Every person in life has moments when difficulties will prevail, and hands seem to be about to fall. The stories of these amazingly strong people will help many of us understand that it is possible we can cope with any situation and in any life circumstances, the main thing is to believe in ourselves and in your own strength!
Nick Vuychich - A man without arms and without legs, stands on his own and teaches others
Nick was born in Melbourne (Australia) with a rare disease: he does not have both hands at shoulder level, and a small foot with two toes bent directly from the left thigh. Despite the lack of limbs, he focused on surfing and swimming, playing golf and football. Nick graduated from college, receiving a diploma in two majors simultaneously - accounting and financial planning. Now, anyone can approach his lecture, where Nick encourages people (especially young people) not to give up and believe in themselves, proving by his own example that even the impossible is possible.
Nando Parrado - Survivor after crash, 72 days waiting for help
The 72 days of cold captivity suffered Nando and other passengers who miraculously survived a massive plane crash. Before flying into the mountains (which, ironically, happened on Friday the 13th), the young people who boarded the charter plane joked about the incredible date, but they didn’t expect that on this day they would really going to have problems. The wing of the plane caught on the side of the mountain turned and he, having lost his balance, fell with a rock. When it hit the ground, 13 passengers were immediately killed, but 32 people survived, seriously injured. Survivors found themselves in conditions of extremely low temperatures, lack of water and food. They drank melting snow and they slept side by side so as not to freeze. Very little food that everyone did everything to find any living creature for a standard dinner. After 9 days of survival in conditions of extreme cold and hunger, the victims of the disaster decided to take extreme measures: in order to survive, they began to use the corpses of their comrades as food. So the group lasted another 2 weeks, at the end of which the hope of being saved was completely lost, and the radio transistor (sending signals for help) went wrong.
On the 60th day after the accident, Nando and two of his friends decided to go through the icy rescue for help. When they left, the crash site looked terrible-full of urine and the smell of death, which wiped away human bones and cartilage. Wearing 3 pairs of pants and a sweater, he overcame great distances with a friend. Their small group of saviors realized that they were the last hope for all who were still alive. The men firmly survived the fatigue and cold that followed them on their heels. On the 10th day of the trek, they still found a path to the foot of the mountain. There, they finally met a farmer in Chile, the first person of all that time, to immediately call the police for help. Parrado led the rescue team using a helicopter and found a crash site. As a result, on December 22, 1972 (after 72 days of a fierce struggle against death), only 8 passengers survived. After the plane crash, he lost half of his family, and in the crash he lost more than 40 kg of weight. Now he, like the previous hero of this article, speaks to the power of motivation in life to achieve goals.
Jessica Cox - First unarmed pilot.
Jessica Cox suffers from a rare birth defect and was born unarmed. None of the tests (passed by her mother during pregnancy) showed anything wrong with the girl. Despite her rare illness, the girl has tremendous strength. Now, as a young woman, Jessica can write, drive a car, comb her hair and talk on the phone. He managed to do it with the help of his legs. He also graduated from the Department of Psychology, dances the dance and owns a double black belt in taekwondo. In addition to all this, Jessica has a driver’s license, she flies an airplane and can print 25 words per minute. The plane, controlled by the girl, is called the "Ercoupe". It is one of the few models that is not equipped with pedals. Instead of the usual half -year, Jessica took a three -year airplane driving course, where she was trained by three highly qualified teachers. Today Jessica has over 89 hours of flying experience and became the first hands-free pilot in world history.
Sean Schwarner - Overcame lung cancer and visited the 7 highest peaks of 7 continents
The highest mountain in the world Everest is known for dangerous conditions for climbers, which are called: strong winds, lack of oxygen, snowstorms and deadly avalanches. Anyone who decides to conquer Everest faces incredible dangers at all. But for Sean Schwarner, as practice shows, barriers don’t exist. Sean at one time not only was cured of cancer, his case was truly considered a medical marvel. He was the only person in the world to survive a diagnosis of Hodgkin’s disease and Askin’s tumor. He was diagnosed with cancer in the fourth and final stages at the age of thirteen, and according to doctors ’forecasts, he should not live for three months. However, Sean miraculously overcame his illness, which soon returned when doctors discovered a tumor the size of a golf ball in his right lung. After a second operation to remove the tumor, the doctors decided that the patient would last no more than two weeks. However, ten years later, After conquering the highest point on the planet, Sean is full of desire and energy to persevere and inspire people around the world to fight against disease. You can learn about this and the other mountain climbs, his personal experience and ways to overcome pain in his book "Continuing to Grow: How I Defeated Cancer and Conquered All top of the world."
Patrick Henry Hughes - A blind cripple participating in Louisville Marching Band concerts
Patrick was a unique young man who was born without eyes and could not fully straighten his arms and legs, making his movement impossible. In addition, two rods were surgically attached to his spine to correct scoliosis, despite all these circumstances, he overcame his many physical problems and excelled as a student and musician. Patrick learned to play the piano and trumpet, and began singing as well. With his father’s help, he participated in concerts by marching bands at the Louisville University School of Music. A virtuoso piano player, vocalist and trumpet player, Patrick has won numerous contests and received awards for his strength of will and spirit, because of what it cost the young man to achieve it all. Many publications and television channels write and talk about him, because so much energy goes unnoticed.
Matt Fraser - A branded person whose illness did not prevent him from achieving success in show business
Englishman Mat was born with a serious illness - foci of both hands (underdevelopment or lack of limbs). This is due to the side effects of the drug “Thalidomide” prescribed to her mother during pregnancy. Unfortunately, this is far from the only case where imperfect medicine and the professional mistakes of doctors can ruin lives. Although Matt’s hands grow directly from the human body, and have no shoulders and arms, his physical disability has not prevented him from being a fully successful person. Fraser was not ashamed of his appearance, moreover, he often surprised the audience by speaking naked. Matt is not only a rock musician, but also a famous actor, whose role was brought to fame through the role of Stamp in the so -called series "American Horror Story: Circus Freaks." By the way, Fraser is far from the only actress in the series whose unusual look is not created using makeup or computer graphics. Fraser proved to many that for business show success it is not necessary to run to plastic surgeons, shredding your body to please fashion trends. The main thing: have the will, hard work and talent! 10.
Andrea Bocelli - A blind singer who has captured the hearts of millions with her voice
Andrea Bocelli is a famous singer from Italy. Rare musical abilities awakened in Andrea in early childhood, when she learned to play keyboards, saxophone and flute. Unfortunately, the boy developed glaucoma and nearly three dozen surgeries did not give the desired result. As you know, Italians are one of the countries that love football. It was this hobby that eventually removed the boy from his sight when (during the game) a soccer ball hit his head. Blindness did not prevent Andrea from studying: receiving a law degree, she continued her music education with Franco Corelli, one of the best opera singers in Italy. A talented young man attracted attention and began to invite her to various presentations. Soon, a young singer's career took off. Andrea became a popularizer of opera music, successfully combining it with a modern pop style. An angelic voice helped him to achieve success and fame in the world.
Gillian Mercado - A girl who gets the covers of stunning magazines despite a wheelchair
Few can boast of meeting the stringent requirements of the fashion world. Trying to get to the ranks of models, the girls exhaust themselves with diets and physical exercise. However, Gillian Mercado proved that you can love your body even if it is far from modern ideals of beauty. In early childhood, Mercado was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy - a horrible disease that caused Gillian to be confined to a wheelchair. It seems that the dreams of a haute couture world are not destined to come true. However, our heroine has managed to attract the attention of the founders of the Diesel brand. In 2015, he was offered a lucrative contract and often began to invite to various photo sessions. In 2016, she was invited to participate in a campaign for Beyoncé’s official website. Of course, no one was jealous of Gillian’s fate, as she was forced to go through every second illness. However, Mercado’s popularity helps girls accept themselves because they were created by nature. Thanks to strong personalities, you begin to appreciate in life the gifts we often give.
Esther Verger - Many champions with paralyzed legs
Esther was born in the Netherlands in 1981. From childhood, she loved sport, actively involved in swimming. However, during the physical exam, the girl often fell ill. Despite many studies, doctors for a long time could not make an accurate diagnosis of Esther. After a lot of bleeding in the brain, doctors finally identified Esther’s problem - vascular myelopathy. At 9 years old, the girl underwent a complex operation, which lasted about 10 hours. Unfortunately, the surgery further aggravated the baby’s condition, where both legs were paralyzed. The wheelchair did not stop Esther from continuing to exercise. He played basketball and volleyball, however, tennis brought tennis to him. Verger has been a Grand Slam champion 42 times. Esther’s hundreds of achievements have been a source of inspiration for people with disabilities who dream of a career in sports.
Although in 2013 the girl finally left professional sports, she continued to achieve success. Having received his education in sports management, Verger now holds the position of director of the international wheelchair tennis tournament, is a consultant to the Netherlands Paralympic team and gives lectures. In addition, he established a charitable foundation to help sick children play their favorite sport.
Peter Dinklage - Became the star of the screen despite the non-standard appearance
Peter is a vivid example of those who are able to succeed despite all obstacles in life. Dinklage is born with achondroplasia - a rare hereditary disease that results in the development of long bones. According to doctors, the cause of achondroplasia lies in mutations of the growth gene, leading to dwarfism. The boy’s family income was relatively small: his mother taught music, and his father (once an insurance agent) was unemployed. Far from the ugliest childhood shines performances in front of an audience with an older brother - a talented violinist. Usually, fame came to the actors early on, but the lucky star was lit for Peter only in 2003 (when Peter was 34 years old) after the release of the movie “Station Warden”. The not-so-good track record in the early years of his career was due to the actor’s reluctance to star in roles in which dwarves were usually involved. Peter flatly refused to play dwarves or leprosy. From 2011 to the present, Dinklage plays the role of Tyrion Lannister - one of the main characters in the most successful series of our time.
Michael Jay Fox - An actor, writer, and public figure that even Parkinson’s disease hasn’t stopped on the road to success
A Canadian in childbirth, Michael from a young age gained fame in Hollywood. The audience remembered him thanks to the role of Marty McFly in the cult series of films about time travel. The love of the whole world of fans, an amazing fortune (with a total of tens of millions of dollars)-many will envy it. That’s just Macle’s life seems cloudless. The actor was no more than 30 years old when he began to develop symptoms of Parkinson’s disease, although this disease usually occurs in old age. For a long time, Michael didn’t want to suffer the diagnosis: the frantic decline of the disease almost caused by a new problem - alcoholism. Fortunately, Fox (despite all the physical hardships caused by the tremor) continues to act in movies to this day, which strikes us with acting talent. It’s worth noting his participation in the “Lawyers in Boston” series, in which Michael played the Post Office - a wealthy man who broke the law in an effort to maintain his health. Today Michael (in addition to a career in film and writing) is actively involved in supporting people suffering from Parkinson’s disease. In the late 90s, he founded a public organization designed to study aspects of the disease and ways to combat it.
Stephen Hawking - A Paralyzed Genius Who Inspires Millions of People to Learn Science
Speaking of people who have done the impossible, one cannot mention the cultivation of modern science - Stephen Hawking. Stephen was born in 1942 in Oxford - the British city, known worldwide for one of the oldest universities. There we will study our genius later. The craving for science probably came from his parents, who worked at the medical center. During training (when Stephen was no more than 20 years old), he began to show serious health problems due to the development of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis. This disease causes damage to the central nervous system and leads to muscle atrophy, which can then cause complete paralysis. Unfortunately, existing medications only slow down the disease, but do not treat it. Hawking, contrary to the doctors ’attempts, had slowly lost the ability to control his own body and now he could barely move just one finger of his right hand. Luckily for Steven, the talents of the scientists paid off: thanks to the achievements of friends, For many people, a wheelchair becomes a curse that completely destroys the person and desire to do what they love. However, Hawking shows us that even a completely paralyzed person can gain impressive values, flash media headlines and build successful relationships in a personal presence. Stephen’s main achievement was his major contribution to modern physics and the advancement of science to the masses. Serious health problems did not deprive Stephen Hawking of a sense of humor: he loved to make science fiction comics and also appeared in the comedy series The Big Bang Theory, playing his role.
These amazing personalities have shown by their own example that infinite power lies in people. Man can survive the worst conditions. Willingness and perseverance will help fight disease and succeed. Science, sports, cinema, music, the world of fashion - all areas of activity will remain accessible under any circumstances. Do not curse fate for all adversity. Find the incentive to win and don’t give up. And maybe one day your path to success will motivate others! I don’t know what made us in our childhood, and how we got to overcome what was considered one of the important “chips” of nursing in the post-Soviet space. Overcome is put next to adaptation, stress tolerance, motivation and willpower. Although overcoming is more likely a path to building motivation, mood and stress resistance. In dictatorial explanations “overcome” is interpreted as “win”, “excess strength”, “achieve”, “succeed”. That is, we are talking about a kind of obstacle that often lies within ourselves, overcome where we achieve our goals, which means that it becomes one step higher in our continued self-improvement. Personal discomfort, laziness, lack of motivation, anxiety and fear, skepticism, physical or intellectual complexity of the task can be barriers. Facing these barriers, we become stronger, more flexible, more patient, more adaptable. Or, on the other hand, is it easy for a strong, flexible, motivated person to overcome any obstacle? I am interested in, and how much should the element of success be present in a child’s life? What qualities does he place and how to model such life situations? And in general, what is considered an overcoming?
My parents often turned to me, that the children had completely lost their motivation to go to school (training, music, etc.). When we begin to analyze the situation, it turns out, as an option, that the child is under the brunt of an overload for his age, which, purely physiologically, he does not achieve success within the framework within where he was placed. Moreover, in the view of the parents, the child must overcome this situation, cope, survive. For example, by gentle efforts to get the child into a prestigious gymnasium, they do not leave such schools - only on their feet forward, you have to endure at all costs.
The second option is that the child is forced to keep in constant contact with someone (teacher, trainer) who causes him or her fear or expresses irritation, rejecting the child. Naturally, the motivation for learning here tends to be zero. Again, parents see all of this as an occasion for the child to overcome their internal discomfort and adapt to the situation.
The third option is that the child does not have the skills for the type of activity he or she is forced to do to control his or her personality, or he or she expresses learning difficulties. Be it a school or a sports section, it puts him in a situation of chronic frustration. And let’s again, tireless parents, remember about overcoming: come, try, you can, you can handle it. Unfortunately, success stories fail, and the motivation again comes to the abyss. And what, the parent asks, to take him? Create comfortable greenhouse conditions for him? But life is not merciful, and he alone can not survive the conditions of fierce competition! Well while dad and mom are around, what happens next? No, better let her study now But one of the hallmarks of successful adaptation is the ability of a person to recover from a traumatic, unconscious or simply uncomfortable situation without providing reasons. Isn’t the creative change of reality, the search for one’s own path, one’s self-understanding and abilities and limitations not born of a million fascinating discoveries? How often are we, accustomed to transcend the irreducible, to endure what we do not have to endure, to humble ourselves where it is useless, we live in the captivity of strict principles, that it is "necessary", "we must "," and who is easy now ". But life can be easy. And what's most interesting-you don't have to pay for it, as supporters of the theory of overcoming difficulties think. Finding your place in life means overcoming the attitudes your parents and school laid out for you as a child, convincing you that you shouldn’t be, for example, a scientist or a singer or a successful man, because you don’t ... more that you haven’t learned to do.
But what exactly is the role of overcoming in personality development? Is it all empty? Of course not. Just overcoming ourselves every day, we feel a taste for expanding our abilities, a taste for growth and development, develop a sense of strength, excitement, confidence, motivation motivation . It is important to clearly understand what is going wrong for the child and how to do it well in a positive way.
Overcome must include a plus sign
This means that the child should not overcome conditions of chronic stress, for which the reward for him ... yes there is no reward. Behind the effort should always be joy, positive affirmation, recognition, attention of parents and, as a result, increased self -confidence and the development of motivation: the desire to repeat the pleasant experience - a bunch of " effort - joy "in the future. There are many examples of how this works in the literature. As a child, I was embarrassed to speak in front of the class, but when I first read my essay at all, the teacher and children liked it so much that since then this extinction in front of the audience has become the best feeling, and for its sake I wish to overcome myself again. There are restrictions in this story - my fear, overcome - reaching the public and positive reinforcement - recognition. As a result, my motivation to write texts has gained a breeding ground. And so it works in all areas. When you offer your child something to overcome, think about what awaits him in passing?
The child must be overcome
These elders are sometimes amazed at the power of thought and triumph of will, literally jumping above their heads. However, it seems, these adults have a strong experience of believing in themselves in childhood. Apparently, there was a mother nearby, a father who didn’t doubt them for a second. And the child ... his personality only grows and grows stronger, his motives fragile. When we set an extra task in front of him, we are guaranteed to dig his motivation into the ground. No, this does not mean that the child should only perform light activities. But the difficult thing he had to overcome could be done, somehow in theory. For example: many gymnasts overcome pain during twine stretching. A smart trainer will never stretch kids right away in the first months of training. The smartest - sometimes waits a year or more, he waits until the child has invented the beauty of this sport, begins to identify himself with other athletes, wants to be like them . Then he starts pulling the kids. First, the stretching will be meaningful for the child, he sees the purpose and is happy that everyone is close to it. Second, the pain from the stretch is tolerable, it can be endured. And gradually children begin to lift, through pain, at home-here, motivation to action. A short-distance trainer starts pulling the kids right away, in the early days, the kids cry and cry, the parents are careful about overcoming, the coach pulls painfully and in vain. As a result, it is unlikely that young children who have escaped from sports will, in principle, be willing to suffer even the slightest physical discomfort in the future.
Difficulties and hardships in life
Life’s difficulties are barriers to achieving a goal, requiring stress and effort to overcome them. Difficulties in poverty - contention. One difficulty is finding a bathroom if necessary, another difficulty remains alive. Usually people don’t like difficulties, but - some people meet some difficulties and even the disappointments that accompany them with joy. Difficult - not always unpleasant. A person can enjoy the difficulties of life when these difficulties and failures will open new opportunities for him, give him the opportunity to test his own strengths, the opportunity to learn, there will be new experiences.
A difficult psychological situation does not have to live with an unpleasant person and difficult experience. Strong people can always act. Everyone has a hard time in life, but it is absolutely not necessary to make unhappy or desperate eyes, to oneself or to others, to moan and describe. These are not natural experiences, but learned behavior and the bad habit of a person living.
The worst thing you can do is emerge in despair, apathy, hopelessness or hopelessness. Despair in Christianity is a mortal sin, and it is a dark experience in which weak people harm themselves in order to take revenge on life and those around them. To overcome the difficulties of life, one needs both mental and spiritual strength, women - the mental flexibility, and smart people show the same. Be strong and flexible!
If you see problems with difficulties you’ve experienced - you’re likely to feel resentment and anxiety - you can just solve it, how can you solve any problem: by analyzing the data and thinking how fast to reach the desired result. Usually, all that is needed is (to assemble yourself), to analyze the resources (to think about what or who can help), to think about the possibilities (solutions) and get started. Just put, turn your head and move in the right direction