Relationship Issues? How to Solve?

There are many kinds of relationships in this world; as well as issues. Relationship is when two or more people, objects or concepts are connected to each other in different aspects. Aspects such as Personally, Emotionally, Professionally, or even Spiritually. When we heard the word "Relationship", 99% of us, people, may think that it is between man and woman. Maybe Husband and Wife or Boyfriend and Girlfriend. That's quite correct, but don't we ever forget the intances that we can have a relationship with our parents and siblings by blood. We can also have a Personal Relationship with our friends. Professional Relationship with our officemate or co-worker. And a Spiritual Relationship with our God. Don't be lock up with the thinking that relationships can only be done by love partners such as Husband and Wife or Boyfriend and Girlfriend. In fact you can have a good relationship by anyone as long an you have connections with each other.

The more we have relationships and the longer our relationship with anyone is, the more issues and struggles we may face. I'm not saying that you would stop those good relationships that you have for you to get rid of the problems. Remember that you also have a relationship with yourself, and your life is made up "with" and "by" struggles. That's our life builder and strenghtener. I'm not scaring you to the issues and struggles that you may encounter when you enter a relationship, I'm actually giving you tips on how to get through from relationship issues. So, don't be afraid.

Today I will give you three (3) steps on how to resolve relationship issues and we can only do that through communications. Communication is a must for everyone and for everything though. Through communication we can understand one's side, feelings and even their life. And through communication we were able to say and express our self. Here's the initials "QSS". ( One Q and double S).

1. Quick to listen - Before the anger can consume the most of ourselves, we must learn how to calm down and listen. I know it's hard to remain calm when our temper is on it's high, but high temper and anger won't bring any good especially when we have a conflict with someone. Listen quickly and carefully before you blown-out. There are times that the issues we face was just a small one but because of anger it becomes a quite big. When you feel that the temper are starting to reach its level; calm yourself, collect your nuts together, shut your mouth and listen. Sometimes we became angry to the things that are just misleading us. We can say the words that we didn't even mean to say. When we are angry, the word "akala" and tamang hinala" feeds our minds and emotions. That's one of the hindrances to our sense of hearing. So we better listen to lessen those "akala" and "tamang hinala" words.

2. Slow to Speak - Think before you speak, we must think first before we could let the words come out to our mouth. I remember one topic on the bible, in the book of Revelations; it says there that our tongue is the only part of our body that may help us in producing sounds and words. At some point, our tongue is like a fire that can destroy the entire forest. Just like us, simple words from others can immediately encourage our discourage us, even if they mean it or not. It can affect our feelings, thinkings, and even our daily lifestyle. So now, we should be careful on what we are going to say and how we are going to speak. It may affect a lot on someone, coz we didn't know what everyone's going through right now. Breathing in and breathing out before speaking may help us. Have a try.

3. Slow to Anger - When you already hear the side of others, and you slowly/calmly stated your side, you can feel that the heavy load inside you was quite lighten up. It's better to know and realize the reasons, as well the true roots behind the quarrel first and stating each others sides and opinions before pouring a fire in your anger. It would only give you no help. Anger will makes us non-sense, so you better not let your anger consume you.

The best formula for every relationship is communication over indignation. Add trust and listening. Subrtact the pride and speaking. Multiply understanding and love. And Divide the anger and hate. We must accept and understand everyone's flaws because for sure, you have yours too.

Other people says that it's easy to forgive but not to forget. Maybe it was somehow true. But as for me if you really love someone, whatever he/she did it wouldn't affect or even lessen the love you had for him/her. Infact, if you truly love someone, your love can cover up all the flaws that your partner has. Remember this my dear, "There's no greater thing that we can do in this world, other that to love. Jesus accepts everything about you and He truly loves you.