"Have a good talk,forgive and start again"

Article #90

September 19, 2022

How was everybody? Happy Monday and may our day be full of blessings and prosperity as well. Good luck to all of us.

For today's article, I will share with you guys what I experienced about the relationship we had with my long-time partner for almost thirteen years. We started to build our family at an early age. I got pregnant at the age of eighteen and my partner was twenty-one at that time. At that age, we all know that our maturity is not yet available hahaha.

We get too emotional and have sensitive feelings even in small things we make big issues resulting in misunderstanding and most relationships experienced this kind of situation. No perfect relationship as a couple yeah, many challenges that you have to get over to have a peaceful and contented life.

Temptation is always a trigger

Being loyal to your partner is hard to remain intact as I've experienced I'm getting hurt by this multiple times. We don't know when or how this can happen but I knew it for sure some of us here their partners are attracted to other individual.I was just practical for my feelings at this moment while typing this article, I was reminiscing those times when I was betrayed by my partner.

Cheating?

What a big word! But let me ask you this, Did your partner never betray you since then? there are times that I can feel doubt about my LIP (live-in partner). yeah, I will not claim him as my husband unless we're married. but I just keep it to myself since no evidence yet. I have no right to confront him, there's a possibility that when I ask him he will get misunderstood.

I observed his actions and that something of a sudden changed in him, First, he always has his phone in his bag that he does not use. Before He just put it anywhere and at that time I suspected something fishy was happening to him, I wonder when his phone was very close to me he gets panicked and takes the phone immediately. Second, he always sleeps late at night even his tired at work and I have this hunch feeling so I do the first move to know what I feel if it is true or if I'm just delusional.

I have in my mind that I should find a way to know if his cheating or not for assurance perhaps. During the night I started my plan to investigate and I pretend to be asleep first before him oh God! i felt so annoyed and he took a sleep at 11:00 p.m and when he is at sleep,I secretly grab his phone. Im sorry if might feel you confused If I can open the phone and yes, we have the same password which is the birthdate of our daughter. Finally, I confirmed! With my own eyes<"">

I saw their chat messages with a girl and guess what? I stalked the girl on facebook and I was frightened seeing her profile picture because the woman was in an older age and I guess shes at 40's and above.I don't know what should I feel at that moment,I dont want to confront him directly because I know he would deny it.

In the morning,I woke up early with a heavy heart because of what I learned that night before.preparing our meals acting like nothing happened.I was just in a silent mood and no reactions towards him everytime he talk.He is wondering why I am silent and no response on his talk.

Every time we had a misuderstanding,we talked about it and found the source of the arguments so that it will be resolved immediately.we are not like other couples saying bad words or destroying ourselves using social media.I am not a nagger nor bad mouth I am not like that coz I respect my family but it was different now, it involves cheating and this is not as easy on some problems we passed through.after three days he asked me why I was so silent for days. and then,I told him what I discovered about him and that woman on the messenger.

He said it was just for fun and nothing serious.we had an open chat and he explained everything. I just listened until he finish talking.I only respond to him that," As long as we are living in the same roof,All I ask from you is to respect me as a mother of your child Im just your partner not a wife you can do whatever you want and If this family could no longer your priority you are free to leave us". He asked me for forgiveness.

Final words,

As a partner,I am grateful to have this family and I know this was just a challenge that I need to experience to mold me for a better me in the future. nobody deserves to be cheated.respect your husband and wives and so the family you build dont waste it for a temporary happiness.At the end, you might be regretted the things being done.

Thanks for reading!

@maria_23

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