Even though it's called the month of separation, I think it's a bit exaggerated. Could this not have been said, perhaps, by looking at the nostalgic and emotional moments of years ago? Could be, of course.
Today's technology has also killed the separations. In the past, separations caused an intense accumulation of longing, but today it does not give the same result, the same pleasure. The beautiful photos that seem alive in front of you, instant phone calls, video conversations, made your longing go away. Even if you want to miss your loved one a little bit, what is possible now! Everything tasted gone. Perhaps the essence of longing remained hidden, but its form changed.
Any month, including September, is no longer the month of separation. So what is left to miss our loved ones to the fullest? Even if I don't have the words to say, I think that in order to miss someone to the fullest, they should emigrate from this world.
Since we cannot say that September is the month of separation, under these circumstances; Will we be deprived of those beautiful emotional poems written about this month? I do not think so! Even so, I think that we can read beautiful poems written in the past, and still get some pleasure, even if it is not in the old taste.
If we think that those beautiful times when we take pleasure in everything and can live with the taste of every moment and every period are now over, and if we believe that it is, we have done a great injustice to nature. We may have left a worldly legacy to the next generation in terms of inns and baths. Whether this is sufficient or not remains a situation that needs to be questioned…
Under these circumstances, it is even clearer that we cannot leave a taste that we have inherited to the next generations as a nostalgia for September of separations, which we know as the month of separations, which we try to define, expressed in thousands of verses and inspired songs; This must be hurting us a lot.
Tired of being nice?
Probably not.
I bet what you're really upset about is the frequent mistreatment of good people, especially those who are not.
Many people interpret kindness as weakness and vulnerability.
Why?
No idea.
But it makes it hard to be nice when the world is full of scumbags.
It might be thought that it should be the other way around.
But no.
Kindness may seem like an open invitation to anyone and everyone to come to you and take advantage of you.
What you need to do is work to your limits and think carefully about how you will use your kindness as you travel the Earth.
Borders are your best friends.
In a situation like yours, there is nothing more important than having healthy boundaries.
"Donors have to set limits because recipients rarely do." - Henry Ford
This phrase does not necessarily apply to malicious people.
It also includes people who are simply busy, need a lot of emotional support, or have issues they are processing.
Some people have serious problems for which they seek support.
The problem with this is that many of these issues cannot be resolved overnight or with a single conversation.
It may be months, years, or even decades when they ask for support (and find the best person around you, by your side).
Then there are people who do this and don't seek support at all.
These people just want to roll in their suffering and magnify the negativity they're struggling with.
A drowning person does not make rational decisions to stay in the water.
That's why lifeguards are trained to allow belligerent people to exhaust themselves before attempting a rescue so that they don't drown together.
Therefore, it is fundamentally important that you know your own limits. When you feel like you're approaching your limits, then it's time to reconsider how much of yourself you're giving.
Is it a regular thing?
Does the person seem to be trying to make any progress?
Or is he just rolling in self-pity?
You don't have to be rude or cruel when doing this.
You can set a limit with a simple sentence:
“I feel really drained right now.
I think it would be better for you to contact a professional or a crisis hotline."
Setting limits usually elicits one of two reactions.
Either the other person remains calm, understands, and withdraws, or reacts with anger or more pressure.
Suppose he responded with anger or more pressure.
In this case, you should withdraw from the environment as much as possible and limit your interactions with that person.
Overall, it's a good sign that they don't want your best.
Learn to say "No"...
