A man and a woman, both inside a room. The woman suddenly remove all her dress and now naked in front of him. If you are the man, will you also undress it all? Will you remove your dress only, your pants only? What about, just keep your underwear with you. (Hell no! Men rarely resist this situation.)
You know that in order for this to work and she'll not lose interest to you, you must also bare it all! Maybe both of you help in undressing each other. That could be a sweet thing to do and surely both of you gonna have a good time!
This is not just an analogy of relationship to work out, this is a part of it. Undressing each other and having a physical intimacy is one variable of a long lasting and meaningful relationship. This is one part of the process, to know each other.
In the dating and in boyfriend/girlfriend stages, one must show it all, tell it all in order for each other to know the person deeply before committing marriage. This is what they called compatibility, another variable. Everyone have preferences, dreams and goals, staying with incompatible partner can hinder or sabotage your life's dreams.
Of course, this is not a one day process. No one will show his bank account, or a woman will tell she had already three children in your first date. In this stage of knowing each other, the faster you can bare it all, the faster you can decide if that person will be your partner for life.
Another variable in relationship is adjustment. A crucial thing to consider in any relationship. You may have all your desired preferences, you think that person may not that compatible with you, but you also know that looking for the perfect one is not that easy and rare to find. Adjusting is difficult, but necessary for a successful relationship. This is the part when you tell yourself of what you can do for that person rather than looking for undesired traits and preferences. Will I modified my goals and dreams in life just for that person? This may take your pride and ego but for the sake of the relationship, you can adjust.
Before courtship is a way for man to woo a woman romantically, which most likely lead to marriage. Now, in our modern time, courtship change into dating in which there is no guarantee of marriage. Both are process of getting to know each other before committing. The difference is, in courtship man should bare it all, and because woman before have told that they should always adjust to a man plus the involvement of family and culture, that relationship always work. As times comes and the role of women in the society changed, dating is the new courtship, in which both men and women have the choice with themselves alone to who they will commit for a relationship.
The most important variable in any kind of relationship is love. Maybe love is not enough, but I truly believe that love is all you need. When there is love, both will adjust to each other's perceived deficiencies. Love can heal pain, and can bring back past relationship. Love is caring, giving and willing to do all for the sake of that person.
In your relationship you must bare it all, to show who you really are, and the opportunities to really love that person no matter what.
...unless you're not in the mood for love 😅
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Im simply potato, no second half for me. All I can do is to peel myself and jump into boiled water to end my cruel life