Closure

October 19, 2022

Did you ever experience being in a relationship wherein you thought he / she is really the one for you but it turned out that your relationship will just end and will not last?

So, how did you end your relationship? Did you both talk about it or it's just that the other person just started not talking to you (ghosting)

Lots of relationships nowadays keeps on ending because the other person is not loyal with his / her partner or some were just being tempted with lots of temptations outside.

With all the kinds of reasons if why couples do break-ups, I guess what hurts the most is that some people even just left their partners without even saying a word. With their partners without idea if what had happen.

Is closure really important in ending a relationship?

In my point of view, having a closure is really important for the both of you to be able to move forward right after the break-up. But it will always depends on the situation. It will always be a case to case basis.

Some relationships need a closure and some will no longer need to have it depending on what had happen.

Relationships that need a closure:

A relationship will need a closure when there is no toxicity in the relationship or should I say that the reason of their parting of ways is because they realized that they are not meant for each other because of lots of differences and both wanted it to just end.

Relationships does not need a closure when:

The other person was caught cheating. Of course, there is no need to explain if why did the other person did that. The other party chose to cheat because he / she do not respect the partner. When there are a lots of negativity surrounding your relationship. There is nothing to fix about.

One situation will also be, when the other party chose to be with someone else. Closure is not needed in this, simply because upon logic, no person will leave his / her partner for another person if he / she really loves the person whom he / she is in a relationshop with.

Disadvantages of No Closure

1. Having no closure means, the person who will be left will start overthinking. Lots of questions will be left unanswered in his / her mind.

2. There will be no improvements in their next relationships.

   It is expected that both parties should talk and tell the other person the things if why did the relationship did not workout. Elaborate those things that needed to be improve so that if both of them will have their own relationship again, both will correct their past mistakes in their past relationship.

3. The person who was left behind will cause him / her trauma.

   The person who was left behind will less likely will want to be in a relationship again because of what had happened in his / her past.

Advantages of Having a Closure:

1. The reason of the break-up is clear for the both of you.

2. Yes, I know that maybe there will always be a "sama ng loob" with one or both of them, atleast the process of healing and forgiving will be easier than the other one without a closure.

• There are still people who would still wanted to know the questions about "WHY" and there is nothing with that, They just wanted to know the answers so that they may be able to improve themselves in the future. It is never a sign of weakness asking that person for a closure but when you feel that the other person doesn't want to, well at this time, just remind yourself that "HAVING NO CLOSURE IS ALREADY A CLOSURE."

Do not be afraid to love again in the future whether you had a closure with your past or not. What's important is, in the future, you will finally meet the one that is really meant for you.

And for those people here who is planning to end their relationship, please inform / communicate with your partner, even though you do not have the courage to tell them, just please tell them why are you leaving. Do not leave them hanging and without a clue because it hurts like hell in having a break-up without any closure in ending relationships.