Criticism is the most bold way of telling someone they need to get better at any type of subject and a good criticism will still include guidance. However, criticism is probably the hardest “lecture” you’ll ever need to listen to, especially if you’re not ready for it or surprised by it. This article explores the notion that only a few criticisms are worth getting on board and suggests that it’s important that you know the difference between good criticism provoked by unstructured emotional reactions. There is also a focus on how you can benefit from good criticism and learn to both accept and learn from it.
Be discovery. Not every person who offers a criticism is in the appropriate position to do so; in fact, some people criticize anything regardless of their own knowledge and skills, simply because they feel they are entitled or just arrogant or they overreact to themselves and assume they have expertise when they don’t. Then there are critics who lack an understanding of the facts but plow in all the same, criticizing your work, efforts or even yourself, based on their preferences as opposed to the facts. Discovering the critic without tools is an important part of protecting yourself from unhelpful and disrespectful criticism while still acknowledging valid and constructive criticism. The unknown critic has a problem with the details. When asked to clarify what they really mean, they continue to issue generalizations or simply giving faddish lines that the media or the majority say or something their neighbor’s father’s brother -in -law has twice deleted. once mentioned. They rely on opinion in the area of fact observation. A person’s opinion is just that - their opinion. It may be grounded and solid but it remains an opinion and you have a choice whether to learn or not from it. On the other hand, a realistic observation based on the knowledge and skill of the expert is something you can usually learn from and improve your skills if you are willing to listen to the basic facts revealed. Learn to distinguish between opinion and fact observation. They are rude and unforgiving in their way of delivery. They simply refuse to listen to your side of the matter and remain firmly embedded in their own preferences. A good critic will listen and be genuinely willing to change part or all of their criticism if they get the wrong end of the stick. A set-in-their-way, stick-in-the-mud critic is incapable of moving. (Which should tell you all about their worldview.) They give you unwanted advice along with criticisms, advice that they have no place to give. This advice can take the form of professional advice from someone completely lacking in professional or inside knowledge, anything from psychological, nutritional, legal, financial and health advice, all without a blink of eye on the accuracy of their understanding of the situation, their personal expertise or even the accuracy of their advice applied to the situation in question.
Listen to great critics and learn to dismiss nonsense in vain. The truth is that few good, deserving critics in any field or endeavor at any single time in history. Because this is what many people think they know more but do not have enough background knowledge, skills and expertise to truly criticize with accuracy. Moreover, a good critic not only understands what they are criticizing but they understand what motivates the creativity of people and people (or other efforts). As such, a good critic does not criticize to make them look good; a good critic wants to see the work or creation raised to the best of his ability, to push the creator as hard as the critic knows that the creator can push to perform, create, write, achieve, etc., in order to be the best. possible. A moderate or poor critic is often motivated by jealousy, personal incompetence, extremely irritable or angry and not interested in what the person is capable of criticizing. Instead, this kind of critic seeks to throw the tall poppy into his prime, trample it all over and run away with happy feelings better about themselves for the demolition of other people’s character. Who is a good critic? Partly, that depends on the field in which you are being criticized. Be a parent in rocket science, there will be someone known as a respected and trusted critic. Do an online search for great critics in your field and if you are an artist, writer, photographer, writer, business owner, sportsperson, manufacturer, inventor, scientist, programmer, teacher, librarian, whatever , there will be the words of people you admire and desire to live, while there will be those you identify as envious and debilitating types whose history is less remembered. HL Mencken once said that excessive criticism is “convincing”, so this trait of not being too serious is important to a good critic - the ability to recognize if they have misjudged and apologized. Add your own characteristics relevant to your field of endeavors and you will know when to trust and when to dismiss criticism directed in your direction.
Expect criticism.It doesn’t make sense to put yourself in the public realm and expect people to adore you and never say a negative word about you. Even if you are adorable and innocent as a kitten, someone will hate you just because they can and just because they are not where you are or doing what you do. And nobody is all rainbow-and-unicorns at any given time-everyone has moments of suspense where their less-than-attractive side slips. Face the fact that criticism will come to you - accept it and learn from it. Then let it roll right behind you. In other words, people criticize because it can and often is born into the depths of their own inadequacies and unfulfilled desires rather than being any real reflection of the matter. After all, aren’t there moments when you turn away from criticism to criticize yourself? At such a moment, you often recognize that it is the green eye or dreaming monster that is speaking and not your purposeful and thoughtful self. It doesn’t matter who you are, how popular you are or how minor your online presence is, once you’ve published yourself online, you’re open to criticism. When your art, filmmaking, writing, opinion, attitude, habit, or whatever is posted online, anyoneit can be criticized if there is a response button available and thankfully, they will do it! If you’re not ready for anyone to identify what they see as your errors, don’t submit your efforts online until you’re ready for this possibility. And be realistic-the internet is full of instant critics and “trolls”, people who criticize for the sport, for the sake of winding up with you and getting their daily dose of attention-seeking or leaking attention.
Accept the criticism that is important and accept it when you want to be the better you are .As outlined above, being sober will allow you to know when criticism really matters and come from someone whose words, beliefs, values and understanding are important to you. You’ll be motivated to learn from what they suggest and you’ll be keen to fix what they say doesn’t work from their perspective, all because you have good reason to change. This does not mean that you have to like or even care about such critics as a person but it does mean that you respect their criticism as something knowledgeable and full of guidance on where you should expand or improve. your skills, talents and efforts. Be careful not to confuse self-confidence with self- deception. Rejecting criticism from a respected and deserving critic can be a way of staying stuck with whatever you’re doing right now. Not acting on proper criticism can signal that you are comfortable with your current level (perhaps irrelevant) and don’t want to push or forcefully acknowledge a lack of skill or ability. Being overconfident about yourself in the face of shortcomings can hinder your progress and prevent talent blossoming or a necessary change of direction (even if that change means leaving a talent and working on another). Instead of being stubborn, learn to listen to the message behind a well -intentioned criticism. Talented people are often so sensitive to criticism that they think their talent goes to the heart and so there may be good reason for criticism. For example, a world class skier with natural talent may reject the need to train regularly, instead choosing to rely entirely on his or her talent; and then he was beaten by a skier with half his talent but training every day without fail. Failure to address the need to base talent on training is a common sin among many of us!
Find ways to stay calm inside . Criticism happens, no matter what you do in life but if you have the nature to hyperventilate, cry, lose anger or to give any other form of excessive emotional reaction, learn to comfort yourself to ride the ugliest here done Not being nice when someone tells you “oh, you’re too sensitive” because sensitivity is part of who we are and some of the greatest creators, inventors and leaders are very sensitive people. Ignore such thoughtless comment and instead focus on calming yourself. Some of the techniques that can help with this include: Deep breathing. Notice all the shallow breathing and make a conscious decision to change it to deep breathing. Inhale slowly. Breathe slowly. Repeat this mantra in your mind and copy your breath until you feel the calm go down. Use sound. The sound can be calm, like the sound of the ocean or a waterfall. Load sounds to your iPod or MP3 and you have an instant soothing mechanism no matter where you are when you meet criticism. Pinch or flick a part of yourself or find another habitual “deflection”. Make an agreement with yourself in advance that you will practice this particular habit of deflection until it becomes second nature, whenever someone says or does something to you in the form of criticism. It will then serve as a reminder that you will remain aware of the criticisms but not to do so personally or to indulge yourself as a result but allow yourself to pick only the cherry that matches helping you be better. A critic can be a scary character in your mind - and in reality. However, don’t give this person such power you ’re done . Respect them but realize that they are just another person either doing their job or expressing their opinions. If that doesn’t work, picture them hugging their children or pets, or if they don’t, doing other very normal, everyday things.
Reflects and responds at your convenience. Avoid making criticisms that seem to require immediate action. If you respond immediately, it may mean that you are overreacting or reacting badly. And in all reality, change requires patience and time. If you want to implement changes as a result of a trusted and valued comment about your work or yourself, then give yourself time and don’t rush the changes. Criticism is there to remind you of what you can work slowly in the future. Relax ... don’t let the criticisms rush you. It’s natural to feel cornered and anxious when there seem to be so many changes needed to improve your direction that you don’t know if you can manage them all. Calm yourself and separate it into small, recognizable steps. And check if everything in a comment needs addressing - there may be some aspects that you agree with while other aspects that you feel are nitpicking or misunderstanding and may be left aside. Prevent yourself from responding if you feel angry, sad, or hurt at someone’s criticism. Critics can boldly show how a person’s thinking is on the positive or negative side of something. If you feel upset as a result of criticizing someone, the best way to handle it is to not say anything until you have fixed your feelings. If it’s online, leave the post alone until you calm down, and if it’s in real life, just walk away until you settle down. One thing you don’t want is to throw your anger or self -pity at someone, only to feel regret later, and the person will get angry with you. Find ways to work through the comments to gather your response.Try to write an valued comment, especially where there seems to be a lot involved in the way of changes and new directions. Ask yourself what needs to be done, what is lacking according to criticism and what skills you may need to acquire to improve your work or self. Then ask yourself seemingly unskilled questions, such as: "Am I lacking in self -confidence?", "Am I lacking the ability to draw correctly to head size?" , "I lack the ability to restrain myself from over -talking?" After you ask yourself a question, think again and see if you agree or not. If you do, then the answer is yes, if no, then no.
Open the gift of criticism.If you’ve changed your view and seen criticism as a gift, you may be amazed at how this shift in perspective can change your approach to criticism. Whenever we feel “under attack”, our responses tend to be negative, defensive and we place barriers that filter out what we want to hear.Instead of looking at criticism as an attack, see good criticism as a gift of support, and be thankful that someone bothered to spend time reviewing or guiding you. They don’t care what you do but they have and they may have just told you the very thing about your job or about yourself that needs to work. If you're really lucky, they may even have given you guides to help you get there. Try to view it as just a bold interview with no cushioned words in it to distract from the pure message. Express appreciation to a critic. This step may surprise you but one of the greatest things you can do in life is to let other people know that they have helped you, especially where they helped to turn a better, more creative, more inspired one. and. Even if a critic prefers you to spend a few more moments around can be a great source of inspiration to nurture your true talents, so why not show some gratitude to that person - they can still grow a soft spot for your loyalty.
Realize that most people won’t take the time to accurately assess what you’re doing wrong in a way that’s both helpful and explanatory. When the critic does nothing but resent and implies “I can do more than that but I can’t be bothered”, then you have learned nothing. But when the critic has really pointed the way to improvement, you are blessed, not cursed. Someone who takes their time to enlighten you should be welcome.
Take a little criticism at a time. Do not unload the whole truck at once or you will think you will be crushed. Always ask if you don’t understand something in the criticism. Showing a willingness to learn and improve will go unnoticed. Be patient with anything that pertains to a criticism. It may be something that takes time to fully dissolve and work. When people like you or your work and people disagree with something, it’s more likely to be true. Create for people who like what you do and criticize in ways that will help you achieve your vision. Not those who try to change your original intent. Critics are there to help you; this is the iron rule managing criticisms. If anyone who criticizes you fails to be an expert on usefulness, or has no respect for your work and fails to show ways to be better, then this is not a criticism but an attempt to drop the tall poppy. Having a knowledge of what a good The critic will certainly say in the circumstances is a useful way to overthrow any moderate critic who seeks to criticize but overly misses. You can always come back with something like: "So, if Mark Twain said that, I believed and acted on it." (With the implication that: “You’re not Mark Twain, so what do you know?)
Criticisms can be a severe hit on a sensitive person. So if you are not ready, take some time to prepare first. Also realize that sometimes it can only hurt and you will need to figure out ways to look beyond the hurt and figure out what you can do from the criticism.