Heartbreak, failed loves, toxic loves

Love is one of the most beautiful feelings that exists in the world, we have all experienced it when loving our family, something specific or on a sentimental level, but like everything in life it is full of nuances, it is like a coin which has two faces, we will be giving ourselves on a silver platter to a person, putting all our trust in them, hoping that it can be eternal, but sometimes we get hurt by x and y circumstance.

Although we know that there are people who are like shooting stars, they simply come into our lives to leave a mark, to teach us a lesson, but their time with us is short, but nevertheless we think and want them to stay with us forever, in a few words we think it is the love of our life, it is something normal in the human being, although I particularly think that we do not have a single love in this life, we have many and they are all different they have no comparison.

Love is a feeling that is made for the brave and these sometimes have to pay the consequence of their actions, which is heartbreak, this in turn is the opposite of that beautiful feeling that fills us with life, heartbreak is a process that is full of absolute sadness and manifests itself even through anxiety, crying, loss of appetite, loss even in the desire to do things that used to do and generated pleasure, in motivation, it is well known that these things are they heal over time but you always have to be on the lookout because a heartbreak that is not overcome can become something serious, even bordering on depression, which only brings negative things to the one who is feeling it.

People who bet on love for the first time and that love is their "forever" definitely do not have to suffer as much as people who have not yet found it, of course they have to overcome obstacles in life, but it is a advantage that you already have a person who fights every day to be with you, compared to those who have to go through love breakups that even in that adversity not everything is bad because you learn and even so that you do not make mistakes in your next relationship, because Without realizing it, sometimes we create patterns that we follow and perhaps these are one of the causes of our relationships being unsuccessful.

We have all experienced our first love, the one that leaves a mark that marks us for life, it is impossible to forget who you loved for the first time, it is something that marks a before and after, as I said before, it is a blessing that you hit it at first and this is your love forever, but when not, at first it is difficult to face these are new emotions that human beings experience, we do not know what to do or how to act little by little with the help of time we understand that perhaps that person It has already fulfilled its mission in our lives and that what will come will be much better than what was left behind and even more so if we do not put all our trust in God and the universe.

Just as there is lack of love for first-time, failed loves, we also find toxic love, I could even say that it is the worst, it steals your energy and your essence, because they are loves that we make a commitment to because they remain in our lives, we do not accept that they have already fulfilled their time with us and we strive to keep them even knowing that we are turning that beautiful feeling into the opposite, full of lies, something extremely disloyal and also very harmful to our health in general, so we must completely distance ourselves from this type of love.

Heartbreak is something that we even know will happen, because we sense the beginning of the end, it is even like raising a wild animal that at first is pure love and tenderness but in the end its instincts will always surface and we have to learn to deal with the consequences that this leaves us in our life, because we always knew that it could turn out amazing and be a forever or a complete failed love, some tips to make these moments more enjoyable and turn them around to try to overcome them quickly and not think about them so much :

• Redirect our attention to other things, to our dreams, creating goals that bring you closer to your personal goals, this will allow you to be distracted and not think much in those situations.

• Don't idealize the person, don't put more or less to their behaviors, learn to remember everything as it happened, don't give them any advantage but don't distort them either.

• Learn to tolerate that at times memories come into your life, blocking them will make them come back to your mind with more force.

• Cultivate self-love, no matter how much you feel in a dead end, don't neglect yourself, neither your physical nor personal health, this will be a great motivation to let go of things and leave them behind.

Personally, I can say that breakups are not experienced in the same way, each one is different, just as each love is different, although they all have many similar characteristics, such as sadness and reluctance, perhaps the factor that changes is the intensity with which they have lived, because not all relationships had the same period or rather a relationship not so much because of time but because of the events experienced throughout said process. I have mainly gone through two and one cost me more than the other, one always insists on wanting to have people even when we know and realize that things are not working anymore, but we are very masochistic to a certain extent of course, because there are red flags but there are those that completely help to make decisions that one of the two needed to make for a long time, to let go, to give space to something new, healthy and positive for our lives.

Not every February is perfect, much less 02/14, but we must always hope that life will bring us only positive and more beautiful things than those we let go. If you are going through a grieving process, lost due to a love relationship, I can only tell you that time heals everything and also do our part to get out of that black hole and that if you feel the need to go to a psychologist, do it, that nothing stop you, before any person you and your health and more than anything your mental health, if she is fine you will be fine in general.