"Conflicts left unresolved lead to bitterness, gossip, and anger."

—Source

Do you have a broken friendship that's left unresolved until now? Why do you think it never healed so? On times when we cannot help ourselves to rise up from falling, our friends are one of God's instruments who comfort and strengthen us amidst. Sometimes, they have been the reasons why we face some struggles too. Betrayals, envies, disappointments, and so on which are honestly hard to forgive especially when the wound is very deep.

Yet, carrying such burden in our lives everyday create a change that limits you to see the extraordinary beauty that lies beyond the world. Forgiving matters, but of course, it would take a lot of time. When you've hurt you're friend and badly wanted to fix your broken friendship, take a look below. These advices were from the huge book I found on my father's room. Sadly, the cover page is nowhere to be found as it looks old already.

What is the root of the conflict?

Fire would be impossible to happen if someone didn't take and lit the match. This doesn't mean that you'll assess whom to blame as it would ignite the fire. What I'm trying to imply is that if you know the reason behind your misunderstanding, you will able to sort out the right solution on your problem. Thus, it is really important to identify where did the problem come from. You may ask yourself wether you've told him or her unpleasant words that might have hurt the feelings or you hit the sensitive part. This may also include speaking to them harshly and neglecting their invitations due to some of your personal reasons. And lastly, is wether we've avoided them when they're in trouble.

"Too often we are willing to settle for an easy stand off, rather than to press through the painful process of honest confrontation and resolution."

—Source

Humble Yourself and Initiate Restoration

Even though we are hurt by someone or someone has hurt us, we are accordingly still responsible for restoring the broken friendship. Weird right? But this is what God wanted us to do.

"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."

—Matthew 5:23,24

Peace will surely come if we try to make things right and heal our friendships that are broken.

Do Restoration Quickly

The more the conflict is longer, the more it is harder to fix it. Thus, it would be best or let's say restoration is easiest in the early stage.

Go in an Attitude of Humility

One way of doing this is to look for a perfect timing wherein you guys can talk privately and nothing can stop you from discussing. Don't do it when both or maybe one of you has only a little time for such, leaving unresolved things hanging. On the other hand, it is important to make the decision ahead of time to bear full responsibility for the misunderstanding. Listening to what he or she is saying carefully would also make a great change. Show how much you've wanted to fix it. Ask for forgiveness without saying things like "ikaw kasi kaya ganito bla bla ganyan".

Avoid putting blame as you are there to build the friendship again.

Let Time Heal and Pray For Full Recovery

Trust and confidence take time to rebuild again, thus, let time do the process. Pray for it to workout as well as for our attitude to be better.

Thanks. Owe you big time! ♡

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