The Power to Choose

For the last few days, I have been doing a dynamic with two other people. We meet and talk openly about the experiences that have arisen in our relationships with our friends, with our children, with our neighbors. And something interesting that we discuss in the therapy we do is that we become aware of some problems that we are facing at that moment and we look for possible solutions. There are situations that catch my attention a lot in those conversations and it is the importance we give to things.

The present that we live in these pandemic times, presents us with a daily life full of situations, some simple and other times a little more complicated. But almost always we get stuck in problems that do not allow us to move forward. And then the question arises: what do we give more importance to, the problem that is presented to us or the solution to that problem?

All of us, as I said before, in the day to day we are presented with circumstances that come to generate problems in our lives, but if you give more importance to the problem than to its solution, we will be immersed in a constant emotional state of anguish and stress. Now, what is more important, the solution of the problem or the problem itself. The decision is yours. You have the option to choose. You have that power.

The drawback is that not everyone has the mental capacity to recognize what is the highest priority. If you are a person with a positive mentality you will know immediately that looking for a solution to a problem is the most important thing. Contrary to people who are always in a constant lament, who live being a victim of their problems, in a constant complaint, for these people the problem that arises will have more importance than the solution of the same.

Sometimes we feel that all problems are of such importance that we do not know what to do, we feel that everything has priority. The key is to give each situation its value. We have to ask ourselves: what do I do, if everything is important? Our internal conflict stops us from making decisions, because between the things we want and the things we know are convenient for us, we do not know what to choose. Choosing is difficult.

When we want to establish priorities we have to be clear about what we really want, what makes us happy, what makes us move forward, what makes us grow as a person. What makes us feel well-being. Sometimes we say that something is important to us but our behavior shows the opposite. Meet people who say that the most important thing is to have peace and tranquility in their lives and are involved in toxic friendships, that is, it is contradictory because with that kind of friendship you will not have peace and tranquility in your life, nor in your environment.

The priorities in life change, we always have to choose, we always have to try to move forward in life. The important thing is to look for solutions to problems and focus on the solution to move forward, for our personal satisfaction and that of our environment. To choose thinking of oneself, not of others, is not being selfish, it is giving ourselves an opportunity to move forward in a positive way in our emotional state. Not being afraid to make mistakes is part of life, it makes us grow. It is valid to make mistakes when we make decisions. It is also valid to laugh at them and take that mistake as a new beginning. Let's not be afraid of other people's opinions. To be wrong when we choose what to do.

Focus on you, it is the most important thing. It sounds selfish but you are your own priority, to focus on what is important to you, to look for the solution to your problems, to choose according to your needs and desires. If you make a good choice and you are happy you will also be changing your environment and your relationship with your partner, with your children, with your friends and with your neighbors. If you make a mistake, it is a learning lesson.

Recognize what your priorities are and act accordingly, you have the power to choose. All of us chose to be here at reas.cash. We have had problems, sometimes with our computers, sometimes with our health, sometimes with family circumstances, but we have always looked for the solutions because we focus on the solution, not the problem itself. We chose to be in this community. We chose people to sponsor and people chose us. I would like to take this opportunity to thank those who chose me to sponsor them. To the people who chose to continue reading my posts. It's all about making decisions and choices.

Thanks to all of you. You are the best.