The values I had... I have the feeling I start losing them. They say children are influenced by society, school, teachers if it comes to behavior, ideas, and the words they use.
Within my family, we have three if not four different generations if it comes to expressing ourselves. Is it time that made this difference, growing up in different societies? I try to remember if the vocabulary my grandmother used was influenced by her youngest child. She endured pop music and all his behavior but I think what she said, the way she said it never changed neither did his way. Her influence was clear if it came to the language spoken. Perhaps she became more silent as the years passed by but the angry look was there.
With me it is different. Might be I changed. Or I should say I became the person I am instead of the one people tried to make out of me? It is true and I I can not help noticing it but I do express myself at times with words that aren't mine. Words I don't like and feel uncomfortable with. In my case, it's not about birds of a feather flock together, neither I try to fit in or be popular but it's more like the Dutch expression says "Those who work with tar will be tainted (
those who handle pitch are contaminated with it).
It feels as if the world is no longer one I recognize. One child uses words I do not like and therefore not tolerate. Might be I am an old fashioned mother, perhaps more than my granny was, but I still believe the way we write and speak does give others an impression of who we really are.
For years huge posters of parrots were seen in cities and train stations. It was a campaign against cursing, scolding. "Don't be a parrot, cursing is learned behavior" it said.
The language you use changes over time, and I'm not talking generationally. I remember swearing alot when I was a teenager, but as I grew older, I stopped seeing the point of doing that. It's not helping you sound more intelligent, or funny even.
Nevertheless, I follow some people at Youtube who make the crudest jokes I've never replicated as a child, and I don't mind it, it makes me laugh. I guess some things just suit certain people better.