To All the Man Who Still Believes in Love
July 16, 2021
The world has always been cruel and unfair to you at some point. There are a lot of challenges you once ran away from, but you have always been trying your best to stay tough like a real man. Countless nightmares have appeared right before your eyes. Something unknown also scares your "manly" soul. What is it? Responsibilities? Expectations? Roles? Maybe no, but mostly yes. Often times, you have left nothing to rely on but yourself, and living in a society where men are expected to be looking tougher than women seems to be suffocating, right?
Now hear me out. Up until now, you are doing great. You are doing just fine. You are trying your best. If not, you'll definitely feel something is off from what you do with your life. You, all of you, men... you are also allowed to be soft. You are allowed to feel scared of certain circumstances that may appear in your life. You are allowed to cry your hearts out. You are allowed to feel bad for something you know you have done wrong. You are allowed to scream and release your buckets of emotion, and you are definitely allowed to love someone the way you want it to work for the both of you.
Liking a man, in my case, who has been in so many struggles and challenges in his life, I really thought I was falling in love with the wrong person (again). He has been broken for so many times that I thought I was not welcome to be liked again. I thought I was not welcome at all but little did I know, I ended up becoming his little hope. His hope to love again genuinely. His hope to finally settle for someone like me. Now we're both happy and contented with what we have as partners. I never really imagined myself being loved again by a man I never thought to be believing in love at all.
This is to all the man who still believes in love... in real and genuine love.
If you feel like knowing someone makes you start to build the best future where you want the both of you to be together in, chase it. Go for it. You have all your time to build yourself into someone you want yourself to be... to be someone worthy of something like 'love'. You are worth it, as a person and as a man. Love means taking risks, and risking without starting means nothing at all. What is the point of loving if you can't risk something in return?
If you think you'll end up being miserable for so long without her, go find and tell her. You have all what you got as long as you know you love her the way who she is. Love can make any possibilities real. Anything is possible as long as you have the faith that everything will go as what God has planned for you to become. Trust the process, continue the patience and never take your partner for granted.
If you think your current relationship is crumbling into pieces, go take another shot and win her heart again. It's never too late to take the chance and rebuild something that is still waiting to be rebuild. Loving without forgiving just means there is no love at all. Every relationship is imperfect, nothing and no one in this world is perfect. Mistakes may lead us into doubting and fighting but it also slowly builds a stronger foundation into loving someone especially when you forgive and learn from your past mistakes. Of course, asking for forgiveness without changing your bad habit can turn your relationship into turmoils and that is pretty dangerous.
We are used to seeing men looking tough all over the place, but real men are actually soft inside. They are more emotional than what you think they are, especially when they fall hard in love. They are also actually very realistic when they get to finally settle for the woman they want to have in their lives. You think women are creative enough about their future with their partners? Wait until you fall in love with the man who is sure about you. You may be (or not) surprised by this, but men are very good at paint their future family inside their heads. They are broad-thinkers but they are very persistent on what they want their lives to be when they finally want someone to be a part of it. Men are tough for some time, but men who are madly in love will naturally feel soft for the people they love. Men tend to go hard on themselves as they feel a heavy responsibility as the man and the natural provider in the relationship but it takes also a lot of courage to be a strong woman who can make this kind of man feel secured and comfortable without doing too much effort, at the same time.
