The evil brain

Stepmothers
Fairy tales are where most of us get to know them first. The stepmother stands for an evil scrupulous woman. A woman who will try to get rid of the children and lay her hands on the fortune of her new wedded husband. Of course, the husband is way too good of trust, blind, stupid, and no matter if he is a king or salesman he disappears, gets ill, and dies (sounds like a black widow to me). As a child, you learn stepmoms are the worst thing that can happen to you. If you believe that is true you are wrong. It's the mother in law you can better try to befriend with.

The mother in law.
She is a mother and she might love her child but it doesn't mean she loves the one her child introduces her too. If your husband is close to his mom and fell for you, you better prepare. The idea is you start cooking like her and pamper him in exactly the same way. Mom in law will watch you, your husband will tell her every detail of your marriage and of course, he finds it quite normal not to show up for dinner because mom always cooks his favorite meal on Fridays. It's clear that if the mother in law can't stand you it won't do your relationship any good.

The wife.
If she starts ruling it might get annoying. She never understands you. Once she was a beauty but it's no fun if other men look at your property. She has to dress in a different way because if not you can no longer respect her. Once she's a mother she should understand she can't go out and has to take care of the children since you can not babysit them yourself. You have plans and need to meet your friends plus caring is a female thing to do.
That wife of yours starts to get boring, she's so dull, no fun to be with because she's always complaining, tired, crying, or in a bad mood. Those vomit spots on her clothes don't make her any attractive either.

Sisters
Cinderella hat to deal with stepsisters and in the tales "Frau Hollow"," One eye, two eyes, and three eyes" bad (step)sisters made lives miserable.

Women
The most terrible names are used to humiliate and break them. Old women are witches, the young one's bitches, they are whores, stupid, gossip, cannot count and it's a waste to send them to school. A handicapped child is their fault just like a badly raised one and criminal.

It makes one wonder if good women exist at all but also in which amount our vision if it comes to women is influenced by the stories told. Do good women exist?
The bible made it clear, the fairy tales do their best but no matter how sweet the princess is the evil woman impresses more. No matter how modern and educated we say we are we keep these fairy tales alive and somehow do believe it's all true. All those medieval ideas are still alive and hard to fight. In so many ways during the last thousands of years if it comes to science, but we keep believing what once was told.

Many divorce and stepmothers have to take care of what is not theirs, they are rarely appreciated and will always be the stranger in the family, someone to fight, not someone to love.
What is it in us, our brain that no matter how many great, strong, brave women we meet the society keeps focussing on the "bad" site of this gender, humiliating "jokes" are still popular?

We see what be like to see and hear what we like to hear.
If we think about it deeper we know "step" is not a synonym for "bad" or "mean" although defense and fight it is our first response.

The imprint we have from a very young age thanks to stories (and these days Walt Disney) is a fact and the first impulse is hard to fight. We learned "step" is evil a monster and it's easier for the brain to understand only stepmothers kill, no one harms their own blood. Why? We can understand a stepmother will not bond with strange children in the same way as a child of her own. What counts for her counts for mothers-in-law as well.

Speaking evil, humiliating jokes make it easier for some to cope with what their brain can not understand which is the tunnel vision they are brought up with and the reality that turns out to be the opposite of what was taught.

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