Although the first relationship we establish in our life is with ourselves, the next ones are always around us. The greatest criterion, from our mood to our quality of life, is the solid relationships we establish with our environment. The stronger those relationships are, the more protected and stronger we feel towards life. But the formula for establishing long-lasting relationships, both in bilateral relations and with our social environment, is to change ourselves, our perspective and our behavior.
1. Recognize that everyone, including you, can have flaws
This acknowledgment allows you to be receptive to the mistakes of your friends or people around you. Knowing that there are people who understand and accept them as they are in the face of their mistakes, since being understood and accepted is the most important thing people expect from the other side; It is the beginning of solid friendships. Sentences that begin with criticism or "if it were me" may make the other party feel inadequate rather than bonding.
2. Set aside your filters
Share your failures as well as your successes. Showing only your strength to people can make them feel weak. However, due to the nature of life, good things can happen to people as well as bad things. Sharing these moments with your friends as well as your joys, discovering common feelings and supporting each other is good for you and at the same time, it will enable you to establish a deeper relationship with the other party. The gathering of people who experience similar events will connect both sides with invisible ties.
3. Avoid lying
The foundation of long-standing friendships; whatever happens, it passes through sharing the truth. A relationship based on trust is the guarantee of a friendship that will last for years. Unrealistic relationships that contain lies will succumb to time and may let you down in an unexpected moment. For this reason, if you want to establish a relationship that spans time, avoid lying carefully. If there is a situation that you cannot share with him, it is better to keep it to yourself than to resort to lies. The more effort it takes to create the sense of trust built over time, the easier it is to lose.
4. Support in difficult times
Just to listen sincerely; Being with your friend in difficult times and giving the love and support he / she needs is perhaps the biggest investment you will make in your relationship. Over the years it will not be forgotten. The other party will feel safe and put you in a separate, deep place in their life. Supporting in difficult times is both the cause and the result of solid and long-lasting relationships. Knowing the existence of people who support him, while trying to both understand and overcome the events he encounters in life, will make him more courageous in the way of dealing with events.
5. Show your love
Perhaps one of the biggest awareness that Covid 19 and the year 2020 we left behind brought to our lives was "to show our love while there is time". In this period when we painfully experience that we are not certain a minute later, it was perhaps our greatest inner achievement to tell, show or make people who are important to us feel our feelings. As unsound relationships collapsed, we kept the ones that really mattered to us in our lives. We sent flowers to the friends we couldn't be with on their special days… Or we listened to each other's troubles through video calls. We carefully healed our invisible wounds. If you haven't done these yet, you won't be too late. Since deep friendships and long-term relationships are values that extend over time but add meaning to our lives, right now is the time to start showing your love.
Another question for us, then, how much do we enjoy being able to sleep healthier in our bed every night and hug that person we love or continue our curious book? In our act of drinking coffee, which has been given us (!) Over and over again, how much can we enjoy being able to look at the same beautiful view one more day in front of the same window and drink another sip of our warm coffee?
Remember, when you connect happiness to being loved rather than goals and to strive for it, you will discover how it is a great lightness to live life with strong relationships that give you confidence and peace.
Sir, I am very happy. Wherever I go, I meet beautiful people. How everything has changed.
No You have changed.
Nice post sir, go ahead.