Some say bad people have a mate with bad people, while good people must have a mate with good people too. However, that saying doesn't apply to Icha's love life at all. Icha is a good woman who sincerely loves her partner, but all her partners turn to hurt her. Why did Icha's fate be this unfortunate? She tried her best, but she was always hurt by the asshole. The population of good women who are unlucky like Icha is very large in this world. At first glance, they seemed to have no faults, as if they were victims of their bad relationship. However, Icha doesn't realize that by being a good woman, she always meets jerks. How can that be, huh?
There's nothing wrong with being a good woman like Icha, but Icha's kindness doesn't make her entitled to a perfect partner. Just like a good man who feels entitled to be loved by women because of his kindness. Because she feels good, Icha feels entitled to a partner who must meet her needs at all times. Icha demands that her partner always understand her.
Icha is never wrong. How could a woman as good as Icha do wrong to her partner? She always fulfills his partner's wishes, even though she wants to refuse. She does not dare to set boundaries because she does not want to hurt his partner. She hopes her partner can understand her without having to communicate his objections. She wants his partner to know that behind his smile, she is sad and angry. Icha's sacrifice was great, wasn't it?
Because she doesn't want to escalate the fight and hurt her partner, Icha deliberately keeps quiet and relents every time they fight! Because of his love, she did not have the heart to reprimand his partner when she did wrong to Icha. Icha deliberately relented and kept quiet because she didn't want her honesty to hurt her partner's heart. Whenever her partner expresses his concern, Icha always replies, "I'm fine," so that his partner understands she is hurt, but she can't say it. Without Icha knowing, she has tarnished his relationship with lies. Not because she doesn't want to hurt his partner, but because she's afraid of conflict and can't find a solution.
No doubt Icha sacrificed everything. From friends, hobbies, privacy, she sacrificed everything for the sake of the happiness of the couple. She feels his fragile heart has greater love than his partner, so she is sad that his greatness is always taken advantage of by jerks. Icha is just a woman with a big ego who thinks she doesn't have any flaws. His fragility makes her feel that she is always being trampled on by others. Sadly, Icha won't be aware of this, because how could a good woman like her have a fault?
Why does Icha often feel like she is a victim? Why can Icha never be honest and hope her partner can read the code? Because she measures his self-worth and happiness by how much his partner loves her, not how much she loves herself. She is afraid that if she is firm, her partner will leave her. Therefore, she is willing to give in and sacrifice even though she continues to be hurt. If Icha is soon unconscious and corrects herself, she will always be trapped in an abusive relationship where she feels not the least bit guilty.
If you don't want to have the same fate as Icha, don't look for a partner to make yourself worthy of love. Learn to appreciate and love yourself first. Be nice to yourself before being nice to others.