We can't always do everything perfectly. Even if we are very smart, even geniuses, we can do simple stupid things. Even if we have excellent speaking ability, we can sometimes make mistakes even in simple sentences. Our words are sometimes true, sometimes jokes. Even if we have a perfect memory, we can forget where our car key is, an important day. These do not show that we are guilty, flawed, sinful. We are just people who can make mistakes.
Being the best version of ourselves, doing the best at what we do, of course, is something we should try. But we must also learn to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes.
Our best friends are people who accept and love us as we are. Because we feel comfortable with them.
Of course, there are things that should not be accepted. Such as criminal acts. But instead of ending our relationships for simple things, I think it would be much better to do something to fix and strengthen our relationships.
Burning a quilt for fleas, burning the ship and the port in the slightest problem will never be a solution. It just turns us into a sharp knife. In every relationship, we harm the people we interact with. Ultimately, our relationships will be full of lose-win, black-and-white, ego warfare, conflicts of interest.
We must learn to be flexible, to accept flaws, to forgive small mistakes, and to see others as people who can make mistakes as much as ourselves.
Instead of ending a relationship that has worked for years with a single word, it would be much more reasonable to learn the truth by speaking.
Pulling barbed steel wires around our hearts so that we don't get hurt prevents us from showing our love to others, as well as preventing others from realizing their love for us.
Remember, the people we love the most are those who accept us as we are and accept our flaws.
As long as relationships prevent people's actions, behaviors and people from being themselves, it is not possible to talk about sincerity, true friendship, and a heart-warming, satisfying love.
When we enter a relationship, we shouldn't need to change and transform ourselves into a different person than we are. Relationships that we think are necessary are not real relationships from the very beginning.
Small arguments don't mean our relationship is bad either. It is not possible for us to agree 100% with anyone on everything all the time. Instead of turning our backs on the slightest snag, clarifying things by talking helps us to look at the subject from different perspectives.
Problems left unresolved not only affect our current relationship, but our later relationships as well. So running away is never the solution.
The secret to strong relationships is not that everything is perfect. We can have strong relationships as long as we can understand each other, love each other despite our flaws, do not compare ourselves and each other with others, and determine our relationships according to the relationships of others.
It is not possible to talk about a strong relationship as long as the relations are dispersed at the slightest wind.
Relationships that do not leave us room to act are also far from sincerity.
Neither a relationship where one side makes concessions and the other side dictates everything, nor a relationship that ends in the slightest mistake is not the right relationship. A balanced relationship is one that listens, understands and maintains healthy communication.
Relationships established only to meet physical needs are also consuming. If physical attractiveness is the determining factor, the same will be the deciding factor that will end the relationship.
People who accept each other as they are are also those who manage to accept themselves as they are.
Forgive me for not being able to answer the perfect relationship question as a result of all this. Because knowing how to forgive, loving ourselves and others, and reducing our sharp boundaries will enable us to establish healthy relationships. The perfect relationship is like falling in love. The only difference is that we can love each other despite our flaws.
All these thoughts are a perspective on relationships, like any other thought. Our heart and reason will show us the right way.
You have said some good things about relationships. I need you all to know. Because relationships occupy an important place in our lives. We need to know something about relationships in a clear way.