Questions to A Single Lady

It's currently 1:00 am at the time of writing. I was just done checking out the items I added on my shopping cart from an online store, I'm too excited because those items have been on my cart for quite a while now and I waited for the free shipping vouchers to appear on my account tonight, so I'm still wide awake. I'm bored because my Netflix has just expired and I'm not planning to update it for the meantime because I feel like I am not getting my money's worth since I only use it for watching mostly on saturdays and sundays. I have deactivated my account on Facebook because it looked like I inadvertently clicked on a spam message and I'm afraid it will result to my account tagging my 'friends' on some pornographic contents or links and I don't want that to happen. As a result of all these, I was bored and I was just staring at the pitch black space. So I started to search for random things on google (admit it, you did it once too lol). I search for cliparts which I can use for school documents. Then I came across some inspirational quotes and finally, I stumbled upon this link that says : 40 questions that single women are tired of hearing. It intrigued me so I went to the website to check if I encountered those questions too.

So here I am at 1 am answering questions related to singleness. I selected a few questions which I will answering in this blog.

How come you’re not dating anyone?

I am really tired of hearing this question. Literally, a lot of people asks me this question and sometimes I find it really annoying. Why do they care if I date or not? I am not dating anyone because I haven’t met the person who can change my views about relationship and dating.

How could a woman like you still be single?

Exactly my point! How could an incredible woman like me whos very talented, knows how to cook, knows how to budget well, liked by children and old people alike and pretty (pretty annoying) still be single? How can they not see those things in me? hahahahaha Don't mind me, I'm just kidding! Someone once told me that I'm quite pretty and I can be a perfect candidate for a wife material, it's just that my so-called beauty can be quite intimidating. She told me that I exude this aura that says "buzz off!". Sometimes, I think that makes sense too and sometimes I think that's one of the reasons why a woman lime me is still single.

Are you opening yourself up to love?

YES. I haven't come to point in life yet when I am closing my heart for love. Being in love, loving and being loved in return is beautiful. If an opportunity comes a couple of years from now, I'll grab it.

Are you afraid of love?

NO.

Do you think you’re being too picky?

I think so. But it's not about being picky, it's about wanting the best complement for myself and I haven't met the person who can best complement me. Someone can handle my childish side. I always tell my siblings that I didn't stay single for a long time to settle with just anybody and I'm adamant about that.

Is it because you’re not over your ex?

No. I have zero feelings left for my ex now. And I am happy to know that he finally found the love of his life. I can even go to his wedding and bring a gift if ever they invite me! lol.

Is it because you’re always working? Maybe you should date someone from work.

I also think that this is one of the reasons why I'm still single. But sometimes it feels like this is just an alibi so as not to entertain anyone. Maybe I've been single for so long that being single doesn't even bother me, I'd rather work than waste my time on entertaining guys. And oh, no one from work can be a potential date. They are all old and married haha.

Does it bother that your friends are engaged/married?

Honestly speaking yes. I had an experience about being made fun of just because I am single. I tell you, that is not a pleasant experience. That time, I just pretended to shrug it off and laugh with them, but I pictured myself at the same scenario in the future and I think it will be friendship over with them if it still happens. That experience made me decide never to go with group of married couple friends. I don't want to be pressured about my relationship status. On the other hand, I'm still happy for my friends, I am happy that they found their 'forever'.

Would you be interested in (insert some random guy’s name). I can set you up with him.

This happened recently. An older colleague from school told me these exact words. She asked me if I'm still single and I said yes. She then told me "perfect! Then I could set you up with my brother!". And I was like... Oooh, laughed and told her I'm not interested in dating. She told me that I don't necessarily have to date her brother, maybe I could get to know him first and maybe I could come to like him but I was firm about my decission not to date yet.

Have you considered online dating?

If there's a possibility of meeting either Lee Jong Suk or Kim Seon Ho, then I'll consider it lol.

When was the last time you went out on a date?

2 years ago.

Do you ever get lonely?

I'm too busy to ever feel lonely. I'm busy at work and I'm busy watching Kdramas. Sometimes it is better to keep yourself busy so that you won't ever have the time to feel those unnecessary negative feelings.

Are you giving guys enough chances?

No. It's the end once I decided I don't like them.

Aren’t you at an age where you should start thinking of settling down?

I know right. I van count on my left hnad the times that my younger sister asked me this. She asked me if I will still get married and settle down and take note she's just 11 years old. I simply told her "I will get married, if Ravi is the groom."

Don’t you want to have kids one day?

I do. I want to have a smart kid one day and teach him or her valua le life lessons and maybe I could brag about how smart he or she is too! But that is off the list for now.

What do you do on weekends?

I make noise on noise.cash, I get some work done, sometimes I write an article, oftentimes I write letters to random people and usually watches Korwan dramas. See, I'm a busy bee.

Isn’t there someone you at least like?

I like Kim Seon Ho and 99+ others.

You’re such a catch! How are you not taken yet?

I know right! I wonder why too.

So how long have you been single?

I've been single for 10 years now. The last time I was in a relationship, was in 2011 when I was just 16 years old. Yeah, I know I was too young back then, but that is just a result of peer pressure and curiosity.

Do you like the single life?

I don't like it. I love it! I love being single and I'm absolutely happy that I am.

What do your parents think of your situation?

My father is a little bothered I think, since most of his friends have granchildren now and recently, I heard that he's the only one among his close friends who doesn't have a grandkid yet. One time, he's drunk he kept blabbering about why I don't talk to them about my love life and I told him, there's nothing to talk about because I don't have a 'love life' yet. There's this instance when he even said that if one of my co-teachers has a son and that colleague would want to set him up with me, then that's good. It seems like my father wants to experience seeing his child get married too but he just can't bring himself to talk about it with me knowing how sensitive I am when it comes to this topic. My mother is okay about me being single though, I know it's because all the money I earn will be given to them.

It's 2:04 now so I just selected several questions out of 40 to answer.