Letting go?

They say, in order for us to be able to know if a person is "the one" for us, we need to let him / her go and if they come back, then you two are really meant for each other but what if when you let that person go and did not come back, then that means that you are not for each other.

But if ever you just only want to test if he / she is really the one for you by trying to let them go, isn't it too risky that you still need to let him / her go, knowing that you already have him / her, just for you to test if both of you are really destined for each other? And what if, he / she will no longer come back? What if the moment you let each other go, someone suddenly find a new love?

But why is it that difficult to let go?

1. It is difficult to accept that even if you came first in his / her life doesn't mean that you will never be replaced.

2. You took a lot of effort to win him / her, just for you to be with him / her.

3. Both of you have been through a lot but then some people want to interfere in your relationship and may cause problems / complicate your relationship that sometimes may lead him / her to choose between you or the other one around.

4. It is difficult to move on because it will hurt your feelings because all your efforts will just be put on trash.

5. Both of you both dreamed about what will happen in the future. That you sticked on that plans that you had, and all you can see is that he / she will be part of your future but then suddenly his / her love for you fade away.

When to let go?

People need to let go of the person they love when the other one or both of you are no longer committed to each other. Loving someone comes suddenly, but staying in love is choice. And with staying comes with commitment.

Let go when he / she no longer loves you, that's the very reason on why we have to let go. Being in a one sided relationship is not healthy, since relationship for a fact is a two way process, the give and take. It is better to be alone, rather than being with someone who does not even know our worth. Everyone deserves to love and to be loved.

Yes, you may still try to make efforts, because who knows there will be miracles that one day, his / her love for you will comeback but if you know that you already did everything for him / her for them to come back but seems like your efforts doesn't count, then maybe you already need to let go or not maybe, you really need to let go.

We also need to let go when there is a third party. Some people but not all, may not usually fall out of love with you when there is no other person involved. That maybe he / she fall out of love because his / her attention is now on other person. Never let him / her choose between yourself and the other person because if he / she really loves you, then there should be no other person involved.

Sometimes, the only last way to prove our love to someone is by letting him / her go most especially if we know that, that's the only way for us to make him / her happy, than even if that happiness of theirs may be our greatest heartache. Seeing him / her happy means so much to us, even if we are no longer the reason of their happiness.

Sometimes we also need to set them free for us also to be free. Free from feeling hurt or you may finally let go of the feelings that you have been holding. Free to have a new beginning in life.

We need to let go not just because we love the person but because we love ourselves too. We must realize that it is okay to lose someone than to lose ourselves in valuing someone and almost forgot that we also need to be valued.

Letting someone go, takes a lot of courage. Letting him / her go does not mean that we do not know how to love but because we also love ourselves. Choose yourself this time - love yourself.

Losing them is not the end of our story but maybe a new beginning to meet new people out there. And start to believe that someone better will come along the way. There are reasons for everything.

Not because you are in a relationship with someone may not mean that we already own them. Both of you have their own lives to live.

Let go, for him / her to find his / her way back to you but sometimes, this is not what really happens, most of the time, we need to let go, in order for the new person to come along our way, the person that we really deserve, someone that is worth it.

Let go, not because you are weak but because you are strong enough to be alone.

Let go not because you do not know how to love but because you love yourself, and you will not let yourself be hurt by anyone who does not even know your worth.

Let go and let GOD, in times that we do nit know what to do or on what is going on in our lives or what will go on in our life, let GOD do His own will for us. He knows what will be the best for us, we just need to trust the process and believe in Him.

Be strong enough to let go, if you needed to.