The Benefits of Supportive Relationships and How to Handle Toxic Ones

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Throw the rose-tinted glasses right now

Rose-tinted glasses may make life more pleasant, but they do not solve any problems. (Source: Canva)

People are social animals. We need to gather and do joint activities. Sadly, this comes with upsides and downsides. Many people are supportive and help us grow. Still, there are plenty who are critical and negative about our success. Sometimes it is impossible to avoid them, which can be detrimental to our mental health. It is simple to say to avoid this kind of people, but it is not always necessary. Your boss might be mean, yet you are stuck in that particular job since you need the money, yet your search for a new place has been stagnant irrespectively of your attempts. The situation is simply horrible.

A person I am glad to have in my life

I am an extremely lucky person in that regard. I came across a fantastic boss who has been supporting my professional development for years. Among his best traits are friendliness and keeping equality. This makes me feel appreciated, and I am not afraid of asking stupid questions (yes, I have done it many times!). Mistakes are part of life. Fearing your boss’s rage will prevent you from trying and taking risks. Over time, this pattern absorbs you, and you doubt yourself in every aspect of life. Likewise, being supported builds your self-esteem and builds the mindset that you need to be creative, which makes you ready to face challenges. Ultimately, you end up successful and satisfied with yourself.

Gratitude improves your mood. It is worth thinking about what you are grateful for. Hardship can blind us to the good things in life.

If you are an employer or at least managing others, remember to be understanding. Try to find out how the other side works. Some people need structure, while others need freedom, or they start feeling claustrophobic. No two people are the same. Do not enforce previous rules; adjust them.

Gratitude improves your mood. It is worth thinking about what you are grateful for. (Picture: Pixabay)

Avoid the rose-tinted glasses

Many self-help books and articles simply claim that you need to choose your circle. It sounds simple – I will just stop replying to messages by an enemy and avoid the area where I might come across them. But what if you are actually stuck in a situation like the one I described at the beginning, where you have to bear with a mean boss but quitting is not a viable option?

In my opinion, one should not expect quick solutions. Toxic positivity is harmful, too. Nobody can fix your life. There are many steps in the journey to achieve it. Giving up and accepting that you are cursed and that your destiny is to suffer is wrong. Look for ways to analyse the situation, other people and most importantly – yourself. It might be that understanding the core reason for the problem would make it more bearable.

The relationship with yourself is the most important one in your life.

Know yourself, your goals, your wishes and your needs. This is what will lead you closer to a happy, fulfilling life.

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This is amazing @valo. Understanding one's self is kind of hard but it will do us a lot of good.

I'm happy I came across this through dreemport.

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Thank you for the kind comment!

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Another good article @valo. I have also been very privileged and fortunate to have had some great leaders (and I say that as opposed to using the word managers on purpose) leading the teams I have worked in. Teams built on mutual respect are very important. When we can build and rely on trust, so much more can be achieved in life and in business. No two people are the same and it is important that people on all levels within a business learn to engage appropriately. with each other in ways that best meet their needs.

On a side note, I see you utilised an image from canva. Are you aware of the ability to cite canva sources more accurately and appropriately in blogging posts? @dreemsteem has written the following post to assist bloggers to cite Canva images correctly in line with Canva's own regulations. If you could use this going forwards especially if you are sharing your posts in Dreemport, it will ensure that your posts are not unnecessarily rejected for copyright infringement. It's super easy and very similar to citing image accreditations for Unsplash, Pexels etc.

Please take a look at it here: https://peakd.com/hive-150329/@dreemsteem/how-to-properly-cite-images-designed-in-canva-help-for-newbies-and-oldbies

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Oh my, I keep on making mistakes, I'm really sorry! No, I wasn't aware that I can cite Canva directly. I added the second picture to Dreemport because... well, I didn't know I can add a direct link.

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Oh, really please don't be disheartened, and don't worry lol... we are all learning all the time. This is actually a recent thing that we discovered here in Dreemport too hehe, so in order to adopt best practices, @dreemsteem wrote the article to help everyone going forwards. Hope you find it helpful. We love seeing your articles shared in Dreemport :-) Keep them coming. I am really enjoying them!

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Thank you very much for your kind words and for your understanding! I'm really enjoying Dreemport - I've discovered many great pieces so far.

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