Lessons and realizations

And just like that... its 2022. It seems like we have just been fighting the war of our own lives. And I came up with ten lessons and realizations from 2021.

1. You can't always be there for everyone, and that’s okay. Sometimes we feel guilt when there are people we don't give or help every time they need us. Don’t feel bad, because we are not Superman who can help or save everyone. I’m sure they will understand, don’t be too hard on yourself.

2. Experience is better than acquiring things. You noticed when we have a new tool we are very happy but after a few days we don't seem to notice. But the memories of travel, staycations and family activities are what we remember the most. Because you know family is everything. Even if you turn your back on them at the end of the day they will always be there for you.

3. Invest in yourself ( ex. Learn new skills, find a hobby, healthy diet, etc. ). Personal improvement is the best investment you’ll ever make. Others may have finished their studies, and they already have work but they still want to learn new skills, they are still taking other courses. It is better to spend on that than on vices, they say knowledge is power. And also if you have the knowledge people will not look down on you.

4. Time is the most important thing. You can still earn money but once time is gone you can’t turn it back. We need to be careful on what we to do. Let us choose carefully what and who will take our time.

5. Good money habits. We always say, money is not taken when you die. We will only die once, we live everyday so you must be able to handle what you have worked for so that no matter what happens to you, you and your family will have something to use. You can reward yourself but you have to be balanced, what is left you need to save it. Develop good money habits and you’ll thank yourself later.

6. Learn to say NO. You can't just say yes. There should also be boundaries and limitation especially if you are the one most affected. Because other people will ask something from us even if we can't, we will give it because we are ashamed that they might be disappointed. Until they get used to it then once you don't give in immediately because they have different expectations from you (Because you always say yes).

7. You can't make everyone happy. Yes, it is very impossible because happiness is a choice. Even if you try hard just to make someone happy if that someone is not pleased then you can't force them. And so you know it is tiring when you do everything just to make other people happy and ended up with nothing. That is not healthy for you mentally and emotionally.

8. You can't teach someone who doesn't want to learn. Some people will say, I also want to learn that (business or skills) but they don’t want to learn the process, they just want the result. Whatever you teach they will have excuses. But if a person really want to learn, whatever discouragement you do they will really make way. And if they are also determine to learn and acquire new skills they will lend a time on that.

9. Choose people who choose you. Other people will just be there for you for their convenience, whether a friend or family members. Because they get something, because you always give them. Be there for someone who is really there for you, choose your tribe. Choose who you be with and be friends with. Be careful as always. Because nowadays you can't just trust people easily.

10. Whatever you do, people will judge you. So just do what is right and make you happy. And that you don't step on anyone in what you do. Either you do good or bad, people can still say something, because of insecurity and jealousy. Just be good and do the things you are confident with.