I’m imagining that you've been hurt by somebody, been there. And it’s possible that this might be worst pain that you’ve ever experienced. If that’s true I’m sorry that this is the way that you’re feeling. I know that sucks. If you haven’t already I want to strongly urge you to seek out other resources to help you through this difficult time. A great resource is a licensed therapist.
I’m sure you want to know if narcissist have feelings? But I think it’s important that you ask yourself the question why do I want to know in the first place. Are you just genuinely curious? Are you just trying to understand a situation that happened to you?
We experience feelings because we have emotional circuit running through our brain and throughout our bodies, they’re part of our nervous system.
The vast majority of people including people who have trouble with narcissism have these emotional systems in them, in fact you maybe very familiar with a narcissist displaying one of these emotional systems e.g rage.
So you do know that they experience emotions , they do have feelings, rage is a feeling and surely you felt anger before. But what about other feelings like joy or sadness.
I suspect that you want them to feel sad. While those emotional systems are certainly in the bodies of people who have trouble with narcissism. They could possibly be avoiding them
For example: They might be experiencing fear but because fear is a little bit too overwhelming or too hard to process, they switch over to rage to avoid feeling the fear.
Sometimes when it comes to narcissist we hear that they lack empathy the truth though is that their ability to empathize is impaired it’s not missing because a narcissist may try to avoid feelings like fear or panic they are usually acting defensively and when somebody is being defensive they can’t see past themselves.
For example: Usually when we’re feeling fear the prefrontal cortex the part of the brain that has you thinking and maybe being able to think about how somebody else is experiencing you that’s impaired.
If a stranger suddenly jumped on top of you would you send them loving feelings? Chances are you would feel fear or you might feel raged. I don’t think you would be caring about them and it is the same way for somebody who has trouble with narcissism they have the feelings , they just have trouble accessing and experiencing them.
They use personality traits like grandiosity or attention seeking to avoid those vulnerable feelings and maybe try to manage some of that rage.
If you’re hurting I hope that you will take the time to be gentle with yourself, if you find that you keep seeking answers to questions in an effort to avoid experiencing some painful emotions I hope you will seek some additional support with some guidance and with some active coping the pain that you’re experiencing will end and on the other side you will be able to experience all of the emotions of life, the bad and the good.