Relationship with In-Laws

They say it's hard to please the in-laws but you have to,since they are your family now, especially when you live with them after marriage. You are on the stage of adjusting the kind of life you are entering, adjusting your relationship with your partner and in-laws. It is not really easy coping all those adjustment, adjusting your budget in coping all the expenses and your first priority is to save, in order to create your own haven. You have to share in financing the expenses incurred in living with them and help in the household chores. If not you will labeled as lazy and the beginning of an unfriendly atmosphere.

There are in-laws who are low profiled,you can easily go with their likes and dislikes, their standard and beliefs, whose lifestyle you can blend with. Living with them will be smooth and flowing steadily as you go on with the current. If you have this, then you are lucky.

But there are high profiled in-laws, whose lifestyle is not within your reach, a double standard, you don't know what is the real personality they have. They have different personality depending on the person they are with or in a situation they are in. With this kind of people, you have to adjust and put down your pride, go on with their music even it is in contrast of your steps, just to be accepted and be one of them, that sometimes you forget who you really are.

Others says, in-laws are the wrecker of a home, they middle the married life of their children especially in conflict, that instead of helping to patch up, mend of what is broken, to heal the wounds, they are even the reason why things got worse, sometimes poisoning the minds of their child, leading to separation.

There are no good or bad in-laws, they are just like us human, not perfect, others are educated and others are illiterate. Whatever their status in life, whoever they are, we must learn to accept them, for there's nothing we can do we are already a part of the family. We are marrying their child, we marry them too, and if they are tag as bandits then we are bandits too. Accepting and learning to love them as we love their child is all we can do, to have a harmonious relationship with them.

They say it is better to have a grudge with your parents than to your parents-in-law because parents can forgive you whatever you have done and love you whoever you are, while parents in-law will not, they will automatically lost their slowly grown feeling of affection to you and will not easily forgive you if they will forgive, it is because there was no blood relation between you and them. It is seldom that in-laws will be in your side during family troubles, they will always defend their child even it is not right thing to do.

In-laws are like men in another planet that you have to study their attitude and disposition in life and learn how to immerse with them whether in the deep or shallow water.

How about are you, how is your relationship with your in-laws or future to be in-laws?