Why do we like others? What research says!!!

We want people to like us. We are social beings and we all like to be liked. It is a fundamental need for social creatures. But does anyone know why we are motivated to get others’ approval?

Research has shown that validation from others makes people feel good about themselves. They feel better about themselves and think that others see them positively, which then makes them want to behave in a way that will keep their approval high and maintain the desired self-image.

How others people will like you? There are many social skills out there and it can be difficult to learn all of them at once, but one important thing is being an active listener. Listening goes a long way in building relationships with others and making them more comfortable with you as they grow accustomed to you over time. It is an inherent need for us to want to be liked and appreciated by other people.

Research shows that we find people attractive if they have _ *A sense of humor, *They are intelligent, *They have good social skills, *They have a nice personality, *And most importantly that they have good looks.

The “big five” insights show that the top reasons why people like others are as follows: 1) They find them physically attractive 2) They think their sense of humor is appealing 3) They think he/she is intelligent 4) They believe he/she has good interpersonal skills 5) He/she has a pleasant personality

Liking others is a feeling that we all experience, but research has failed to provide a definite answer to this age old question.

Scholars from McGill University’s department of psychology in Montreal and the National Autonomous University in Mexico City collaborated on a study that investigated the causes of liking. The team studied four factors: visual appearance, similarity, proximity and touch/proximity. They concluded that liking someone is dependent on two factors: how much you like them and how much you think they like you.

The theories of love

-Attachment theory, which states that infants attach themselves to a caregiver who responds to their needs in a predictable, consistent and comforting way.

-The social interactional approach, the theory is based on the notion that people develop relationships with other people because they are important to them.

-Expectancy Violations Theory: The theory states that people like others who don’t violate their expected behaviors. This phenomenon is called the “complementarity hypothesis” !!!

The need to belong is a fundamental human need that is encoded in our DNA. This drive has evolved over centuries and it’s what compels us to find a tribe, a family, or a social circle.

This need not only causes some of the most painful breakups, but also propels our brain to create connections with others - even if they are fake.

Studies show that people have an innate tendency to believe that people who like them are more desirable as friends than those who don't; showing social proof makes other people more likely to want to be friends with you !!!

— Evolutionary psychologists say that we have a tendency to like those who are similar to us. This is because we have built-in, or innate, social preferences that favor people who are similar to us.

In social psychology literature, this theory of similarity attraction is known as the “Birds of a Feather Flock Together” hypothesis. It argues that people often form friendships with others based on similarities such as ethnicity, values, and attitude because these similarities create a sense of belonging and minimize the threat of being ostracized.

One of the reasons can be that people prefer partners who look more like themselves - so someone with blue eyes might want themselves with someone else with blue eyes !!!

I would like to this post with a question: What is it that we like in others that makes us want to get closer and know more about him/her?

Research says there are two main factors that contribute to our liking for others:

1) The person's physical attractiveness.

2) The person's similarity to us.

The similarity factor is a prominent phenomenon in our society. It can help improve the quality of life or relationships.

However, recent research has shown that this only applies when the individual shares similar attitudes and values with the people they're interacting with. To break it down, when we share in common beliefs, attitudes, and values, then we tend to view those with those similarities as being more like us which provides for increased closeness.