Earlier I posted an article about the "perfect age" to get married so I consider this one as a sequel to that. Before we finally say yes to each other, there are important factors that we need to consider before "wanting" to get married. Marriage's function as for Christians like me is to obey 's sacraments. It is like asking for His permission to unite two people as one, bringing blessings to your relationship from then on. Consider marriage as a cave, dark and deep from afar that when you enter it, you are not allowed to go back. You do not know what's inside the cave and what monsters are waiting for you in there so you'd better be armoring yourself with all the weapon you need to keep yourself alive and to make sure you survive. But it doesn't end there, for some, the the inside of the cave may reveal another world full of beauty for you and your husband/wife to be. To see the wondrous pulchritude of marriage, let us consider the following factors:
Ideny. You gotta know yourself completely before you share it with someone else. Even if you are already married, there is still life outside. Have friends and socialize.
Commitment. This is a totally big word slash factor. Since marriage lies upon commitment, you have to know if you are really ready to put him on top of your priority list.
Affection. Feelings matter. Make sure you have thought about this a thousand times. Love is one of the basic foundation of your relationship. This big word will make you stick to each other through thick and thin - it may sound cliche but it is an unfading test of time.
Acceptance. More than loving your spouse-to-be, you have to make sure you accept all of him/her. Our partners come in a package of good and bad stuff and this means you cannot filter the good parts of them alone. It would be best if you have seen their worst to clearly see the flaws. If you still love him/her even after you have realized the person's imperfections, congratulations.
Compatibility. Of course you and your soulmate must enjoy things in common. As the famous quote goes, it is enjoying your similarities and understanding your differences. I know you wouldn't think of stepping one level ahead if you know you are not compatible. What I am trying to say is, before you decide to live with him/her for the rest of your human existence, remember everything you both have as this will help you enjoy each other's company may it be characteristics, personality or activity.
Financial Stability. You do not have to be a billionaire to consider yourself approved on this. As long as you have a stable job, savings (enough to suffice your family's needs for a year) and some investments, you're good to go.
These are just helping factors to achieve a long-lasting companionship with him. I will be appreciating additional factors if you think of one. Let us know about what you think through the comments section below!
Good points but things change with time.