Another of my best friends is divorced. Harsh words are expressed by two people who used to love each other. The grudges of the past were lifted out, dissolving in blows and tears. The child, completely innocent, must be a witness and hold a wound to the heart.
Every time there is a wedding invitation, I am always amazed. In times like this, people still dare to get married? Let's take a look at the data. In 2020, perhaps also because of the pandemic, the number of divorces is increasing worldwide. In some places, the number of divorces has skyrocketed. Many couples who file for divorce using economic reasons as a basis for separation. There is no longer any family economic security. Husbands can no longer provide money to meet family needs. This happened because the government failed to provide social safety nets for its citizens affected by the pandemic crisis.
Although divorced, the urge to have children is still great. Until September 2020, the world's population has reached 7.8 billion people. The resources used to support their lifestyle are enormous. Not surprisingly, environmental problems are now one of the world's biggest problems.
Some Considerations
There are several considerations that I would like to make;
First, in the 21st century, don't get married, just because you follow tradition. Don't get married, just because of the coercion of parents, and social pressure from the environment. Getting married must be a decision made with common sense and a clear conscience. Everyone needs to feel love. Everyone has emotional and sexual needs. However, not everyone has to get married. Use common sense to understand the current state of the world, before deciding to get married.
Second, the decision to have children must also be common sense. Don't have children, just because you follow tradition. Do not have children, just because of environmental forces. Without common sense considerations, people will have children, but cannot properly care for and educate them. The child will suffer, and cause trouble for the wider community.
Adoption options are also open. Many children are neglected and needy families. It makes much more sense, and conscientious answer, if we adopt a child in need. This is a very good choice in today's times. However, once again it needs to be reminded, not everyone must have children. Don't follow coercive traditions. Don't follow teachings that are no longer out of date. Use common sense and conscience, before deciding to have children.
Third, getting married is not a guarantee of happiness. True happiness doesn't come from money, power, or relationships with other people. People must learn to find happiness within themselves, before starting a relationship, let alone getting married. Don't ever hope that the partner will give you happiness. It all ends in suffering and conflict.
Fourth, children are not an investment of parents. Don't ever hope, they will take care of us after we get old. They are not things to own. They are deposits of life that will fly to spread their wings. They will have their challenges. They will have their responsibilities. If they want to take care of us, it comes from their freedom, not out of a moral obligation. Remember, they never asked to be born !!
Use Common Sense
A Yogi from the Himalayas once said "human life is very short. It is like a drop of water that immediately disappears when it hits a river." Why is it complicated by getting married and having children? In a world with a population of 7.8 billion, and growing, this view holds profound truth.
However, everyone has the right to determine the course of his life. This also applies to marriage and having children. Whatever the choice, use common sense and a clear conscience to decide. Don't just do it, let alone blindly follow traditions. The stakes are too big.
Great one