with the video.
Have you ever thanked your wife for preparing you clean clothes for work, for preparing you meal before you leave and after you come home from work? Do you appreciate her for maintaining the house tidy for a relaxing ambience when you arrived from your tiring day? When you have kid/s, do you feel thankful seeing your child or children being well taken care of by your better half?
Well, then if you do, I must say you're a good husband and father. But if not, pls do so. Because stay at home moms with little kids are more exhausted than you are. Those little efforts you think are worthless are in fact, priceless. A woman is very appreciative even with a little act of gratitude from her man. So during your personal occasions like those of anniversaries, birthdays which just comes once in a year, show her how you appreciate those things. (I do admire men who do).
Now, is money all that counts? Let me also tell you that, women doesn't like to keep staying at home. Did you notice it? Women who have the opportunity to work, do so. I mean, when they are professionals they practice their professions or look for jobs which commensurate their abilities and. And those who are not professionals, those who are like me who are undergrads still try to look for odd jobs or something na pwedeng pagkakitaan especially when kids are growing. It means, financial needs are also growing. So pls don't think that women who are jobless are just palamunin. Exactly, 'cause that was exactly the word my husband keeps telling to my face..
Going back to the video, the husband went out of their apartment and bumped into someone who's holding a beautiful bouquet of flowers and a box of carefully wrapped gift. Coincidentally, the man holding them was on his way to their apartment to surprise her wife on her birthday. They exchange conversation which the latter found the other man's illogical reason for treating his wife on her birthday the way he did. He, then explained how he feels towards his wife which made the former realize his harsh treatment.
Dhar Mann said, "Appreciate those little efforts."
Oh you are watching his videos too? Great! Because i loved his videos.
Sadly in that video though i haven't watched it reflects some husband who doesn't appreciate the wifeys efforts. They think they already gave it all. But for me a simple appreciation will do even without presents.