To be a better

The daily desire to be a little better in the various roles we find ourselves in, brings significant progress over time, but those who would like to change significantly overnight are doomed to failure
Are you the same today as you were three or five years ago? Most would answer this question if it were not the same, if it had changed. People look at their current selves as their true selves, and the selves in the past as their former, former selves. It's similar to looking at your own photos from ten years ago: you know that you are in them, but now you are no longer like that - neither physically nor as a person.

Likewise, in three or five years we will look at this present right of ours from some of our future true selves as our former selves. When we arrange one's identity, experience of ourselves or I along a time line, then we can look at life not as a continuity of always the same Self, but as a series of different identities, different selves.

People change every day, but these small changes are invisible so we have the experience of continuity of our own existence. All these small changes in a longer period of time lead to the transition from quantity to quality, that is, to a qualitatively new experience of oneself.

Most people do not think that they can look at themselves as a series of identities: the present Self, the former and the future Self. And if they look, their eyes are mostly on the past: they are aware that they used to be different from what they are now. Most think that these changes are spontaneous, the result of various events and life experiences. He believes that their personalities shape the life situations that happen to them.

Unlike those who allow themselves to be shaped by life, there are also those who want to influence this process of "growth and development of personality", who want to manage the development of their personality. In order to achieve this, they have to deal with their former selves, but also work to make their future selves better than the present selves.

The best assessment can be given by people who know us well but have not seen us for a long time due to life circumstances. Since I have come to some years when something like this is normal, I very often get into the situation of meeting my old friends that I have not seen for several years and I very clearly notice the changes that have happened to them.