Whatever happens, it is very important to be happy and to be happy in our lives. Happy couples know very well how to overcome crises together. Marital responsibility, being able to take care of children, work, family, recognize mistakes… When couples encounter such difficulties, they adapt to the situation and find a solution together. In the daily lives of couples with high emotional intelligence, they create a dynamic that prevents negative feelings and thoughts about the other (all couples have) from affecting their positive emotions or thoughts.
To keep this dynamic intact, you need to build a constructive relationship with the person you want to fight, slam the door on. The formula is as follows; respect each other, growing and developing together, being open.
This concept is a concept that couples therapists frequently emphasize. When looking at interpersonal skills, it can be considered as learning and development not only personally but as a couple. Finding what creates the most passion and desire in the relationship would be a good move for this progress.
Lack of communication between couples is one of the main reasons for divorce. That's why couples with good communication have a long-term relationship. Communication starts with listening to the other person and continues with mutual dialogues. "Have I really listened to him by giving myself to the subject? You have to ask yourself the question". Make it clear to him that you are listening by giving your feedback on the topic, and most importantly, tell him that his thoughts are very important to you. Studies conducted in Europe reveal that couples who listen to each other take longer to marry than others. By listening to your spouse, you will also show the importance you give to him. You will also show your respect for him
UNDERSTAND
Listening was the easy part of the job. Now, listening to understanding is not enough, of course, you should try to understand your spouse. At this point, "Empathy", which is difficult to establish in most relationships, comes into play, so how would I feel if you put yourself in his place and did the same to me? You will think. Understanding is very important in understanding, even if what your spouse says to you is very contradictory, he understands it with understanding and it is actually contrary to me, but I can approve this situation by showing that you are really understanding and your spouse will feel understood, relax and this will be one of the beautiful steps you have taken to save your marriage.
TALK
Spouses are also best friends of each other, so they should be able to talk and have fun together. Another mistake is to blame the other person. Phrases such as "It's all your fault" or "This is because of you" are an important obstacle to listening and understanding the other. It is not conflict or disagreement that spoils the marriage, but the way of rule.
PATIENCE
The most important rule of marriage is to be patient, especially in these times when people's tolerance decreases to each other… There is a reason for the arguments between you, but it is very important to digest the issue with patience and then talk in dialogue rather than directly arguing. Of course, I do not mean to be patient or to cover it up, of course, physical and psychological violence, fights, betrayal of spouses against each other are not pleasant. But there is no need to burn a duvet for fleas. Rather than solving the problems, it would not be the right course of action to bring up the separation at the first confusion. Moreover, talking about separation constantly causes marriage to lose its meaning.
CHANGE AND REPLACEMENT
In today's relationships, the most common situation is to make someone they want to be the person they face, and this is the biggest mistake they make to each other. Everyone has their own lifestyle, mission and style, and when the couples decide to get married, they know their way of life and unfortunately, after getting married, one of the parties tries to condemn their spouse to live their own life and wants their own rules to be valid. Although this may be pleasing to the person at first, then it starts to be an element of pressure and the pressure ultimately leads to an explosion. Therefore, spouses should respect each other's lifestyle. The element of change and change also comes into play here and steps are taken to protect everyone's own lives. The couples will live together a third life they have created for marriage. Only in this way can the marriage continue in a peaceful and happy way.
Apart from all these, the judgment of "Child marriage saves" is also very wrong!
The disagreement, lovelessness and disrespect between the couples, unfortunately, does not improve with a baby, the situation can backfire. One of the biggest mistakes that can be made is to add another individual to the environment, which is an unsuccessful relationship. Just as every crisis has the potential to destroy marriage, it also has the potential to strengthen marriage. You must strengthen your relationship by facing the difficulties and pains together. Correct communication, support, dedication and empathy are required for this.
