"Discipline your children". It sounds not only odd but unfriendly to my ears.
I do not disipline or train my children. I never did. Discipline sounds like a training camp or army to me, training is what you do with an animal. You can litter train a dog or cat.
As my children were younger I mainly cared about their needs. I fed, washed, changed them. I carried them and drove them around, observed them and at times I played with them. They slept at thise hours the clock said it was time for a nap and it worked well.
The main thing I did as they became older was stimulating doing things by themselves!
It's not difficult to do so because a two year old loves to give a hand and you only have to let them and if this is the case, tell or show them how to do it.
The worst thing that can happen to a single mom is having children who can not take care of themselves in case of need. Those cases something happens to me. A something which each parent should count with.
No, I didn't train them what to do in case of need, who to turn to but I raised them in a way they know what to do. They can make their own bread, cook, clean, do the laundry, and take care of the wolves and garden. They can do the shopping and will not party, get drunk, or set the house at fire if I am not around. They are raised with certain rules, examplesgiven by me, the things I value. They understand why theserules are important.
Now they are getting older I no longer raise.
I didn't set a time for "stop the raising" we grew into it. They know the rules, the rules of this household just like they know where the money comes from. I will be responsible as long as they are no adults and live under my roof but I need to be realistic. I can not check each step they take.
At a young age, my children had to do their share of the household which means they had responsibilities.
I am not only a single mother but one with a job as well. It's impossible to do everything yourself and if you hand over responsibilities you need to give something back in return. With the responsibilities my children earned rights.
The right to give their opinion if it comes to spending money, big expenses, the right to organize their own life, schedule their day and future, and more.
Like said I no longer raise my children.
We live together, share the same house, tools, pots, and pans. We respect each other's privacy and give a (financial) hand if needed. For now, this works out fine which means there's no need to change anything as long as we are a team in those cases needed.
The community parenting is for parents sharing their experiences raising children.
This was like how my mom raised us. It was nice to be given freedom and independence whereas my dad thought otherwise. We still abided by our mom and relished in having equal rights to the decisions made in the household, specially when my father left