Do you tell a story of success or do you play the role of a victim? Do you speak good about yourself or do you lack self-love? Do you believe in you or do you tell yourself I'm not good enough? And most of all do you live your life as you or do you live your life as someone else?
You must have felt as if you were left behind. When you check your social media account, you see most of your friends having a successful life. Some always travelling, some already bought a house and lot, some are getting married, starting their family life while you are still on your day-dreaming state of mind. Will I ever catch up? Have you asked yourself that? Do you know how it feels? I do. I understand that kind of feeling because just like you, I've been there and felt bad. It's depressing.
You know what? I used to blame others on what's happening in my life. Why I'm in this situation is because of them. They owe me a better life. I speak ill of myself. I am myself greatest critic. You will not hear me saying any positive things about me. If someone compliments me, I wouldn't say a thing because it sounds like sarcasm to me. Because when I look in the mirror, I don't see what they see. They must be blind. Or am I?
I love to dream, I want to be her, I want to have all those luxurious things and be successful in life but never did I try to be me or try to have my dreams turn to reality. As if the reality is not my comfort zone and only in dreaming my wishful thinking do come true. That's how I live my life.
Do you know what's wrong with us? We put limits to the stories we tell ourselves. And that is the reason why our life still the same. Nothing has changed for good, no progress and still a loser. Do you want to change your life? You will when you are ready. Do you want a change? Are you ready for a change? Make up your mind.
Identify Your Story
The first step in changing your life is to identify your story and discover yourself.
What kind of story did you tell yourself to believe? Did you tell yourself, I will not be successful because I didn't finish school, I don't have any degree so I will be poor in my entire life? Have you read the story of the World's Successful People? Some or most of them don't have a degree and some are drop-outs but still, they work hard and persevere to achieve their goals in life.
Did you tell yourself you will not get a good partner in life? You were a single mother or because you think you're big and ugly and that no one will like you for being you? Stop that thinking. That's wrong. And that's not true.
Why are you so negative? Ask yourself. Where and how did it start? What experiences in life that made you a negative person. Assess yourself and accept the fact that you need change to grow. And from then on, change the story you tell yourself. Change your story and make it a beautiful positive one.
Focus on you. Don't be someone else.
BE YOU.
Shifting Your Story
Now that you discover yourself and identify your story, you have to make a new one for yourself. Visualize.
You were just as good as anyone else. You can be and achieve everything your heart desires. The universe is your catalogue, take a pick. The universe is your genie in the bottle, make a wish. Think of what can you do to make you feel confident. Empower yourself.
Support your New Story
Shifting your story and having a new one is not always enough. You have to believe in it. When you ask for something you have to believe it even for at times it will be like a tennis match that will play in your head. You have to succeed.
If you want to change, you must know what to keep and what to let go. Who are the people that will help you achieve your goals? Who are the people that will keep dragging you down? Release. Let them go.
What are the bad habits that you need to change? Make new good habits.
You have to transform the old you into a new you. You are the best version of you in progress. You have to feel good. Harness the positive energy. What makes you feel happy? Do it! Do you like to sing and dance? Put the music on and enjoy the beat.
Emotions Are Key
Do you know about the good feeling and a bad feeling? The good feeling will support your positive thoughts. If you're feeling good, you're sending this signal to the universe to give you more of the things to feel good about. And that's the law of attraction. You attract what you think and what you feel. That's why you should be careful of what you are telling to yourself, it will believe it. Feel good. Think positive and always thinks of what you like and be consistent.
Nothing Happens Without Action
Sitting still and wishing will not take you far. Visualization needs action. It needs hard work. They say the good Lord sends the fishing but you must dig the bait. You have to get out of your comfort zone and do the things you've never done before. What do you want? How will you get it? Do it! Chase it! Work hard.
Love Yourself and Be Kind to Yourself
Don't be hard on yourself. Success and change don't happen overnight. Start within you. Give yourself some tender loving care. Have self-talk. Appreciate yourself. Say thank you self.
Don't be discouraged if no one believes in you. Keep going. Take baby steps, if you must and if you fall, get up. If there's no one else to help you, help yourself. Find the strength and courage that is in you the whole time. Change is coming, success is in your hand.
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