It's Okay To Not Be Okay

May 28, 2022

I am pretty sure that almost all of you who are reading my article are almost familiar with that line. Maybe because it seems to be similar with a famous kdrama series or maybe some of you watched it already, but for me?, I didn't. I am no longer watching kdramas often.

Back to th e topic. May I just ask you, are you okay right now? If yes, then good for you. If your answer is no, what is the reason behind if why are you not okay?

Like what the title says, it is okay to not be okay sometimes but not all the time. There are really moments in life that the universe is against us. Life is really like a wheel, sometimes you are at the top but sometimes you are down.

How may times did you fake your smile just to show other people that you are okay even when it is not? Faking feelings are difficult to do, imagine you are smiling but deep inside is, all you wanna do is cry? Trying your tears not to fall out in public is a difficult kind to do but some of us managed on how to do it.

Here's my message for the people who are having a hard time nowadays:

If you are having dark days this past few days or even a week, it is okay. It is okay to feel that darkness. If you are going through a financial problem right now, if you are going through an illness right now or any form of suffering right now, you will overcome that someday, you just have to help yourself to get out with that kind of situation that you have now.

No one can really help you out except yourself. Yes, you have your family, you have your friends to help you out or they maybe there to make you feel loved but if you can not help yourself out of it, then you can not overcome it. You have always two choices whether you will play a victim or you will do something to get out for you to be able to make you braver / wiser.

Familiar with the song LET HER GO by Passenger, with the lyrics of:

"Well you only need the light
when it's burning low

only miss the sun
when it starts to snow

only know you love her
when you let her go"

Pain will always be there because life comprises pain, joy. We can not appreciate on how great it feels like when we are happy without us experiencing sadness / pain. That verses of the song says it all. We onlh know the value of something when we already experiencing the opposite of it.

Being in a situations of suffering is a choice. There will always be a solution in every problem but if you were stuck with situations that are not good, maybe the problem is in you not with whatever you want to blame if why are you in that kind of situation.

Let yourself heal if you are broken. It may take some time but once you are done with it, it will be worth it.

Each one of us are dealing into something which we do not want to tell to someone, we always wanted to keep those in our self. That alone is being courageous because you do nor want others know if what are you up to or you may simply do not want to ask help for them that is why you are not trying to open up to. But on the other side, for my own opinion, it is also okay to tell even for one person only (someone you are comfortable with) to share it what's bothering you, in that way, atleast your pain or whatever you are feeling will give you some relief. Atleast you somehow find a way to release what's going on with you.

Help yourself. But just do not force yourself to be okay right away. Feel the pain until it hurts no more as they say because the more you force yourself to be okay right away, that may even contribute to the reason on why your healing may delay. Or it will always be your choice on what to do in order to help yourself overcome difficult situations.

If you are victimized by your thoughts then you are probably victimized by your past. Do not let your memories use you.

We have to think that what may be happening to us is not a punishment but rather an opportunity.

Use yout pain as an influence to your growth, so embrace that darkness. Never run away with your situation, I know it is painful, but I promise you, five years or even ten years from now, when you look back with your situation right now, you will just smile / laugh at it.

For those who are not okay right now, you will definitely get out with your current situation right now. You just have to help yourself. Nothing is really imposible when you believe in it.

Everyone or almost all of us is going through something but chose not to share it to others, that is why, I want to say that, we always have to chose to be kind, we may not know what others maybe dealing with but being kind to persons / even with strangers means a lot for us / them.