We as an individual have the ability to change and improve behaviors and emotions that we do not like. However, we cannot change the people in our environment. This is something we must keep in mind when dealing with toxic people. When we come across these types of people, we have two options: face them or simply avoid them.
Many of us are those who sometimes prefer to flee from toxic people, and I include myself since I went through a situation in my work where there were toxic people, such was the level of stress generated by those people, that the day they decided to leave they breathed a air of peace in the work environment. But when we have no other options to deal with these types of people, we have to find the smartest way to handle them.
How to help a toxic person?
We all need to be heard, to make us feel that they care about us and that at some point we have people who instead of criticizing us offer their help. In certain cases behind this “toxicity” there are defensive attitudes, the fear of being rejected and of loneliness. For this reason, we must be aware of the words that are not said. You have to have the perception to know how to grasp each of their words and discover what is hidden behind them, try to absorb their fears, worries, and thus offer them a slight relief that will help reduce their tensions.
Toxic people, in some cases, have had bad experiences that have led them to change their personality, turning them into “toxic”. Of course, this does not justify their aggressive attitude towards other people, so it is important to let them know that not everything around them is as gray as they think.
When we approach a toxic person, it is important to know the precise moment to advise them and choose the right words, since these are usually very sensitive and easily irritated.
We must have control of our emotions when we deal with toxic people, we can already experience psychological wear and tear which we must pay attention to. We have to be clear that we are masters of our emotions and that no one has the power to take away our joys and calm. Since it is never possible to put physical distance, it is best to put emotional distance, open our umbrella and protect ourselves.
In these cases it is recommended to have a cognitive empathy to have an emotional empathy, why this? Because cognitive empathy helps us understand the realities of others, without absorbing their emotions.
We can be surrounded by many toxic people. There are even times when we know how to treat them effectively. But we must be very careful that they do not affect our health. We must be careful with our food and recreation time.
When we try to give help to a toxic person, the most advisable thing is to advise them to attend a psychological. It must be taken into consideration that we may have good intentions, but we do not handle the necessary or adequate psychological tools to handle this pathology.
It is important not to pressure the person to attend the psychologist, but to take advantage of the moments when he recognizes that something is not working well to propose the idea. It is helpful to make him understand that the psychologist is a professional who can help him overcome some difficulties in life. Convincing a person to go to the psychologist is not an easy task, but the results are worth it.
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