I have a problem. Who will listen to me?
No one will listen to you.
Why is that?
The sea is inside, they do not know the sea.
We are like fish in the sea who do not know the sea.
We seek justice in the afterlife.
First of all, I say "marriages and family life based on love, of course" for the peace and welfare of the society, deep-rooted family and happy partnerships. In this way, the uncontrolled mistakes of love will be corrected with logic, and long-term happy marriages will be ensured by reconciling the mind and the emotions.
In love, it is very important for the emotions to act freely without being hindered, pressured, and to reach satisfaction by being honored.
From time to time, the overflow of emotions will be reconciled with reason and logic, thus preventing mistakes that can cause suffering in our lives. In the togetherness to be established with love; “Reconciliation of emotions and reason” is very important and absolutely necessary.
In this way, spouses add emotion to their lives; they will experience passion, interest, enthusiasm and nostalgia together. They will continue their love to the fullest without getting old, they will not contradict the norms, rules, their own beliefs and cultures of the society.
As long as these two issues are maintained in harmony and balance, family ties do not dissolve, and love does not become monotonous and inexhaustible over time. However, their existence; It is possible to be equipped with sufficient and correct information on time.
In other words, before going on a journey of love and getting married; “love”, “love”, “friendship”, “marriage”, “family notion”, “respect”, responsibility”, “sharing”, “tolerance” “valuing” etc. education is inevitable.
Let's explain this with a few examples: Today, at least "eleven years" of education is required to acquire any profession. E.g; In order to be employed, we must be at least a high school graduate. In this case, we have to study for a total of eleven years, one year of kindergarten, eight years of primary education, and four years of high school education.
Eleven years is the required period of study for the most ordinary profession. That's fifteen years for teaching. After these trainings, the exam for entering the profession, in-service courses, seminars and conferences continue after the profession. The average service period of the professions is twenty-five years. Then you retire.
Love is to meet all the needs of your loved one without looking for any material or spiritual benefit, without getting bored, without getting tired, making both material and moral sacrifices and not expecting anything in return. After a while, my love decreased, I'm tired now, it's never enough to say enough. But! But did you say that the seed of love did not sprout without you? It means that the seed of selfishness has started to sprout in you! Your sense of responsibility has not developed. That's why I love animals. But you deceive yourself. This has always been the case, he says, and continues to be so. Some people can't keep fish. The dog is about to feed. Some are after air, some really love, they don't know how to look, they can't manage, they get bored quickly. Then he looks for ways to escape. If he can find it, what's wrong, if he can't find it, there are also those who resort to very cruel ways. They insisted that we have animals for our children. We accepted on the condition that they fulfill their responsibilities. We know the result, they don't.
So, how much education do we receive for a lifelong "family" when there is such a long education requirement for each profession? What is love, marriage, family, what are the social, personal and spiritual benefits and disadvantages of being together without a family? Is there a necessity to start a family, if so, what are the rules and principles? What is happiness, how is it tried to be achieved? How should emotions and mind function in love? What red lines are not meant to be chewed? How much do we know these?
We throw young people who can't swim properly into the ocean by getting married on the subject of "love and building a home". Without showing the necessities of being a family, without being taught to stand on one's own feet, without being able to live together, without even being with them, we say "don't drown" and leave.
However, as we pointed out, every profession has a candidacy training (internship) period after such training. Civil servants are subjected to candidacy training within two years of the profession. What about the internships and practices of those who love and make a home? No.
For a ninety-minute football game, players spend their lives learning the rules and tactics of the game. We all know the money spent in this sector. A hundred meter runner devotes his life to this work, spending day and night. Just to be able to run for a few seconds.
We cannot receive even an hour of education for an average family life of 60 years. Then how can we expect people who do not have much knowledge or experience in love, friendship, marriage, etc., not to make mistakes?
Those who attend some marriage seminars for a symbolic period of 40 minutes are also confused. Because in this very short and insufficient time, many of those who sometimes give lectures on behalf of experts are people who have not succeeded in happiness. Of course, such people cannot be expected to be drugs for others.
Apparently; couples are trying to learn how to love, friendship and marriage. Of course, at the end of this process, we say, "What remains is ours".
However, in terms of learning, “learning by trial and error” causes the most expensive and sometimes irreparable experiences. In relationships that are presumably maintained without knowing the truth; embarrassment, hatred of love, broken families, distraught children, suicides, etc. events are happening. Most of them are irreversible and irreversible.
In the name of love, friendship, family and marriage, it is now essential that our young people and all of us are adequately educated. It is not possible to expect happy unions without reconciling the feelings with the mind, without knowing comparatively about love, love, emotion, reason, family life, marriage and the drawbacks of not getting married.
