How Accepting Defeat Can Help You Improve Your Health.

Experiencing defeat is inevitable in life. We all experience that one way or another. Now the question is why it is important to accept our defeat and how it will improve our health.

For sure we all have our coping mechanisms per se and I can say that whatever works for you may not work for others. So what am I pointing out now in my blog then?

Welp, I am just here to give some insights on how accepting defeat can be of help and improve your health.

Now let's talk about acknowledging our emotions first.

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Growing up, I can say that I am not exposed to a variety of emotions. Some say that I was trained to be a robot as I can only respond yes or no to some questions.

I had a hard time navigating the right mix of emotions as it is always been suppressed. In a household where men should not shed any emotion, being fragile is a sign of weakness.

Until I reached the working age. Got involved with many people and little by little became more aware of it.

Going back, identifying the correct emotion of defeat is important. You need to take time to acknowledge everything and what it means to you to win. Getting mad, upset, and frustrated is normal and it will help you heal and cope healthily.

When you learn to accept defeat, and did not rush the process you give time to yourself to understand what will be your next action. You can fast forward everything by downplaying the emotion but once the triggers resurface again sure you will be back in the same defeated situation.

Overestimating Your Abilities.

There are times wherein we need to be humbled. When was the last time that you felt that you can do everything perfectly but for some reason, folks around hated you in a way because they felt that the air has gotten in your head?

I am not saying that it usually happens, but it happens right? When we always experience winning proud and invincible.

Overestimating our abilities can sometimes lead to injuries too! The first step in fixing such problems is facing the reality that we over-estimate ourselves rather than downplaying and pretending that it didn't happen. The second is to re-evaluate how you approach it and adjust your expectations.

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Fewer expectations, less hurt.

Underestimating your abilities can mean missing out on reaching your goals that are completely within your reach. A point to consider too is if you give up before even trying because you think you are not good enough that will be the same as overly thinking about your skills.

Tsk, it is just a thin line but that thin line does matter.

Avoid comparing yourself to others.

The benefits of better health are also the benefits of simply being happier. And if you are happy and you know it it will show! You will be more effective at work and will have a better relationship with your family and friends and sometimes you will feel that whatever challenges life has to offer you can face the day with a smile.

The key to improving one's health is accepting the process and not the end goal. I know some will say that the end goal will be either victory or defeat but have you already checked the process, and your improvements along the way? How about the learnings that you had accomplished?

Accepting yourself where you're at, will help you avoid the comparison with others who may be also struggling with their journey.

Comparing oneself to others can also lead to stress and depression as you try to compete with others, you tend to focus more on them than on yourself.

Have You given yourself time to heal?

I know it is devastating, allow yourself to grieve and get used to the reality that you have right now. CRY if you must and scream if it is needed.

Some folks will say that to feel better, you just need to go out with your friends, keep yourself busy, or party but that doesn't work in the long run. Again do not rush the process and do not force yourself to move forward if you are not ready.

Also trying to be productive will not work thus don't force yourself to do anything productive. Your life may be a mess right now but there's no pressure to have it together in an instant. Trying to squeeze productivity, will not work. TRUST ME.

I have tried to work when I got a zero score in my call before and I was more prone to committing mistakes. Pressured to deliver because that is now how I work.

Conclusion

In some parts of life, we will win and we will lose, defeat is inevitable perhaps but what more important is we get back on track and come back prepared.