Marriage is not a solution to life's problems. There's no need to rush if it's your only excuse

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3 years ago

.For some reason, in today's super busy times, the old thought of holding a wedding still haunts. People, especially young people, still think of holding weddings as a solution to all life's problems. A kind of arena to escape from the problems at hand. Yes, indeed marriage is an ark that carries humans through the fullness of life. However, would not crossing the oceans still have to deal with violent storms and waves.

There is no one who disagrees that marriage is a sacred event. Humans start not with problems, but with blessings and grace. And there could be no in this world, a skipper who sailed only to escape the ferocity of a hurricane. Even so, it is not impossible that he will get lost and fret in the middle of the ocean. When things feel pointless Marriage is not always the right dock to anchor love

There are times when all of us feel incredibly empty. It was as if everything was very secretive and contained no clue as to what was going on. Every case comes and goes: from the salary that never goes up to the closest person who doesn't understand. The picture of tomorrow seems so vague that it doesn't glow at all. On the other hand, friends also have their own case. There is no more dock to lean on besides your partner. Marriage is the answer that just appears. A vehicle for you to take away all the things that surround it. In fact, the household ark is not the answer to all the trials that greet you in turn. In it, the waves will keep coming in your way. This is a pretty dangerous imagination trap. Because, humans are always looking for shortcuts. Hurry up and get bored quickly.

Just for the sake of answering people's questions about when to become an adult? In fact, marriage is your event, not belonging to the person who questioned you

The alternating cases have not been added to the social pressure from those around them. Marriage as if only the only sign of maturity. Yes, it is true that the aisle will lead to human personality development. However, that was not the only one. Unfortunately, people are translating it as the main one. And just because they want to answer all those rhetorical questions, many couples immediately get married. The reason is simple "Shame, asked the neighbors ..." In fact, marriage is the door that you open. And you also live; not them. So actually, there is no reason for you to use that question as a "reason" to get married. Because, it is all decisions from within, not from outside.

Yes, we also believe that financial difficulties can be resolved by sustaining marriage. But this is not the right reason to go up to the aisle

One of the main concerns in the marriage conversation is the economy. Are the conditions of the respective economies ready for screen development? Have the two agreed to share the economic burden? Of course, there is a very strong spiritual belief to answer it all that the provision of marriage will solve it all. Yes, you can believe it or not. However, what becomes misleading is the abuse of such trust. The logic is just reversed. Marriage is a solution to overcoming economic problems by hoping for a shower of marriage sustenance. In fact, marriage is not a place to make money. It is a mandate from the powerful. It is quite terrible to use it as a means to improve economic conditions. People say that marriage will make people more focused on pursuing dreams. Even though the focus is a matter of decisions, not stages

Another myth that is widely circulating in this world is about the ability of marriage events to make you more focused on pursuing your dreams. It's quite confusing because the word focus alone is quite a headache. What is focus? More serious? If it's more serious, why can marriage make you more serious about pursuing your dreams? The answer that came out was very cliché. Marriage makes humans clinging to thousands of responsibilities so that they are able to motivate themselves to move more. Yes, we quite agree. But does that advice also contain a warning that there are many things that also need to be done in marriage. Is your dream in line with everything in the household? We need to rethink this matter. The focus is out of focus, it is a matter of decision. Everyone can focus anytime and anywhere, as long as there is a will to keep going with or without being tied to a wedding vows. Household is not the right stage to solve problems. In it, there are many challenges that come

Each stage of life has its own challenges. So it is with marriage. Really, it is a little scary when marriage is mistaken for the solution to all problems. Ironic. Because in the household, humans will still be faced with other challenges. Don't dig a hole to close the cliff. The risk will be very tiring and energy consuming because the case is never finished. This motivation for marriage seems to completely ignore the challenges of establishing a household. Solely, the eyes are only dazzled by the fresh romanticism of the family that can destroy the whole case. That's right, if done on the basis of great love; not a willingness to run unnaturally.

Marriage is not a moment to solve problems, but a life event filled with gifts. It's not good to be treated as an escape arena

We just want to say that marriage is not a pawnshop that can solve problems without problems. The event was a lifelong momentum that marked human maturity; wisdom as an intelligent being; and stability as a principled soul. For that reason, marriage is not an arena to escape from cases. Inside, there are various challenges that will be fun when faced with sincere motivation from the heart. There is no prohibition against getting married at a young age if two people are ready to endure feelings. However, what matters is the motivation behind it. A sacred marriage will be so special if it is composed with sincere love. Plus a little ability to keep commitments with savings coffers. The rest, do not need to add artificial excuses.

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Yeah, you are right. Marriage can increase the problems 100 times.

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3 years ago

The topic says it all. Marriage is never an escape route

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3 years ago

Marriage is a covenant thus it is wrong to say specially for singles that once they're married, they will be happy. They forgot the essence that even without matrimony, happiness could be achieved, needless to say, it won't be an excuse for any other reasons that once married, it's the end goal of one's journey. There's more to life than just being married. Oh jeez I don't even want to rant here yay...hehehe good point @saepuloh

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3 years ago

Marriage means more than an excuse therefore anyone who want to get into it should take his time.

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