Love

Love it is a feeling.

A feeling that can make you and break you. Many talk about it, long for it and it is strange how hard it is to find (true) love. We have overpopulation and with the help of the internet, we can meet as many people as we like. Shouldn't it be a piece of cake to find the love of our life? How come rarely happens?

The first question is if true love exists or we just think it does.

The second question is if, in the old days, people loved each other for real. Something that is frequently stated (same if it comes to friendships) but is it true or just all in our mind? The third question one looking for love should ask is: how picky am I, am I that perfect myself?

Who asks around, is close to elderly people who are willing to open up, might find out a different truth if it comes to true love, relationships, marriage. Especially if it comes to women most had to marry or decided to marry. Financial reasons were one of the main reasons. It still is in those countries where social security is hardly given to women, single mothers, those who remained single or... are dumped by their partner.

A relationship, how close it may look to the outside world, has it's up and downs.

This is a normal part of each relationship. Relationships you have with each person you meet in your life and if you want them to grow, want it to be a steady one, you need to invest in it. Are you willing to?

In most cases, we are not on the long term. We want our old life back, our friends, our habits because it comforts us more. On the long term, it is harder to like what you once liked, you can even start disliking it. At times we do not know why or when the disliking started.

Scientists figured out body smell is one of the main reasons why relationships end. So are certain habits, an increasing lack of interest in each other which guarantees the loneliness within a relationship and is good for a bad mood and depressions.

The fact is people change. We all do during our life. We read, see movies, study, work, meet people, develop/change ourself and our ideas. If the people around us go into a different direction as we do it's hard to remain birds of a feather.

But what about love?

Love grows and it means accepting, giving, taking, sharing, communicating, and if not you swallow and take it the way it is. It depends on the person what does one good or... spoils the mood.

A served meal is great unless you are the cook, servant, and dishwasher and taken for granted.