To react in the right place, at the right time, in the right way

We all react to something in our lives according to our current energy, our emotional state. And every reaction causes a change or decamates the existing situation. For example, the reaction we give when we are happy is different from the reaction we give when we are sad, angry or hopeless. This can be perceived as if we have a different character within us.

When we really love someone, we want to sacrifice a lot for them. We want to do more good things than we normally would.

Or when we get angry with someone, we are offensive even though we love them very much. Words that we normally would never say come out of our mouth.

We often remember negative situations in our life when we are sad. We say things like the past, the future, the things that upset us in the present, "You did this to me! You told me this!"

Often our reaction is not just against the situation, event or person that made us experience that situation. He is against everyone and everything.

When we are very angry, it may be appropriate to postpone the issue that annoys us to talk again when we have calmed down.

However, mostly every issue should be resolved at the moment. If there is a problem, that problem should be solved at that moment. Because the problems that are not solved and not worked on can spread in a way that reflects in our lives. This causes us to carry the problem in our workplace home, to carry our problems at home to the workplace, to reflect the problem we have with our spouse to our children and friends.

This situation is angry with our spouse and take this anger out of our children; It causes us to react incorrectly in the wrong place, such as getting angry with our boss and causing unrest at home.

For this reason, when we have a problem with someone, it will be much better to solve the problem right there at that moment, in an appropriate manner, in an appropriate way. In this way, we do not unfairly hurt our spouse who loves us, our children who expect love from us, and our friend who is always with us.

It would be much better to react reasonably when and where necessary. Because every problem that is not resolved in a timely manner, every reaction that should be given but not given becomes a burden on us. Forgetting these problems and pushing them into our subconscious may mean hoarding for similar problems.

Of course, our responses must be appropriate, reasonable, measured and analytical. There should never be blaming, criticizing, belittling, hurt, humiliating, violence.

The reasonable response may be to reveal our emotions, such as what situation affects us, how it makes us feel, what we actually want it to be. This can be useful in our private lives. The logic here is: to make clear what hurts us. Explaining what we want and listening to the other person. Maybe everything is a misunderstanding. That way everything can be exposed.

Exposing the problem is the beginning of the solution. If a situation makes us uncomfortable, it is best to discuss the matter with the interlocutor.

It is not right to get angry with someone and react to someone else.

It is most appropriate to produce solutions in the right place, at the right time, in the appropriate extent, for the common good of the parties.

Maybe everything is a misunderstanding. But we cannot know this without talking. Arguing doesn't necessarily have to be a fight.

Nobody has to be subjected to the excessive, unjust, unwarranted reaction of another.

If we want to be understood, we must tell. Shouting is not the solution. We can communicate by talking.

One point is also very important. Life is not just about problems. There are great things in life. Everyone has love on their lips. But if our actions don't reflect love, is that love?

We can't make the world a better place by breaking hearts. We have no right to offend others. Nobody has the right to break our hearts. Therefore, our reactions are really important.

Love is not just about "I love you". It is much more important to show and feel our love. If humanity showed as much love as it showed its anger, the world would turn into heaven.

Our reactions are important, and every reaction should include love. The good of the whole is important. What we do, what we want should not just be for our benefit. It is not healthy to think of our own good at the expense of someone else.

Learning to react healthy is the common lesson of humanity. When a reaction is delayed, it can mean that it will reappear in a more powerful and destructive way. However, if we are very angry, we should also be able to wait to calm down.

We have to think before we break a heart. Perhaps we will enter heaven with the reference of the owner of that heart.

If we do not believe in heaven, we believe in logic and justice. If we want to be fair, we must also consider the well-being of all parties, rather than just our own well-being.

It is important to react. But at the right time, in the right place, in the right way...